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Smileyd17
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Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
DH decided she was a big girl and was also afraid of her climbing out of crib or her falling...so BED RAILS ARE OFF!
Her crib is a day bed...we put up a rail so she dosent roll out.
I told him it was a mistake to do. I know my DD and she has never climbed out before and it wasnt necessary to wait it out. BUT NO!
SO now, for the past two wks, with maybe a day or two in between she sleeps through, DD has made it into our bed!
She cries out, sees we are not coming in to get her, and then gets out and IN our bed she goes.
She kicks, tosses in turns and disturbs our sleep big time.
Last nite, he tried a gate at the door and she SCREAMED and also coughed and sounds like she choking, and what was worse, her room is right across ours! so WIDE awake we are!
I dont know what to do 
Help!
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
Anthony wouldn't even call for us, he just got up and walked into our room and would climb in. He would do this at around 6am. He was 20 mnths when we converted. I want to say it took about 2 months before he stopped all together. Now when he gets up for the day, he will come into our room and let us know he is up
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pinkandblue
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
I close miki's door and we have a safety cover on the knob so she cannot open the door, is that cruel and unusual punishment? 
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babyonthebrain
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
I have to say that that is my worst pet peeve in the world!!!!! I have a step daughter who's turning 13 and she has had THE WORST sleeping habits because her mother would let her sleep with her when she was little. When she would come and visit us she would have to sleep with us. DH didn't care cause he hardly got to see her and didn't wanna cause a comotion. I absolutely despised it!!! She still has difficulty sleeping by herself till THIS DAY!!!
So I hear you sista!!! I think the habit has to be broken now! She will scream, cry and protest, and if you give in, she knows she can win. It will probably take weeks of being patient and loosing some sleep to train her but if you don't do it, it will be worst in the long run.
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babyonthebrain
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
Posted by Mikismom
I close miki's door and we have a safety cover on the knob so she cannot open the door, is that cruel and unusual punishment?
HELL NO! I would do the same thing!!!!!!!
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pinkandblue
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
Posted by babyonthebrain
Posted by Mikismom
I close miki's door and we have a safety cover on the knob so she cannot open the door, is that cruel and unusual punishment?
HELL NO! I would do the same thing!!!!!!!
she does not seem to mind at all and so far has not tried to open the door or anything
she goes to bed and stays there until the morning
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hunnybunnyxoxo
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
 i cant offer advice because i am a big mush and reading what your dd has been doing made me melt a little!!
ugh!! i wish i could be a toughie!
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Diana1215
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
First I would kick my DH in the azz
Then I think I would put a gate on her door so she can't get out. If she wakes up - one of you get up put her back in her bed and keep doing it until she stays there.
This is all easier for me to write though - I don't know what I'll do when the time actually comes - which is why he will be in his crib until he goes to college!
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KateDevine
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
Can you convert the bed back to a crib?
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Krystal
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
DS use to clim out the crib all the time so I was afraid that he would hurt himself. So DH made the bed a day bed with the rails. At first he would constantly climb out but I would just walk him back to his bed by the 5th or 6th time he stood in his bed.
They sell in babies r us or buybuy baby a tent to go over the regular crimb to keep the kids from climbing out it cost like $ 60 or $70.00 a lot of money but prob worth it.
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Smileyd17
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
Posted by hunnybunnyxoxo
i cant offer advice because i am a big mush and reading what your dd has been doing made me melt a little!!
ugh!! i wish i could be a toughie!
Hello....why do u think she is STILL doing this?
LOL
My DH is the bigger mush than I am
and as much as he isnt ok with it happening esp at 3/4am, in the morning he says, I cant help but love her next to me!
Either way...its not a habit I want to continue. It needs to end...eventually
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PrincessP
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
I think the age group is the end of sleep for the parents. I mean when you gate it she is going to scream anyhow. Ive given in like your dh and of course we have all the problems that you have mentioned. Eventually as they get older they just learn to seperate (well at least I hope  )
Not sure what the true magical pill would be bc I am sure its not what Jo Frost does and come down to their level and talk it out... my dd just doesnt get it. Lets just hope the phase fades away FAST!
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dm24angel
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
Posted by PrincessP
I think the age group is the end of sleep for the parents. I mean when you gate it she is going to scream anyhow. Ive given in like your dh and of course we have all the problems that you have mentioned. Eventually as they get older they just learn to seperate (well at least I hope )
Not sure what the true magical pill would be bc I am sure its not what Jo Frost does and come down to their level and talk it out... my dd just doesnt get it. Lets just hope the phase fades away FAST!
I agree, I wish I knew b/c we have tried just about everything UNDER the sun to get our son to stay in his bed and its impossibel and so we really cannot make ourselves nuts night after night and are about to just give in. After trying for 11 months, we are resigning to the mistakes we made early inhis life resulted inthis and this is our punishment....LOL
If I figure it out, I will let ya know ASAP! 
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dooodles
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
Deb,
I am right there with you and I feel the pain you are experiencing with Gianna. I wish I had some answers that could actually help you – here is what we are dealing with:
Once Victoria learned how to climb out of her crib, we also took down the side of her crib and put up the toddler rail (I’m pretty sure I would have killed DH for doing it earlier since she was a great sleeper......THEN). She went from the girl who as soon as you put her in the crib would drop and go to sleep the entire night and has now done a complete about face to the girl who seems terrified to lie down in the same exact bed, just with a side missing.
I have tried putting in some of her favorite stuffed animals which were never with her in bed before, reading her books to her in HER bed, telling her she is a big girl with HER own big girl bed periodically during the day but yet nothing seems to work. She really screams like she is being tortured when I try to lie her down or even ask her to sit on her bed (now jumping on the mattress she is okay with  ) ).
Since DH is not home at night, the past few weeks she has fallen asleep next to me in our bed and then I move her to her bed. She does wake up crying looking for me and again, will scream like she’s being tortured if I try to put her back before she is asleep. With DH not being there and my belly to big to lie next to her on the floor, this is what works for us right now.
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beachgirl13
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
Keep putting her back in the bed. It might take a bunch of times, but eventually she will get the message that you are serious. If you don't do it, she'll just keep coming into your bed. Good luck! 
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Need some advice, RE: DD coming into our bed
Posted by Mikismom
I close miki's door and we have a safety cover on the knob so she cannot open the door, is that cruel and unusual punishment?
that's what I did with Roman. He eventually would just get back in bed when he saw we weren't coming in.
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