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Moms of non sleepers....
Where you at tonight? 
This kid is getting worse and worse with his sleep - I know its teething related, but its so hard... especially when DH thinks his job is more important than mone, and I'm getting sick - we were both kicked downstairs so he can sleep - I don't know what to do with him... he is crying in the playpen now. I'm so frustrated withh im.... And I'm frustrated with DH....
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
Sorry Liza!! I'm headed for some  right now, before DD wakes for the 85th time.
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| Posted 3/26/08 11:02 PM |
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LoveBeingMrsT
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
ds is also teething like crazy. i feel your pain. does he fall asleep when you rock him? maybe put him in his stroller and turn all the lights off and just push him around. sorry i'm not much help. 
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| Posted 3/26/08 11:08 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
Honestly, I think you need to start putting him in his room in his crib and let him CIO. He is old enough now. It is not fair to you or your DH. You need to get your rest to be able to go for work and than come home and care for him. I dont think that he isnt sleeping b/c he's not tired...I think he knows he doesnt have to go to sleep. What is his nap schedule like at daycare? What time do you generally try to put him down to sleep? I think you should make a schedule and stick to it...it will be hard at first especially for the 1st couple of weeks...but in the long run it will be better for all of you. It is crazy...you must not get any sleep 
ETA: I wouldn't let him CIO for 30 or 40 min straight. I would go in every 15 min or so...lay him back down w/out talking to him and walk back out. This way he knows you are there. Eventually he will tire himself out.
Message edited 3/26/2008 11:12:30 PM.
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| Posted 3/26/08 11:10 PM |
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| Posted 3/26/08 11:15 PM |
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groovypeg
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
kick DH to the couch.
U 2 stay upstairs.....
btw it's Eric 
good luck with new job
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| Posted 3/27/08 12:58 AM |
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mom2tom
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
Is he sick? We had a few rough nights and found out it was due to a bad ear infection.
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| Posted 3/27/08 5:25 AM |
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partyof6
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
ok time to get to the botom of this....
is he sleeping in his crib every night?
what time do u put him down?
he does not nap during the day right?
If he cries you run and get him or leave him?
if u saw my previous posts I had this with the both and it was hard--and one cries-the other wakes-I slept on tjhe couch for months bla bla--well I fixed it and everyone sleeps through the night...
I did it with Jesse too when he was younger---its time for him to cio--on a friday and it should be done by monday===maybe Tuesday--u have to do it!
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| Posted 3/27/08 6:29 AM |
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Posted by jellybean1420
Honestly, I think you need to start putting him in his room in his crib and let him CIO. He is old enough now. It is not fair to you or your DH. You need to get your rest to be able to go for work and than come home and care for him. I dont think that he isnt sleeping b/c he's not tired...I think he knows he doesnt have to go to sleep. What is his nap schedule like at daycare? What time do you generally try to put him down to sleep? I think you should make a schedule and stick to it...it will be hard at first especially for the 1st couple of weeks...but in the long run it will be better for all of you. It is crazy...you must not get any sleep
ETA: I wouldn't let him CIO for 30 or 40 min straight. I would go in every 15 min or so...lay him back down w/out talking to him and walk back out. This way he knows you are there. Eventually he will tire himself out.
He doesn't cry himself to sleep - its bad - he is just not one of those types of kids - he winds up making himself hysterical and then he can't wind down... Trust me, I was all for letting him CIO, but when I saw him go strong for an hour, and saw how worked up he was (on several occasions when I just "gave up" - every mom here knows those moments when you have nothing left....) I realized that I have a totally different animal than those CIO babies!!!
He just does this when he's teething - otherwise he has been sleeping through the night. He also usualy naps for 2-3 hrs at daycare and hasn't been napping there - he's just miserable... eventually he falls to sleep with a lot of effort, but its so draining....
DH wound up taking over last night - thanks ladies!!!
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| Posted 3/27/08 6:55 AM |
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Crismicka
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
We went through this too. I didn't think mine would CIO, but then I realized that I was conditioning the behavior by picking them up or talking to them.
I tried a version of the Ferber method...it worked.
I put them in and said goodnight.
They cried
I waited 5 minutes and went back in. Only to rub their tummies and said nothing other than, good night, mommy loves you.
I left
They cried
I waited 10 minutes before going back in. It felt like the longest 10 minutes in my life! I had to shut the monitor so that I wouldn't "fold" and run into the room.
