Re: is motherhood everything you'd thought it'd be?

NO
it's been an amazing roller coaster and totally ever-changing! in the beginning the feelings and experiences of motherhood were so different than they are today 22 months later. i am utterly amazed at how challenging but how rewarding motherhood is. truly amazing. i didn't know it would be so hard but i didn't know i could love someone so much too!

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Re: is motherhood everything you'd thought it'd be?

The first year was way harder than I ever imagined it would be. EVER. But quite honestly, a lot of things have been easier than I ever thought they'd be. So, like, in general, the overall getting used to being a mom was harder than I thought, but specific things like getting her to sleep through the night or potty training have been easier than I thought they'd be. Does that make sense?

Re: is motherhood everything you'd thought it'd be?

yes, and much more... some days it's so challenging it brings me to tears, and some days it's beyond amazing, it brings me to tears. It's a roller coaster ride that I cherish every single second of it

Re: is motherhood everything you'd thought it'd be?

Posted by smdl

Your question:

is motherhood everything you'd thought it'd be?

My answer: Heck no!!!!

Re: is motherhood everything you'd thought it'd be?

Much greater and much harder. It honestly doesn't get easier than when they are in your safe little world. My kids are still small - my oldest is only 6 1/2 - but even so, I want to snatch them back and keep them safe from any pain or suffering, major or minor. Real or imagined. At the end of the day (most days), the amazing part outweighs the hard part.

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I thought it would be harder.

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Absolutely not, in both good and bad ways.

The love I feel for DS is so much more than I can ever imagine being capable of.

There is NOTHING I can compare or describe it to. It is so overwhelming it brings me to tears.

BUT, as hard as everyone told me it was going to be, and how you will never be your own top priority, the truth of it is so much harder than what I imagined. The lack of freedom, sleep deprivation, and no more me time is definitely more than I was prepared for.

Re: is motherhood everything you'd thought it'd be?

Posted by pickles16

Posted by Bridex100

I thought it would be a lot harder. I think because I thought it would be so difficult, it's not nearly as bad as I thought it would be.

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Yup me too, I heard horror stories and thankfully I was blessed with a relatively easy baby...who knows whats in store for me for the next one though

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I didn't realize the sacrifices I would have to make...and that I would so freely make them.

I didn't realize just how hard it would be to function without sleep...and once there I didn't believe I would be able to function...but I did and do.

I didn't realize that all that I had accomplished in my life up until that point would not hold a candle to the accomplishments I made and make as a mom...I didn't think that getting my baby through the stomach virus would be among my proudest moments (that was when I realized I am mom..I make things better...I CAN do this).

There is a lot I didn't realize...a lot I didn't think motherhood would be...but I always knew I would love this little boy more than anything...that I would be the best mom that I could be and that this would be the most rewarding job I ever filled.

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In the beginning it was harder than I ever imagined (for some reason I thought It would be easier & I did not know I would worry so much) but it is 10,00000000 more rewarding than I ever would imagined ~ The love I have for my son is a love I never thought I could ever have! It is amazing & everyday it is more and more rewarding!!! (we are so lucky & blessed to have a great baby)

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For me having a NB was so much easier than I thought. I was prepared for the worse and jsut got a very easy NB.

Toddler-hood is harder than I thought only with my own patience. I am not used to not even being able to pee by myself yet

But my DS is more amazing that I was prepared for, his personality is more endearing than I expected, adn I love him in a way I never knew was possible!

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I did think it would be easier. I thought I could handle being away from her better. And I had no idea how much I would worry, or how much my heart aches when she is sick. Or all of the countless other concerns I have for her.

But I also didn't know just how much I would love her!!! My life went from being all about me and what I needed, to being 100% about her. And I wouldn't want it any other way.

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Posted by wannabemom

I was pretty spot-on.... my gut said that sleep and a clean home would soon be a faint memory..... and I was right...

But I love my little baguette so much He's worth all of it and more....

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So much more awesome than I expected. Had no idea I would love motherhood so much.

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I'm almost scared to answer this question, because my answer is going to be a little different than all the others...

