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anewday
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moms need moral support here
So I just picked my dd (will be 3 in July) and the first thing she says all excited is she wants to go to her friend E's house. I pause and look at E's mom and say I don't know about today....dd starts a full blown out tantrum. E's mom says she can come by for 45 mins before she has to pick up her son (we do this prob 1 a week) but my dd tantrum was starting to get beyond control...I mean full blown out screaming, cry, trying to run out the door fit...she was becoming uncontrolable so at that point I appologized to the teach and everyone else including my dd and told her I'm sorry but when we behave like this we dont get what we want....proceeded to pick her up screaming and crying out to the car and all the way home (mind you Im 9 months pregnant)...
The whole way home dd is crying momma Im sorry, please...Im sorry over and over...now I want to cry
We've been home 15 mins now she is still crying and whinning...E's mom tx me to come over...I told dd is still carrying on cry that shes sorry....so E's mom replys so come over for a little while
...I feel so mean....but Im refusing to cave into a horrible tempertantrum and can not believe I feel guilted by another mom...guess thats why Im venting here
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Posted 4/4/12 3:24 PM  |
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cheryl28
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Re: moms need moral support here
You are doing the right thing. I never give in unless dd calms down and is being "good".
I think you are doing the right thing. Hang in there! Tantrums are tough and my dd is only 23 months old.
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| Posted 4/4/12 3:28 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: moms need moral support here
I have had to stick to my guns too and it SUCKS. In the end, it's what the need though. If you give in, they learn that they can push you to that point and will do so over and over again.
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| Posted 4/4/12 3:32 PM |
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Re: moms need moral support here
You said you weren't sure for a reason so stick to it. If you cave now DD will know that if she carries on hard and long enough you'll cave. It's hard and we're just starting down this path but once she calms down try to explain the best you can to an almost 3yr old that we can't always go to E's house and maybe ask E's mom to talk to you 1st in a more private way or so on as to avoid this in the future.
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| Posted 4/4/12 3:38 PM |
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anewday
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Dawn
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Re: moms need moral support here
I agree 1000% which is why Im sticking to my guns....it just sucks 
plus to have another mom telling me oh just come over (not infront of dd) but still a little support amongst moms ya know (why I love this forum)
I've had issues with this mom before...I really like her as a friend for me but I hate having playdates with them...Im alway the mean mom and I dont agree with how she does certain things so I've been trying to do less playdates and just go for coffee w the mom
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| Posted 4/4/12 3:43 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: moms need moral support here
You def made the right choice, don't give in now, she'll just learn to do it again next time.
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| Posted 4/4/12 3:44 PM |
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Jodee
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Re: moms need moral support here
Stick to your guns, not easy, but you will thank yourself 1000x over in the future.
Stay strong Mommy!
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| Posted 4/4/12 3:58 PM |
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noworlater
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Re: moms need moral support here
you are doing the right thing!!!
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| Posted 4/4/12 4:01 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: moms need moral support here
As hard as it is, you're doing the right thing. 
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| Posted 4/4/12 4:16 PM |
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rkl1130
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Re: moms need moral support here
You're doing the right thing.
It's tough to go through the tantrum but you're teaching her a lesson and it's good that you stuck to your guns.
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| Posted 4/4/12 4:37 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: moms need moral support here
you go MOM!!!
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| Posted 4/4/12 4:42 PM |
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Xelindrya
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Re: moms need moral support here
I support you 10000000% you go girl!
I'm sorry but you don't get what you want as a result of tears, screaming or acting out of frustration. You will learn to be patient, ASK first and accept MY answer.
AJ has pulled that "I sorry" crap on me when i've laid the law down and I answer "im sorry too. I'm sorry you were bad and i'm sorry you are going to time out. Mama doesnt like to put you in time out, not at all. Its not cool. I am sorry too"
We recently had a all out melt down and as she was in time out she said she wanted something and screamed it at me demandingly. I explained if you ask nicely and actly nicely mama and daddy can give you anything. If you act bad and don't ask nicely, you get nothing. Ironically I think it sunk in.
Next she comes to me and says "can I ask you something" sure "I'm sorry about the carpet" LOL she painted on the carpet. just two days ago it was "im sorry about the chocolate milk" she had it on her shirt. I never yell or get upset if she TELLS me nicely. It just may be sinking in or she's playing me. Not sure yet. Oh the fun age of 3.
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| Posted 4/4/12 4:42 PM |
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anewday
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Re: moms need moral support here
Thanks guys...
Its been just the past few days that the tantrums have been soo bad...I thought they were bad in the past but little did I know...I know I have to stick to my guns...she is a good girl...one of the politest always says thank you and please....ironicly being from NY and moving to TX I think people expected something different...it reality I think I expected something different.
She did seem to understand...she said she cried cause she wanted to go to E house and she's sorry
I said I was sorry too but we dont behave that way and Im sorry that she cried.
I just feel like lately Im one of the few that actually follows thru with disipline...I know that my family will be better off in the end but man it sucks
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| Posted 4/4/12 4:56 PM |
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Tina1117
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Re: moms need moral support here
nope you are doing everything i would do. ignore her too and eventually she'll stop...that's the hard part for me.
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| Posted 4/4/12 5:10 PM |
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TessMike214
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Re: moms need moral support here
I would try not to let that mom bother you, she was probably just trying to be nice to you; I'm sure that she has gone through tantrums as well and understands!
Message edited 4/4/2012 5:14:25 PM.
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| Posted 4/4/12 5:13 PM |
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mooshyboo
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Re: moms need moral support here
it is soo hard but you are doing the right thing ~ hang in there mama!
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| Posted 4/4/12 6:28 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: moms need moral support here
You are right. I would never give in to that kind of behavior. My son pulls this all the time when he wants playdates afterschool. I will deal with his attitude before giving in
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| Posted 4/4/12 7:17 PM |
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LuLu2260
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Mich
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Re: moms need moral support here
You are doing the right thing. Dont second guess yourself!
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