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I'm so sorry they are being like that to you. That is CR*P!!! My SIL has given us a little hassle- but not in a mean way and if she did I would tell her where she could shove it.
Don't let them ruin your time for you.

Too bad they are going to miss such a special thing because they are being such jerks about it!

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Posted by 1stimemom

Sorry they are being so crappy, Tara! Just to pizz them off, I would tell them when you get home tomorrow, that you decided to find out, but since they didn't bother to come, you won't bother to tell them

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I'm sorry. Your mother is out of control. How dare she try to dictate such a personal decision. This is the biggest surprise of YOUR life - it's not about her. Uggh. How hurtful that's she's not respecting you.

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I'm sorry for you. I can't imagine my mom and grandma treating me like this.

Talk about being selfish.

I am not finding out either, lots of friends and relatives are annoyed by it, but that's their problem.

As for the registry, I created a registry that has plenty of things on it for gender neutral. They really need to sit back, relax, and shut up.

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Im so sorry they made you feel that way. You are right!! Your baby and its your choice!! The nerve of them to say they wouldn't go to the appointment unless they know the sex and to tell you that you are being difficult!! Im so sorry you had to go through that. I hope they know how they made you feel and how b*tchy they were to you!!

Some for you!!

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I am so sorry they are putting you through this

I can only imagine what they are going to do once the baby is born

Why is it okay that they didn't know the sex of the baby before it was born but you can't have that same experience? Because the testing wasn't available? BALONEY - your child - YOUR DECISION. End of sentence and you owe no explanations to anyone.

As harsh as it sounds, they are the ones missing out here and trying to torment you and use guilt to give in to what you & DH want is not the best way for them to go about this. Let them know they are more than welcome to join you but you are not going to discuss finding out the sex. And I would even make sure to let the tech know your wishes even before you get on the table, regardless of who is going with you. Some people know what to look for and they will try

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They're being absolutely ridiculous. We didn't find out and I got plenty of gifts at my shower. It was nice that got a lot of registry gifts and very few clothes (except from my mom who bought a bunch of gender neutral stuff). Once DS was born, we got lots of boy gifts and blue clothes.

I can't believe how rude your family is being. Hang in there. It's totally worth the wait.

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It is disgusting how they are trying to manipulate you. I;m sorry you are going through this. Hold your ground.

Good luck tomorrow! Have fun anyway.

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stick to your decision, its your baby. once the baby is born everyone will know the sex..

and going gender neutral registering is great because then you have the option of reusing things for the second baby if you decide to have one

- some people get crazy durring pregnancy.. when i got pregnant and was due in December- my mom told me i was "selfish" for having my baby be born in the winter durring cold season...

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you poor thing....my family is unsupportive too but not that bad in terms of my decisions - they could care less! I can't imagine ever doing this to my dc, so don't let it get to you....you are going to have such a wonderful surprise in a few months...it will be worth all the aggravation!!!!good for you for sticking to your guns!!!lots of

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ugh Tara I hate that they're putting you through this!!!

Tell them to go s-ck on a fat one! I loved that thread!

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I am so sorry that they are making you feel this way.

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I'm so sorry that they are treating you like this.

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I don't blame them for feeling disappointed if they're really dying to know the gender, but I can't believe they would take it to such a nasty level. I would think your grandmother visiting from FL would do anything in order to see her great-grandchild's sonogram! It sounds like they are really trying to manipulate you, and that is terrible.

I think you are doing the right thing sticking by your decision. Do not allow them to manipulate you. It's your baby and your decision, and they can shove it if they don't like it! Sorry your mom and grandmother are being so awful to you. They should be ashamed of their behavior.

Also, we're finding it pretty easy to register for gender neutral items. We prefer neutral things so we can reuse them with future kids. It's really not a problem, and I think it's just another way they are trying to manipulate you into finding out.

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Have fun seeing Baby S today and let me know how it goes. You have total right to be peeved-this is your child, and you have the right not to be pressured into finding out the sex by your mother and grandmother. I would calmly tell them that your feelings are hurt and as an adult and mother to be, this is yours and DH's personal decision, and it should be honored and that it really breaks your heart that they won't come to the sono because you won't find out the sex. Guilt is a good mechanism babe!

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Posted by Ophelia

I wouldn't invite them to another thing.

they have no right to do that to you. it's selfish and mean.

this is partially why I have gone to every appt ALONE. I don't want to deal with anyone's ish. I don't want them asking questions.

I'm sorry. I think being pregnant is EXCEEDINGLY personal. sure, we can share certain things, but in the end, only 2 people made this child. only 2 people get to say whats what.

don't let them get to you. tell them to stuff it. seriously.

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Wow, that is really selfish of them...and then to kind of tag team up against you is pretty mean.

Stand your ground, its your baby and your family you're starting

Sorry they're putting you through this

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this is really a sad post.. all i can say is i am sorry and here are a million coming your way.. i am speachless..

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