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Otherme
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kind of weird dinner experience
so, a friend at work this morning told me about her interesting dinner experience last night..
she went out for a birthday dinner for a friend at a restaurant, there were about 25 people there. At the end, everyone threw in cash for the bill (my friend said she assumed they were all paying for the bday girl and threw in extra for her).
My co-worker happened to notice that the birthday girl and her boyfriend were having some words at the end of the table, so she went over to ask what was wrong.
Turns out the boyfriend had secretly paid for the bill with his credit card, and had then handed all the collected cash to his GF and said 'here you go, happy birthday'.
But he did this all secretly, so no one at the table knew he did it. They all thought they were paying for their meal and a portion of the birthday girls, but in actuality, they were just giving her cash.
The GF was feeling really awkward about it because she didn't want to make a scene with her BF so she ended up keeping the money and not telling anyone about it. It was around $600 btw..
bizarre no?
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DRMom
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Ummm he probably shouldn't have given it to her at the table but I have collected cash and then put a bill on my CC so Ihave cash or because of points or whatever so I don't think its THAT weird...
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| Posted 10/29/09 10:52 AM |
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neener1211
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
I think bizarre yes.
The money should go back to the 'guests' if he was treating everyone.
If he was just putting the whole bill on his cc and taking the money to pay it off that would have been more normal.
I don't know, kinda weird situation.
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| Posted 10/29/09 10:53 AM |
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Ultra bizarre..it depends though what happens to that cash. If it gets applied to the credit card then it's fine.
There was another thread around this kind of thing a few weeks ago.
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| Posted 10/29/09 10:54 AM |
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Otherme
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Posted by DRMom
Ummm he probably shouldn't have given it to her at the table but I have collected cash and then put a bill on my CC so Ihave cash or because of points or whatever so I don't think its THAT weird...
oh no.. that's not what's weird. I've done that too.
What's weird is that he handed the cash to his GF and said 'happy birthday'
So basically everyone just contributed to giving her a cash present, but they didn't know it. they thought they were paying for a meal.
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| Posted 10/29/09 11:04 AM |
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Phyl
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Posted by Otherme
Posted by DRMom
Ummm he probably shouldn't have given it to her at the table but I have collected cash and then put a bill on my CC so Ihave cash or because of points or whatever so I don't think its THAT weird...
oh no.. that's not what's weird. I've done that too.
What's weird is that he handed the cash to his GF and said 'happy birthday'
So basically everyone just contributed to giving her a cash present, but they didn't know it. they thought they were paying for a meal.
They did pitch in for the meal. The bf just decided to keep the cash and charge it on his CC. No big deal. He used the meal $$ as his personal ATM that's all. Strange or tacky to hand his gf a gift like that but to each his own!
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| Posted 10/29/09 11:07 AM |
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vicky1125
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
for me it wouldnt be weird but we dont do it like that exactly. we treat bday's at restaurants like a wedding. basically the host pays the bill but everyone usually brings an envelope as a gift.
the only time we dont do that is with friends who aren't russian.
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| Posted 10/29/09 11:09 AM |
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Aries14
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
I don't think it would bother me... I mean, if I was expecting to pay for dinner anyway, what's the difference in him giving her cash himself and him putting the dinner on his credit card and giving her the cash he collected? I think it's sweet and would have no problem with the bf paying for the dinner and handing her the cash.... either way it is his money at that point bc he paid the bill and the guests expected to pay their own way.
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| Posted 10/29/09 11:09 AM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
nah.... it was his money to give her... he paid for the dinner and the money everyone threw in paid him BACK...
It's not different than if everyone paid for themselves and THEN he gave her 600.00 right?
strange that he did it AT the table...
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| Posted 10/29/09 11:09 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Weird as well.
I think he just doesn't have much tact in giving it to her at the table -- that was kind of shady.
As a guest, I think I would feel a little slighted....I'm not sure why...can't explain it...almost like I was duped or something so he could give her cash as a gift. I wouldn't like that. But that's just me.
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| Posted 10/29/09 11:12 AM |
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Posted by Phyl
Posted by Otherme
Posted by DRMom
Ummm he probably shouldn't have given it to her at the table but I have collected cash and then put a bill on my CC so Ihave cash or because of points or whatever so I don't think its THAT weird...
oh no.. that's not what's weird. I've done that too.
What's weird is that he handed the cash to his GF and said 'happy birthday'
So basically everyone just contributed to giving her a cash present, but they didn't know it. they thought they were paying for a meal.
They did pitch in for the meal. The bf just decided to keep the cash and charge it on his CC. No big deal. He used the meal $$ as his personal ATM that's all. Strange or tacky to hand his gf a gift like that but to each his own!
