Re: Need to hear feedback-LONG sorry

Posted by DRMom

Just so you all know my DH is actually a great husband but overwhelmed a bit too so don't hold it against him

Re: Need to hear feedback-LONG sorry

Posted by DRMom
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Thanks everyone else for understanding my post and the advice. Just so you all know my DH is actually a great husband but overwhelmed a bit too so don't hold it against him

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I can understand think too many DHs fall into the habit of letting us take care of baby so much, and never take care of ourselves. Dealing with similar issues and feelings here, you are so not alone.

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I give u a lot of credit... as the primary caregiver to ONE baby I could never imagine having to do this with two. I can't tell u how many times a day I just wanna run away from the screaming and crying. Your doing a great job!

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You sound like a fantastic Mommy! Attentive and loving are words that pop into my head... I take care of DD from the time she wakes up [usually around 6:30am] until I hand her off to my husband at 2:30pm and continue on to work at 3:15pm until midnight. Then I sleep from 1:30am until 6:30am and do it all over again! It is stressful and hectic with only one baby so I can only imagine what it's like with twins. I think there would be something wrong with you if you never got frustrated! lol. Hang in there Mommy! You are doing a fantastic job! Your boys are gorgeous, healthy and happy... enough said!!

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OMG, are you serious????????? I would have walked out the door and said, Im taking a break and drove somewhere for a nice 3 hours and see how he liked it.

NO WAY...Wrong wrong wrong. You need like at least 2 more plants and some ROSES and an APOLOGY after that comment!

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We all have our moments.... you are NOT a bad mom. When I have a hectic/stressful day, I can't get them to bed fast enough. I have been known to cut many things out of their evening routine - bath, storytime, or relaxing/cuddle time when I need me time.

In the evenings, sometimes I go to Starbucks to be alone after they've gone to bed. I usually go to the store for at least 2 hours every Sat just to get away. Then sometimes, I just drink - alot.

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Absolutely...I have my fair share of frustration...and so has DH. We snap we bicker...we make up and move on.

We are at the point where we no longer let the stress and frustration get to us...if I snap DH ignores it...if he was hurt by it he says something and accepts my apology...vice versa. We both are guilty of it and both know it comes from frustration...not from anything intentional or malicious. So that makes it easier to brush off....BUT...we make it a point not to take that for granted and try to just talk through some of the tough times and make sure that we tell the other (often) how much we appreciate them.

At the end of the day...I know that whatever it may be that we accomplished...we did it together.


But back to the frustration...it's so normal..please don't be hard on yourself for it. You most certainly need a break...and your children need both parents to comfort them...it's not always just mommy.


Through all the hard times I think to myself...just wait...little kids little problems...big kids big problems. We signed up for one of the most challenging yet rewards jobs out there.

Re: Need to hear feedback-LONG sorry

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Posted by Porrruss

Oh Melissa- if you SAW the temper tantrums I've thrown outside of each of my DDs rooms at 3am, you'd be . I've also called my sister at odd times to have her talk me out of the trees. I swear the DHs use that "You're the mother" thing to hide the fact that they're useless.

I swear, some days I am just thankful I got through it without beating one or shaking the other.......

*BTW.... that last line was a JOKE for anyone wanting to get up in arms about it ('cause we all know there are).*

I want you to know- YOU are a super hero in my eyes. Anytime I've been ready to get in my car and drive away to Tahiti, I think of all the twin+ mommies out there doing what I do, but times TWO. It astounds me (and makes me feel awful for being frustrated with just one).

Wow-you just spoke right to my heart Amy! Thank you so much

Thanks everyone else for understanding my post and the advice. Just so you all know my DH is actually a great husband but overwhelmed a bit too so don't hold it against him

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You have every right to be upset. I am a twin mommy too, I think it is unfair for him to expect it all be on you. You are doing a lot during the day by yourself (working and having them home). I give you a lot of credit!

On a side note, I know my Dh and I did our most fighting/bickering the first few months. It does get better.

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You have every right to get frustrated. If you didn't I'd think there was something wrong with you. I used to get like this when I only had ONE baby, and I can't even IMAGINE what it is like to have two. At least you know your boys well enought to know what they need and what will make them feel better -- I don't think I ever knew that about my DD. Keep your head up high. You're a great mom doing a fantastic job!!