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JRD2008
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Kathleen
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
Posted by -Lisa-
I would go, but I'm not one to stay home. We had Ella out right away since the weather was so nice.
You have to do what you're comfortable with.
ITA. Joseph is 2 weeks old today, and we plan on taking him to my parents house for their memorial day BBQ on Monday. Granted, he is the only grandchild on my side of the family, and the only child that will be there, so I don't have to worry about kids touching him.
If you are not comfortable bringing your daughter out, then don't. She is your child, and you know in your gut what is best for her. 
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Juliet
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Juliet
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
I declined an invite when DD was 2 weeks old but only because it was winter and the party was all kids.
If the party is outside and there are not a lot of people and YOU feel up to it, go! If you don't feel comfy, don't let yourself feel pressured.
Oh yeah, if you feel weird, bring a bottle of Purel and ask people to use it before touching your baby. DH did this to friends and family
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| Posted 5/22/08 7:27 PM |
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Diana1215
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Diana
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
Posted by bicosi
Posted by 5ofClubs
If it was me I would go, esp if it is going to be outside. But I also took Andrew to Kmart at almost 3 weeks 
Do what you feel is best
You sound like me! lol
Yes, do what you feel is best!
ITA!
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| Posted 5/22/08 7:36 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
Oh I feel like that often, but you have to do what you feel is right for your child. I think for many parents it's hard to go from the role of parent to grandparent no matter how old we are and also to understand how things have changed since we were newborns. I know my mother, when my dd was born, kept asking about all of these things that have been in practice or done for several years. She was almost insistent at times. She eventually learned to sit back and let me learn to mother.
The 3 of you are a family now and you have to do what is right for that family first
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| Posted 5/22/08 7:40 PM |
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jellybean78
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
I took DD out for her first big outing at 8 days old...for Thanksgiving. However if you don't feel comfortable don't do it. Follow your gut. You are the Mom and you know whats best
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| Posted 5/22/08 8:33 PM |
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HillW9608
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Hill
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
I think you should so whatever makes you feel comfortable! If you end up going and not wanting to be there then you might not have a good time.. enjoy the day with your DH and the new little baby!
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| Posted 5/22/08 8:36 PM |
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computergirl
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
If you don't feel comfortable DON'T GO. Tell them the pediatrician "strongly advised against it". Blame the ped, make him/her the bad guy
I know a million people have brought newborns to big gatherings and they were fine, but I gotta be honest, I'm biased because a very bad thing (meningitis) did happen to my cousin's baby after being brought to the mall at 3 weeks.
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| Posted 5/22/08 8:39 PM |
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Erica
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
I had each kid less than a month before my family's big 4th of July reunion and both times were c/s there was way of me trekking 90 minutes in a car for it - my parents completely understood.
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| Posted 5/22/08 8:48 PM |
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jms100303
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Jennifer
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
If you don't feel comfortable I wouldn't go. I wouldn't take DS out or to gatherings till he was 6 weeks old. Even Thanksgiving was a hard thing for me to do. We went to my sisters and there was a small crowd.
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| Posted 5/22/08 8:48 PM |
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patti08
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Patti
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
Follow your own judgement. Your mom will get over her disappointment. The health and well being of your daughter and your family is what is important. I think a long car ride and unnecessary exposure to people at 3 weeks is not the best idea. We didn't have DD around anyone but her grandparents until she was 6 weeks.
No one should make you feel guilty about spending quiet time as a family, just the 3 of you. You are very lucky to have a 3 day weekend to spend time together during one of the most difficult yet wonderful transitions you'll ever go through with your DH.
I'd just put my foot down and politely say no. You will be bringing your DD out to see people soon enough.
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| Posted 5/22/08 9:22 PM |
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Lucky
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Dawn
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
If you questioning it, then it's not the right thing to do. I'd stay home & enjoy your time with DC & DH. Your mom could always visit another time.
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| Posted 5/22/08 9:27 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
If it were me, I'd go.
DS was born at the same time last year and we had to take him everywhere because we had to move. He was in restaurants, etc. when he was 1 week old.
The first time he got sick was in January, when he was almost 9 months old
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| Posted 5/23/08 7:43 AM |
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kimmie
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Kimberly
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
Posted by smdl
This is way too young IMO. I would not bring a child that young around people. Chances are people will want to touch DC.
No way, not me and my DC. I was one of those overprotective parents and Im proud of it. I was not going to see my DC get a spinal if she got sick, thats what DR told me would happen if she got sick before 6 weeks.. You do what you feel is best your mom and everyone else will get over it
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| Posted 5/23/08 7:48 AM |
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rojerono
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Jeannie
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Re: my mom is making me feel bad
Posted by Ang-Rich
This is your first child, right? Do what you think is best. I stayed home with DS for 6 weeks before going out and wouldn't let any of the kids near him.
Probably won't be the same for the next kids because I personally feel that I (me, myself & I) overreacted.
But we are entitled to make our own decisions...it's acting out of love. I love that my family was so understanding about it too. I got some eye rolls but also some hugs and everyone followed my wishes. That meant a lot to me.
ITA. I was very relaxed about my kids being around other people. Robbie's first trip out of the house was about a week after he was born. But it was totally my decision. I wouldn't let anyone bully me into deciding what is right or wrong for my kid.
Do what YOU think is right!
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