Mixed emotions about BFN - am I the only one?

I have to admit- the only thing that frustrates me about the BFN is wondering why it didn't work if we did everything right.

But, mostly, I get excited for the following month.

I sort of clear the slate of the thought of having a baby on a certain date, or being so many months pregnant at a certain time.

So, instead of having the October baby I was dreaming about this month, I start thinking - oh a November baby is now an option for me

Maybe it's silly, but there's a part of me that gets excited at all the new opportunities I get to have all over again each month.....

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Re: Mixed emotions about BFN - am I the only one?

You aren't the only one. Granted, it is only our 2nd month trying but I am 38 (as of Monday) and I was always saying I don't want to be PG when I am 40... For some reason, this month I have a new attitude about it. DH and I are doing everything we possibly can and giving it out best shot. If we don't get the BFP this month, we will just try it again next month. We are having "fun" with the situation and really learning alot. Each month brings us more knowledge and, we like to think, a little bit closer to our BFP month. I don't even make myself crazy with the 2ww. I just take each day as it comes and enjoy the days when it is just DH and I because that will all change soon. And I was also excited for this month and our new start

Message edited 2/6/2009 2:49:53 PM.

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I'm starting to get that way. I was thinking if it does not work out this month we could have a Nov baby and no one in our family has a bday in Nov....

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You have such a great outlook-good for you! for a November baby!

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Re: Mixed emotions about BFN - am I the only one?

OMG I wish I had that attitude!

Good for you!

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It is def. a mix of emotions. It's devastating at first but then you realize you have to pick yourself and hope for the next month.

I think that when we stop hoping/planning for the next month is when we start to feel defeated KWIM?

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Posted by ROMANCEnBABYDANCE

I have to admit- the only thing that frustrates me about the BFN is wondering why it didn't work if we did everything right.

But, mostly, I get excited for the following month.

I sort of clear the slate of the thought of having a baby on a certain date, or being so many months pregnant at a certain time.

So, instead of having the October baby I was dreaming about this month, I start thinking - oh a November baby is now an option for me

Maybe it's silly, but there's a part of me that gets excited at all the new opportunities I get to have all over again each month.....

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thats a great way to think, you have to look forward to next month bc one of those future months will be your month. i would do the same thing, be like its okay more time to be with dh and look forward to our future

i wish u the best to next month!!!

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thats a great wat to look at it. i'll remember when DH and are TTC. i love ur optimism.

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I feel the same way. I was very disappointed when AF showed up last week bc I really thought this was my month and I was looking forward to my kids being exactly 2 years apart, but it didn't work out that way. I was upset for a few hours and then got excited to start all over again. I'm really hoping for an '09 baby but we'll just have to see what happens!