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Angelheart
LIF Infant
Member since 2/09 222 total posts
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Cathy
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Letting DH charge your parents?
I am just curious how others feel about this. If your parents asked DH to do work around the house,such as hanging sheetrock,spackling,powerwashing or fixing up other things,would you let DH take the money? Now you need the money as you are struggling financially and they would be paying someone to do it anyway. Of course DH would not charge them the same as an outsider would. Also DH would be giving up other work to be helping her. I don't see it as being wrong but just curious how others feel. Of course if there was anything you can do to help, as you being their child, you would not charge them.
Now I just want to add something that is to all the posts who said it was not OK to charge them. What if you had to go live with them because you were struggling financially and they charged you rent. What do you think of them doing that? Would that make you feel differently?
Message edited 6/8/2009 3:46:22 PM.
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KGools
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Member since 9/06 9532 total posts
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Kim
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
I would feel funny charging my parents for work myself or DH were doing around their house. But if my parents insisted that they pay us I would take it (but knowing me I'd probably feel pretty guilty).
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:25 PM |
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Jenn627
Laaaaaaaambert!
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Jenn
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
No - I wouldn't let them pay us.
If we really needed the money - as in - electric was being shut off tomorrow - then I would accept. I mean, we'd really, really have to need that money to survive.
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:29 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
MBA at your service!
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MJ
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
Nope--absolutely not.
DH helps out my parents all the time doing stuff for them when they need it. He never would take any money for it. The only thing I would want, if money was a little tight, would be that if they need something fixed, that they buy the supplies and he can fix whatever needs to be done. But that's about it.
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:30 PM |
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BabyBoy
is Skylar Elizabeth
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Tom
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
i would do it at cost (bigger stuff)...labor is free because we are related as long as it doesn't take days...
materials are expensive depending on the job
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:32 PM |
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Kate
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Member since 5/05 7557 total posts
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Kate
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
I think it's okay if he's turning down other jobs that would pay him in order to do their job.
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:33 PM |
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GioiaMia
Let's Go Rangers!
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
ONLY if DH and I were in REAL trouble and my parents were 100% in a position to help, which I doubt would ever happen.
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:33 PM |
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danielleandscott
My new 71 Super Beetle
Member since 5/05 13476 total posts
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Scott
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
I never charge my inlaws when I am doing something for them like Detailing their cars, planting etc....
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:35 PM |
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hbugal
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
My mother lent us money a few months ago so we could get ahead on some bills...We dont have to pay her back but instead my DH has to paint, put down wood floors, etc...My mother said this when she had to convince us to not pay her back...She is taking his time away from doing other jobs so if she didnt pay him she would actually be taking money out of our pockets instead..She insisted and pointed out that the jobs need to be done and someone else would be charging her a heck of a lot more.
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:35 PM |
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CrankyPants
I'm cranky
Member since 7/06 18178 total posts
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Mama Cranky
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
For little stuff, no. I.e, while you are here, could you fix XXX or could you come by next week and help me with XXX.
If it took him away from other work and was a big project and you needed the money-yes, And, I would think your parents would insist on paying him.
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:36 PM |
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LoveyQ
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
Posted by CrankyPants
For little stuff, no. I.e, while you are here, could you fix XXX or could you come by next week and help me with XXX.
If it took him away from other work and was a big project and you needed the money-yes, And, I would think your parents would insist on paying him.
I agree with this. For something that would just take a couple of hours, etc., then no I wouldn't accept money. But for a job that's going to take a lot of time to do and would be taking him away from other jobs (so hence, less $ in your pockets when you're already struggling), then maybe your parents see it as a way to help you guys out without flat out giving you money which you might not accept and/or which might make you all feel uncomfortable. This way, your DH is working off the money they're giving you, you know?
For other things and favors, then no, I would not accept money. But in your situation, I think it's not a problem or issue.
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:41 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
There isn't a chance my DH would charge my parents...nor would I let it happen.
He wouldn't give up other work. He would do it when he's not working & finish whatever needed to be done.
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:42 PM |
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wannabemom
look who's freshly baked!
Member since 12/07 7364 total posts
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
Posted by Jenn627
No - I wouldn't let them pay us.
If we really needed the money - as in - electric was being shut off tomorrow - then I would accept. I mean, we'd really, really have to need that money to survive.
ditto.
I would never charge mom or my in-laws for anything.... and if they had a repair they couldn't do and we could, I would insist that we do it so they could save $$.... Only if we were REALY on our last dime and truly desperate would I accept a small payment....
