Losing a pet, friend or family member

my dog, who has been my baby for 9 years is very sick and we might have to put her down....she is in the animal hospital but things don't look that promising....i have been a wreck since the weekend and i am trying to keep it together for the baby but i just can't seem to keep it together for very long....my DH is also a wreck, this dog has literally been like a child to us....he is also extremely upset about the dog, to the point of seeing him cry and he is worrying about me so then i'm worried about him handling the stress of work, the dog & me...i'm just a mess....has anyone else gone through something terrible during their pregnancy? i keep trying to focus on the baby but it's so hard....

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awww, nik, so sorry. ive been following your posts on FB and feel terrible for you guys

all i can say is, try to remember the positive times and find peace in the good memories. you are doing everything that you can for her. i know it doesnt really help

as hard as it might be, the best gift that you can give her is to let her go in peace if nothing else can be done HUGS!

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Sending you tons of hugs!

Our dog is our little girl and I can relate completey to what you are going through, my heart breaks for you.

In your shoes I would do my best to ensure our babygirl is comfortable and as possible. Please, PLEASE feel free to vent or cry here, I'm sure lots of us can relate and offer our support. I think the best thing you can do is express what you feel. You need to in order to stay healthy for your growing baby.

This may be jumping the gun but I'd also probably make story picture book (like on the kodak site) about our puppygirl to share one day with our baby and ensure that baby knows all about our first furchild.


I hope this helps a bit. Sending you lots of love!

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I haven't experienced a tragedy while pregnant but I have lost my beloved dog a year ago. She was my child and I was blessed to have 13 wonderful years with her. I know how you feel and wanted to give you lots of .

Be sure you are eating and drinking enough. try not to get too stressed out. Easier said than done, I know, but make sure to take care of yourself. Lots of and

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I'm so sorry that you are going thru this during such a joyous time in your life. My pups have been my children for the last 6 years so I can feel your pain. I've lost a pet but not while expecting and it is a devestating experience esp. when it is unexpected.

Just remember how much she knew she was loved and how good of a life she did have!! Just know that you are doing the right thing because you don't want her to suffer any longer.

Not sure if you posted on the Pets board but please do there are so many wonderful furmommies over there for support.

I alsp suggest calling your Dr and just letting him know whats going on and how you are feeling.

I'm praying for your pup!!

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First of all, I am so, so, soooo sorry DH and I talk about how devastating it will be when it's time to let go of our two dogs. The first one was a present from DH for our first christmas together so there really wasn't a time in our relationship when we didn't have one of them with us! I know I will be inconsolable.

I did lose my grandmother when I was about 5 1/2 weeks pregnant. It was very sad because she was excited about the baby...I wish she could've met him/her. It's difficult, and I'm sorry you are going through this.

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My 19 year oldcousin passed away suddenly when I was 12 weeks pregnant with DD. I was a mess for a couple of weeks. I went to the OB because I couldn't sleep, was feeling anxious about something happening to someone else I love and was devastated. She did a sono, told me baby was fine and to take benadryl to sleep at night- it's safe for pregnancy.

I'm really sorry about your pup.

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thank you

i know that right now she is getting better care than she would at home...at home she would just die, at least at the vet they are trying to save her and at the same time giving her pain medication....i just feel terrible b/c she has bad seperation anxiety and as sick as she was she was upset to be at the vet in a cage so they had to also tranquilizer her so that she could rest i was so afraid leaving her overnight...so stressful... they said she was really groggy today and sleeping from all the sedation so at least i hope & am praying that if things do take a turn for the worst at least she is more comfortable there on the drugs than she would be at home...it's just a waiting game to see if she comes out of it - she was diagnosed with a bad case of pancreatitis and it is life threatening but the vet said she thought we should give her a chance b/c she has seen sicker dogs recover but that she can't gaurantee anything....my gut is telling me this is it for her and the she will not improve, i just don't know how long to wait....i don't want her to suffer and i always said i wanted it to be quick for her when it happened, i feel so terrible for leaving her at the vet but feel like i owe it to her to at least try....she has been there since yesterday, if it's still bad tomorrow i don't know how much more i can take and how much more i want her to go through...

i had a miscarriage which was terrible and we just got comfortable with being pregnant again and now things don't look good for our furbaby, who really means so much to us - when i was going through everything when we lost the baby i kept telling myself at least i have my husband and my dog and we are our own family and the two of them got me throught it...i don't know how much i can take this year....things were finally looking up...

thanks for letting me get this out i can't stop crying

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I'm so sorry again. It must be just awful.

I would give you pup a couple of days to pull through before you make any decisions. Maybe she'll surprise you.

ETA: your baby is well protected in there. Just make sure to keep up on your fluid and food intake and try to get lots of rest. If it would make you feel better, make an appt. with your OB for next week.

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OMG I am so sorry to hear about Pumpkin....I can only imagine how you must feel, our dogs are our first babies Just try to take care of yourself and hope for the best.

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CRASHING:

First, I want to say, I am so sorry about your pup! It's so hard. I am sending many and

Second: I went through two tragedies while pregnant with my DD.
I lost my grandmother and three weeks later, my own mother. It was unbelievable, crazy, and just out of control.

Best I could do was take it all one day at a time. Deep breaths. Rest at every chance you get.