That's how I am looking at it. It would have been nicer if he gave it to her later - that's part that I think is really weird.
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| Posted 10/29/09 11:16 AM |
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MrsList
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Why wouldn't he just buy her a $600 gift and then use the cash to pay off the credit card?
I don't know - if I were the gf it would bother me because it seems so lazy on the bf's part. If my DH just threw some cash at me for my birthday I wouldn't be happy. And what if only 10 people showed up to dinner? Would she have only gotten a $300 gift?
If I were a guest, I wouldn't care except that my friend has a tool of a bf.
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| Posted 10/29/09 11:24 AM |
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
I think its only weird because he did it at the table and it almost sounds like a spur of the moment thing- like oh I forgot to get her a gift and I dont have a card or any cash, so I'll just charge dinner and give her the cash.
Personally, I would rather dh buy me a gift- thats half the fun for me at least!
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| Posted 10/29/09 11:25 AM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Posted by MrsList
Why wouldn't he just buy her a $600 gift and then use the cash to pay off the credit card?
I don't know - if I were the gf it would bother me because it seems so lazy on the bf's part. If my DH just threw some cash at me for my birthday I wouldn't be happy. And what if only 10 people showed up to dinner? Would she have only gotten a $300 gift?
If I were a guest, I wouldn't care except that my friend has a tool of a bf.
exactly.
it was strange of him to do it at the table - and i think i feel the worst for the girlfriend.
It IS kind of strange how he pulled it off. Like, if he went home and used the cash to pay off his cc bill AND THEN had a seperate pile of cash to give the GF - that would be okay to me, even though it is essentially the same thing. But the way he did it is strange and pretty damn lazy.
Happy Birthday Honey! Here is $654.23 that I just collected!
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| Posted 10/29/09 11:33 AM |
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Do you think he was kidding?
Maybe he just thought it was funny at the time?
You know, wow all this cash just lying around..here honey happy birthday..
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DiamondGirl
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Posted by MrsList
Why wouldn't he just buy her a $600 gift and then use the cash to pay off the credit card?
I don't know - if I were the gf it would bother me because it seems so lazy on the bf's part. If my DH just threw some cash at me for my birthday I wouldn't be happy. And what if only 10 people showed up to dinner? Would she have only gotten a $300 gift?
If I were a guest, I wouldn't care except that my friend has a tool of a bf.
ITA!
I would be po'ed  if my DH handed me cash AT ALL never mind at the table in front of people TACKY
GO BUY ME A GIFT!
BUT SOME THOUGHT AND EFFORT INTO IT JACKASSSSSSSSS 
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HeathKernandez
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
I'd rather the money. 
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Otherme
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Posted by MrsPJB2007
As a guest, I think I would feel a little slighted....I'm not sure why...can't explain it...almost like I was duped or something so he could give her cash as a gift. I wouldn't like that. But that's just me.
that's exactly how i feel.. like the guests were duped somehow.
from what my co-worker said, her friends BF is always a bit socially awkward so she chalked it up to him just not really knowing that it was a weird thing to do
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DiamondGirl
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Posted by HeathKernandez
I'd rather the money.
Well that is a matter of preference
I think we can agree that the way he gave it to her was really tacky...
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| Posted 10/29/09 12:10 PM |
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Erica
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Posted by Phyl
They did pitch in for the meal. The bf just decided to keep the cash and charge it on his CC. No big deal. He used the meal $$ as his personal ATM that's all. Strange or tacky to hand his gf a gift like that but to each his own!
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Posted by Phyl
They did pitch in for the meal. The bf just decided to keep the cash and charge it on his CC. No big deal. He used the meal $$ as his personal ATM that's all. Strange or tacky to hand his gf a gift like that but to each his own!
TA
I kind of agree. I mean, I have paid on credit card and had people give me cash. I just think if he was going to give her the cash he should have done it discretely. THAT part of it was odd.
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| Posted 10/29/09 12:54 PM |
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Linda1003
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
If he was going to pay the bill.. as a guest I would have spent my money on a small gift..not cash. That's how I would feel as one of the guests.
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CrankyPants
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Two things about it are weird to me.
First, that he did it at the table.
Second, that he gave his GF cash as a gift. Only my uncles do that.
Unless he told everyone he was treating them but still took the cash. That's robbery.
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| Posted 10/29/09 1:06 PM |
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Phyl
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
How do we know that's ALL he gave her?!
Maybe he gave her a BIG slice of his MAN love for desert!. 
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| Posted 10/29/09 1:11 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: kind of weird dinner experience
Posted by Phyl
How do we know that's ALL he gave her?!
Maybe he gave her a BIG slice of his MAN love for desert!.
Omg-I would be severely disappointed in that gift. I mean, you can have that anytime. A birthday is supposed to be special.
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