I went back in...same scenerio. Then waited 15 mins...you get the drift...
By the third night, I only had to go in once and eventually, they were "trained" that when it was bedtime, it was bedtime.
It was not easy, but it was worth it!
Now, they sleep 12-13 hours straight
Good luck & give that cutie a kiss from me!
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partyof6
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
Posted by Crismicka
We went through this too. I didn't think mine would CIO, but then I realized that I was conditioning the behavior by picking them up or talking to them.
I tried a version of the Ferber method...it worked.
I put them in and said goodnight.
They cried
I waited 5 minutes and went back in. Only to rub their tummies and said nothing other than, good night, mommy loves you.
I left
They cried
I waited 10 minutes before going back in. It felt like the longest 10 minutes in my life! I had to shut the monitor so that I wouldn't "fold" and run into the room.
I went back in...same scenerio. Then waited 15 mins...you get the drift...
By the third night, I only had to go in once and eventually, they were "trained" that when it was bedtime, it was bedtime.
It was not easy, but it was worth it!
Now, they sleep 12-13 hours straight
Good luck & give that cutie a kiss from me!
yup! the ferber method!
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| Posted 3/27/08 8:48 AM |
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missrock
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
Liza,
I dont have advice, just
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| Posted 3/27/08 8:55 AM |
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TwinMama
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
Posted by jellybean1420
Honestly, I think you need to start putting him in his room in his crib and let him CIO. He is old enough now. It is not fair to you or your DH. You need to get your rest to be able to go for work and than come home and care for him. I dont think that he isnt sleeping b/c he's not tired...I think he knows he doesnt have to go to sleep. What is his nap schedule like at daycare? What time do you generally try to put him down to sleep? I think you should make a schedule and stick to it...it will be hard at first especially for the 1st couple of weeks...but in the long run it will be better for all of you. It is crazy...you must not get any sleep
ETA: I wouldn't let him CIO for 30 or 40 min straight. I would go in every 15 min or so...lay him back down w/out talking to him and walk back out. This way he knows you are there. Eventually he will tire himself out.
I agree, the above is the only way that your DC will learn how to soothe himself to sleep. Once you put him down in the crib try not to pick him back up .I did that with my girls and they have been great sleepers since they were a couple of months old. Of course now and again they act up but it's far and few between. Your son is just used to you always being their for him the minute he cries. If he is teething give him some tylenol and put him in his crib to sleep. I know it's hard but it will be worth it in the end.
Hope this helps...good luck!
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BigB
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
This may get falmed but a friend of mine used benadryl when her son was teething. It was so awful all around, that the baby ddin't sleep for close to 50 hours over two days. Everyone was exhausted, so she gave him a bit of bendryl and he finally slept. He and everyone else was a much happier baby! BTW, she is a dr.!
I am not looking forward to this time in the futre! James hardly sleeps through the night as it is!
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| Posted 3/27/08 9:11 AM |
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nylisa
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
DS is almost 20 months and because of teething usually gets up once during the night but he does not go to sleep early. Last night he fell asleep around 10:15 pm and for the first time in months he slept throught the night. According to MIL he is still sleeping.
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| Posted 3/27/08 9:23 AM |
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vegalady
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
What you need to do is let him CIO. And also you need to tell DH to take care of him or just leave him in the room with DH and then you leave the room.
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nmp070106
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
awwwwwwwwwww Liza, Madison goes in early but awakes every evening at 11 and 4 AM which totally sucks so I feel your pain!!! I wish I knew you were up I would of stayed online!
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| Posted 3/27/08 10:25 AM |
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ckdk
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Re: Moms of non sleepers....
Posted by Crismicka
We went through this too. I didn't think mine would CIO, but then I realized that I was conditioning the behavior by picking them up or talking to them.
I tried a version of the Ferber method...it worked.
I put them in and said goodnight.
They cried
I waited 5 minutes and went back in. Only to rub their tummies and said nothing other than, good night, mommy loves you.
I left
They cried
I waited 10 minutes before going back in. It felt like the longest 10 minutes in my life! I had to shut the monitor so that I wouldn't "fold" and run into the room.
I went back in...same scenerio. Then waited 15 mins...you get the drift...
By the third night, I only had to go in once and eventually, they were "trained" that when it was bedtime, it was bedtime.
It was not easy, but it was worth it!
Now, they sleep 12-13 hours straight
Good luck & give that cutie a kiss from me!
How old were they when you did this?
Sounds like a good method...
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