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saraH
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MIL issues
Anyone going through the MIL issues? I really get the feeling she is trying to "run" my pregnancy. Insisting that I will find out what the sex is, not to me, but to family memebers. Like she thinks she is entitled.
I mean, its early, only 10 weeks. But I don't want to go through this for another 30 weeks.
TIA.
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Jenhos
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Re: MIL issues
I don't speak to my MIL at all (whole other post)
You either have to sit down and talk to her or have DH do it or just ignore her. It is your PG and your baby.
Is it her first grandchild?
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| Posted 4/17/07 12:19 PM |
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saraH
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Re: MIL issues
yep, her first. Rigth now, I tell her no and leave it at that. She is incredibky stubborn and wants her way. So I ignore it for now, if it gets worse though...
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| Posted 4/17/07 12:21 PM |
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momoftwins
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Re: MIL issues
Im sorry you are going through this... it is very frustrating to have MIL stress when pg (I know!) If it starts to really upset you (loosing sleep over it), maybe DH will need to politely say something to her so you can rest easy. The next 6 months are about you... I hope things get better soon!
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| Posted 4/17/07 12:22 PM |
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Jenhos
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Re: MIL issues
I would fix the issue now. It may be even worse when the baby actually gets here.
Does she live close to you?
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| Posted 4/17/07 12:24 PM |
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saraH
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Posted by momoftwins
Im sorry you are going through this... it is very frustrating to have MIL stress when pg (I know!) If it starts to really upset you (loosing sleep over it), maybe DH will need to politely say something to her so you can rest easy. The next 6 months are about you... I hope things get better soon!
Thanks. It's not as bad as I make it sound, just frustrating. I know she cares, but it gets to me when she starts with finding out and this and that.
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| Posted 4/17/07 12:25 PM |
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saraH
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Posted by Jenhos
I would fix the issue now. It may be even worse when the baby actually gets here.
Does she live close to you?
noooo....about 1/2 hour away. so we don't see her too much, maybe once a week. this just came up over the weekend so it kind of bothered me. If it happens again, we will have to set her straight.
thanks
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karacg
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No - my MIL isn't interested at all it seems....
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I found fix it now.
You could say something like...
"Well we are all excited but this is just the beginning so we don't want to rush things. We ask everyone to respect our wishes and not pressure us into things that are not for us. Thank you.. have a nice day!"
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| Posted 4/17/07 12:30 PM |
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saraH
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Its funny b/c she was just telling my aunt that she "knows" that I'm going to find out. That *I* won't be able not to find out.
How or why she thinks this, is beyond me.
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I am sorry that she is driving you nuts.
I agree try to set some boundaries now. My mil is awesome, but sometimes she crosses the line.
I am sure she means well, and I would tell her that you know that she does. You are exctited too, but she needs to just try to relax a ltlle.
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DanaRenee
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Posted by BNL2005
Its funny b/c she was just telling my aunt that she "knows" that I'm going to find out. That *I* won't be able not to find out.
How or why she thinks this, is beyond me.
Thats annoying! I'd just ignore what she says and tell her like a week after you find out what it is "oh, by the way, did I tell you its a boy/girl? ... yeah I found out last week" Or make her think everyone knows before her. Ok, thats just mean, forget I suggested that! But I do know how annoying that can be 
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saraH
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Posted by skygirl
I am sorry that she is driving you nuts.
I agree try to set some boundaries now. My mil is awesome, but sometimes she crosses the line.
I am sure she means well, and I would tell her that you know that she does. You are exctited too, but she needs to just try to relax a ltlle.
You hit the nail right on the head. If tis pattern continues, we will definitly tell her to back off.
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| Posted 4/17/07 12:36 PM |
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saraH
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Posted by DanaRenee
Posted by BNL2005
Its funny b/c she was just telling my aunt that she "knows" that I'm going to find out. That *I* won't be able not to find out.
How or why she thinks this, is beyond me.
Thats annoying! I'd just ignore what she says and tell her like a week after you find out what it is "oh, by the way, did I tell you its a boy/girl? ... yeah I found out last week" Or make her think everyone knows before her. Ok, thats just mean, forget I suggested that! But I do know how annoying that can be
we are not planning on finding out at all. that is what makes it so annoying, but I like the way you think.