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:44 PM |
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karenk71
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Karen
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
No way...he would never even think of charging them. He has a hard time letting them pay for anything.
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:44 PM |
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
Member since 6/07 42079 total posts
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LB
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
Posted by CrankyPants
For little stuff, no. I.e, while you are here, could you fix XXX or could you come by next week and help me with XXX.
If it took him away from other work and was a big project and you needed the money-yes, And, I would think your parents would insist on paying him.
i completely agree.
if it was the other way around, wouldn't DH insist on paying your parents?
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:48 PM |
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GioiaMia
Let's Go Rangers!
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
even though i KNOW what this thread is about I keep reading it as:
"would you let DH change your pants?"
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| Posted 6/8/09 2:52 PM |
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pinkandblue
Our family is complete, maybe
Member since 9/05 32436 total posts
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Stephanie
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
my husband owns a home improvements company where he does painting, tile, hardwoods, etc
My mom just bought a new house and DH will be doing alot of work for her and he is most certainly getting paid. He should not work for free, IMHO
He is giving her a good price and I see nothing wrong with charging. 
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| Posted 6/8/09 3:00 PM |
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GoldenRod
10 years on LIF!
Member since 11/06 26792 total posts
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Shawn
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
We have. IMO, it's a respect thing. My ILs feel it's disrespectful to me to have me work on their PCs without paying me, and I would be disrespecting them by not accepting.
However, DW and I have ways of giving them the money back.... either subtly like putting cash in FILs pocket when I shake his hand   , or by buying them stuff in return.
FIL is coming by today to take 3 window A/C units that we don't need anymore, and they can use, for instance.
It usually washes out in the end, but it's just how each incident is perceived. The way we work it out, everyone is happy... 
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| Posted 6/8/09 3:02 PM |
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JennyPenny
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Member since 1/08 12702 total posts
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Jen
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
Posted by nrthshgrl
There isn't a chance my DH would charge my parents...nor would I let it happen.
He wouldn't give up other work. He would do it when he's not working & finish whatever needed to be done.
Same here.
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| Posted 6/8/09 3:38 PM |
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Ophelia
she's baaccckkkk ;)
Member since 5/06 23378 total posts
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remember, when Gulliver traveled....
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
my dh is an accoutant and he does tax work for both our families.
everyone pays. maybe not as much as getting it done by someone else, but everyone pays something.
he will answer tax q's and do research free of charge, but during tax season, when he is crazy busy with work and private clients, he doesn't have any "free" time. it's all billable hours.
I think it depends on the situation.
if your parents are doing well and you could use the extra money, it makes sense to pay you to do the work. everyone makes out (they get the work done at a lower rate and you get a much needed influx of money)
conversely, if they are on hard times but NEED something to do done, I am sure you guys would find a way to do the work without having to sacrafice clients or money on your end so you don't lose out on cash.
I don't think there is a right or wrong answer.
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| Posted 6/8/09 3:52 PM |
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LightUpOurLife
Totally in love
Member since 8/06 12785 total posts
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Bonnie-Jean
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
Posted by CrankyPants
For little stuff, no. I.e, while you are here, could you fix XXX or could you come by next week and help me with XXX.
If it took him away from other work and was a big project and you needed the money-yes, And, I would think your parents would insist on paying him.
I agree with this completely!
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| Posted 6/8/09 4:26 PM |
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stephaniea
LIF Adult
Member since 1/07 1280 total posts
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Stephanie
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
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MDF
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Member since 5/05 2313 total posts
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Melissa
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
I think it all really depends on all the circumstances.
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| Posted 6/8/09 5:29 PM |
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MsSissy
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
Posted by BJandDan
Posted by CrankyPants
For little stuff, no. I.e, while you are here, could you fix XXX or could you come by next week and help me with XXX.
If it took him away from other work and was a big project and you needed the money-yes, And, I would think your parents would insist on paying him.
I agree with this completely!
So do I.
ETS: I would rather pay my SIL for his time and be treated like a regular customer than having to wait till he was "available" to do it for free.
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| Posted 6/8/09 5:31 PM |
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donegal419
St. Gerard, pray for us.
Member since 7/07 7650 total posts
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K
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Re: Letting DH charge your parents?
Posted by KGools
I would feel funny charging my parents for work myself or DH were doing around their house. But if my parents insisted that they pay us I would take it (but knowing me I'd probably feel pretty guilty).
same here!
but at the same time, you guys are struggling financially and he would be losing out on other work to do it, so then yes, i might take it. or i would do it when i wasn't working or on the weekend and not take the money, just whatever it cost in materials.
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