I pictured motherhood a certain way...and I honestly feel I've been cheated so far. PLEASE don't misunderstand me--I love DD more than life itself and nothing makes me melt more than to see her smile. But at times, it's almost like someone is watching, pointing and laughing.

I wasn't able to hold my daughter for the first 2 months of her life. My DH would place her on the bed next to me so we could "bond", and that helped, but because of my back injury and subsequent surgery, I was not allowed to lift her. If DH was on a conference call and she's start crying in her swing, there was literally NOTHING I could do. I wasn't allowed to sit upright, so I couldn't sit next to her and try and comfort her. All I could do was stand there and cry with her.

Then, just when my back was finally getting better, and I was finally able to get out and get my life back, I started getting these strange fevers--up to 103 every day. That's when they diagnosed me with a kidney infection that has taken 2+ weeks to clear up. They put me on a med. that prevents me from BF, and worst of all, the infection is really fighting, I'm still getting the fevers and just getting her dressed makes me so tired that I need to lay down.

So I guess my answer is...DD is everything and SO MUCH MORE than I thought she'd be...I just wish I could catch a break, you know?

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Posted by lehcar

The first year was way harder than I ever imagined it would be. EVER. But quite honestly, a lot of things have been easier than I ever thought they'd be. So, like, in general, the overall getting used to being a mom was harder than I thought, but specific things like getting her to sleep through the night or potty training have been easier than I thought they'd be. Does that make sense?

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I'm sorry, Beth... I hope you catch a break, too! That must be really maddening.

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Motherhood is more than I ever expected it to be on so many levels. I have never appreciated children, other people, or myself, or even life in general more than I do right now. It can be challenging at times, but I honesty barely remeber those times. I love my life right now (ironic, seeing how right now is the hardest time I have been going through on a FEW different levels, thus far), I love my Dh on possibly a different level, and I love my DS more than words can express. I am more patient, more open minded and more caring, over all. I can honestly say that my DS has made me a better person - the person I always *knew* I could be, but never *believed* I would be. It is honestly like nothing I have ever imagined and I would never trade one single second for all the riches in the world.

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It's hard in different ways then what I expected.

The first 2-3 weeks was weird. I don't know if it was hormones, pain killers, or changes, but it was NOTHING of the bliss I expected to experience. I didn't have that "from the moment you see her" thing and I thought something was wrong. But as time went on...

I am fine about waking in the night and other things like that (Simply because I would do anything for her). Also, getting into routines is easier than I thought.

On the flip side- I never imagined that I would go from an independant, confident, strong minded, and strong willed person to someone who wavers over every little decision, second guesses myself on a daily basis, and feels the need to turn to an amazing online community as much as I have for advice and support.

I just want to be the best mom I can be and raise her the best I can.

I love mommyhood more than I thought I could!!!!!!!!!!!! Sydnie rocks!

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Posted by Jen2999

It's even better (and harder) than I ever expected!

Re: is motherhood everything you'd thought it'd be?

the first few weeks were tougher than I thought they would be.

Once we got past that point with both DC it has become more rewarding than I ever dreamed it could be. I couldnt picture life without them now. I still look at them and get amazed that they grew inside of me.

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It is.

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No...its much much much MORE!!!



Its harder in the sense that I had NO IDEA that it would physically HURT to see my child cry.

Or that I would feel empty every time we'd have to part..

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I am the most controlling person and bossy. Textbook type A.

My little BFF stops breathing on a dime. Caused by crying, wind, rain, someone sneezes next to him....I coach myself all the time that kids rarely ever die from asthma...but I feel envious of those who never have to remind themselves that their kid will live through today at the park.

I know some have it way more worse...my heart breaks for them everytime we are done dealing with an attack.

God knew what he was doing by giving me the passion to be a SAHM at all costs. As much as I loved working and loved my job...something in me knew it was SAHM or bust. Which worked out perfectly since no employer would ever put up with the amount of sick time I would have to take.

But my baby, who told me last week he is no longer a baby, just Josh...is the coolest kid. He is my joy.