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MrsBlueSash
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I'd either confront it or acknowledge her "advice" and just do what you want. In any case, I hope you and your DH are on the same page. I would also avoid topics such as names, decorating, and stuff you don't want her opinion on. Just tell her you are keeping things a surprise.
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MrsBlueSash
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Posted by BNL2005
Its funny b/c she was just telling my aunt that she "knows" that I'm going to find out. That *I* won't be able not to find out.
How or why she thinks this, is beyond me.
I don't know why that's so hard to believe either? If you don't want to know it's really not that hard waiting. You will find out, just when the baby is born like in the good ol' days. Just laugh when she says that...she sounds like she's full of it to me.
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| Posted 4/17/07 1:37 PM |
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saraH
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Posted by MrsBlueSash
Posted by BNL2005
Its funny b/c she was just telling my aunt that she "knows" that I'm going to find out. That *I* won't be able not to find out.
How or why she thinks this, is beyond me.
I don't know why that's so hard to believe either? If you don't want to know it's really not that hard waiting. You will find out, just when the baby is born like in the good ol' days. Just laugh when she says that...she sounds like she's full of it to me.
right. We don't want to find out, but she thinks she knows me soo well. 
and you're right about the other things too. we will not be discussing names with her.
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NovemberSue
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For some reason people tend to stick their noses in your business sometimes. I would just try to ignore it.
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MsMBV
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OMG you are sooooooo not alone.
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vegalady
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No my MIL doesnt run my pregnancy and hasnt. But she always tells everyone that this is her baby. Which gets under my skin sometimes
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My MIL wanted the directions to the hospital the same phone call as the "I am pregnant" phone call!
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KateDevine
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Re: MIL issues
MIL issues? Who? Me? My whole life lately has been a MIL issue
Just don't let her get to you, you CAN say something, but I dont know if it will help honestly.
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| Posted 4/17/07 3:54 PM |
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saraH
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Posted by KateDevine
MIL issues? Who? Me? My whole life lately has been a MIL issue
Just don't let her get to you, you CAN say something, but I dont know if it will help honestly.
lordy, I've read some of yours and Ms MBV's posts and I know that I am not alone/crazy in this fight.
I really don't think "the talk" would work. She'd get defensive and say that she is just trying to help and no one listens to her and blah, blah, blah.
For now, I deal..but so help me if it gets worse..
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MsMBV
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Posted by BNL2005
Posted by KateDevine
MIL issues? Who? Me? My whole life lately has been a MIL issue
Just don't let her get to you, you CAN say something, but I dont know if it will help honestly.
lordy, I've read some of yours and Ms MBV's posts and I know that I am not alone/crazy in this fight.
I really don't think "the talk" would work. She'd get defensive and say that she is just trying to help and no one listens to her and blah, blah, blah.
For now, I deal..but so help me if it gets worse..
LMAO I am so glad to be a point of reference for the insanity of others
But honestly, try to set some boundaries if you can & let her know that you will do what you & DH decide is best for your PG. I know it is hard but the further along you get the harder it gets to tolerate stupidity
And a little snarkiness doesn't hurt either.....my new mantra "A little Snarky goes a long way..."
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| Posted 4/17/07 4:00 PM |
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Posted by MsMBV
Posted by BNL2005
Posted by KateDevine
MIL issues? Who? Me? My whole life lately has been a MIL issue
Just don't let her get to you, you CAN say something, but I dont know if it will help honestly.
lordy, I've read some of yours and Ms MBV's posts and I know that I am not alone/crazy in this fight.
I really don't think "the talk" would work. She'd get defensive and say that she is just trying to help and no one listens to her and blah, blah, blah.
For now, I deal..but so help me if it gets worse..
LMAO I am so glad to be a point of reference for the insanity of others
But honestly, try to set some boundaries if you can & let her know that you will do what you & DH decide is best for your PG. I know it is hard but the further along you get the harder it gets to tolerate stupidity
And a little snarkiness doesn't hurt either.....my new mantra "A little Snarky goes a long way..."
They totally can make you feel like you are nuts!!
I agree with setting boundaries, but at the same time trying to "talk it out" isn't always the best. We can be a little passive with MIL, but we find that lets her flame out her insanity and then we can deal with her.
I did just spend the morning using the $217 credit to BRU from the duplicate travel system that MIL sent us
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