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Posted by maymama

awww, nik, so sorry. ive been following your posts on FB and feel terrible for you guys

all i can say is, try to remember the positive times and find peace in the good memories. you are doing everything that you can for her. i know it doesnt really help

as hard as it might be, the best gift that you can give her is to let her go in peace if nothing else can be done HUGS!

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Posted by lvdolphins

CRASHING:

First, I want to say, I am so sorry about your pup! It's so hard. I am sending many and

Second: I went through two tragedies while pregnant with my DD.
I lost my grandmother and three weeks later, my own mother. It was unbelievable, crazy, and just out of control.

Best I could do was take it all one day at a time. Deep breaths. Rest at every chance you get.

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I have no experience with this...... just wanted to say I'm so sorry

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I'm sorry

My grandfather passed away 2 weeks ago after being diagnosed with lung cancer in June (I was 4-5 mo. at the time). He was like a father to me. My sister and I lived with him and my grandmother for most of our lives. It was such a stressful few months for my family since he spent a big part of his time between the hospital and at home with hospice. I spent most of the summer visiting him and trying to help do what I could to care for him. Everyone was certain I would deliver the baby very early due to the stress but I'm still here at almost 37 weeks and the baby is doing just fine. We can handle more than we realize. Just try to remember to take care of yourself when you can!

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aww Nik, I'm so sorry.. I hope your little furbaby does better..

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I'm so sorry Nik

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I'm sorry sweetie!

I lost my mom somewhat suddenly during the 2nd trimester of my 1st pregnancy. She did have cancer but she didn't let us know how bad it was until it was too late and she was in renal failure. It was extremely hard, as you could have imagined. I actually had mild contractions 10-15 mins after they called her death. I cried - a lot!!! I am very type A and OCD so I kept INCREDIBLY busy. I didnt really let it all sick in until a couple weeks later and I was a wreck.

Just keep breathing, drinking water and concentrate on all the good memories.

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Unfortunately yes, I've gone through this, 2x this pregnancy. We had to put down two of our beloved cats. I was a wreck. Don't stress about it too much - I really don't think it's better to hold your feelings and/or grief inside and let it build up. You need to get your feelings out for the ultimate benefit of both you and the baby.

I am SO SORRY you're going through this, i know all too well.

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i am so very sorry that you are going through this sending you hugs and best wishes for your fur baby

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I'm so sorry Nik! There are no words that will make any of this any easier. Just know that she will always be with you and she will be your little baby girls puppy angel. hang in there

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I am so sorry THese things are never easy, but with the amplified hormones of pregnancy, I find them even harder.

When I was pregnant with DD#1, my uncle passed away suddenly. It was very hard to handle.

This time, my brother in law's dog, who was my daughter's favorite, and was just a joy to the whole family, was hit by a car and died. We also finally got back the ashes of my Grandfather, who passed away a year ago (he donated his body to science)....I've found these things so much harder to deal with.

Lots of and for you!

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I'm so sorry Nik!!! I lost my little pup in Feb (3 weeks after DS was born) and he was like a child.

My Grandfather, who was the light of my life, passed away when I was 7 months preg. It was rough! Very hard to stay calm and actually try to eat anything. I got so upset that I started having VERY strong cramps for a few hours. It was so hard, I was trying to be strong but some times you just have to let yourself feel the sadness.
The best you can do is to try to be as calm as you can, drink lots of water and try to eat, even if its just a bite.

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I completely understand what you are going through.

I haven't posted about it on here because I haven't had the mental energy to type out the entire story, but we lost my Dad to cancer just this past Monday. I am 17 weeks pregnant right now.

It has been absolutely horrible, emotionally. My Dad got diagnosed with Cancer 3 years ago and has been such a fighter. He has gone through radiation, radical surgeries, and extensive chemo. We got the news 2 weeks ago that the cancer had spread dramatically to his bone, both sides of his lungs, and his liver. My dad only stopped working 2 weeks ago when we got this news, and then it was a DRAMATIC decline. Needless to say, when he passed on Monday it was a big shock to us. He lived out in Riverhead bc my parents are seperated and we didn't see him every day over the past 2 weeks and so none of us realized how bad it had gotten.

I have been a wreck. There were times when people were telling me to take it easy. On Tuesday on the way to my sister's house to go through pictures of my Dad, someone rearended us. I cried so hard for so long and swear I was contracting. My stomach was so tight. I had to try my best to distract my thoughts so that Icould calm down.

And I missed my appt with my OBGYN on Thursday because of the wake. So I had to reschedule for Monday. I am just so anxious to hear the heart beat and make sure everything is OK. The only comfort is that I have felt the baby moving, and I also know that even though my Dad won't be here for the baby's life, he is with the baby right now in heaven, already has met it, knows if it will be a boy or a girl (he asked us not to find out before he died) and knows what the baby will be named and what it will be like. Somehow that is comforting me.

Please try and take care of yourself. Everyone keeps telling me that and I have no idea how to do it sometimes when so much has to be done. My house is a wreck bc I've barely bene home in a week, we have no food in the house. I have to clean, do laundry, do grocery shopping, not to mention go tomorrow to my dad's apartment and help my siblings clean it out and go through his belongings. But I did allow myself to take a nap yesterday after the funeral, and to sleep in today. We have to do what we can to take care of ourselves.

Sending you big hugs

Melissa

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I'm so sorry you are going through this. I am praying for a miracle for your furbaby