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tran92
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
for starters some kids are not physically ready to train early. they can't hold their pee, or they can't hold it long enough. and if you do manage to get a very young kid to train like that, is it that they are trained, or are you trained to rush them to the potty every hour on the hour?
older kids are more physically ready, and emotionally ready to handle it. and its a big reason why the older kids train in a very short period of time while the younger ones can take weeks and months to get it right.
my son wasn't trained until he was 4. yes you read that right, 4... and that was only for pee. took longer for poop. he was also severely speech delayed. so some things took longer. it wasn't an issue for me.
he's now in K, and he's fully trained, night and day. he got there, just took a little longer.
i think forcibly training a kid or introducing it too early is just going to backfire and make life more stressfull for everyone involved. when the kid is ready, the kid is ready and will do what he or shee needs to do.
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aliwnec10
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
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Posted by krissy888
I feel like YUCK I would not want to be changing a 3 year olds diaper!
ETA I will push DS to potty train very early
I agree.
I am so shocked by these responses. My niece is going to be 3 in a few months and is not potty trained. I am completely shocked that my brother and SIL aren't pushing for it. Why? Because who would want to change dirty diapers that long? NOT ME!  I can tell you that right now.
There's no judgement there. Just that i can't imagine doing that for that long or expecting my in laws to change ds's diapers that long! They don't even like to change the poopy diapers as it is now.
honestly...these comments are crazy...do I LIKE changing diapers/pull-ups/underwear when she poops or pees her pants??? No. But, seriously, some kids just take longer.
That's fine. But like the OP said, my brother/SIL haven't even initiated it. That's what i find odd.
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| Posted 12/15/08 8:10 PM |
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DaniRN
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
Posted by mommy2bella
At 3 years and 3 months, Bella has FINALLY stopped crapping her pants and I quote "Because I like to"
We tried everything...bribery, rewards, rational talks, sticker charts...she basically did it when she wanted to...basically like most everything in the past 3+ years.
I was so pressured until my ped told me last year, do NOT worry until she is 4...of course, if there are schools and activities that require potty training, that's different...
FYI though, my child NEVER smells like poop, regardless of where she winds up going.
Same situation here-Jenna was "peepee" trained completely at 3 but refused to go poop in the potty. She would insisit on a pull-up. I brought it up to the ped and he told me to not at all force the situation but she will go when she is ready-sure enough at 3 1/2 she trained herself.
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| Posted 12/15/08 8:21 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
I have to say that potty training is one of the most stressful things for parents (most cases, some parents are lucky enough that the kid practically trains themselves)
That said training a child before they are ready can be forcing them and can lead to problems when they are older, such as bedwetting, and holding in their poop, etc. So IMHO I think you should wait till they are ready, not when the parent wants them to be ready.
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| Posted 12/15/08 8:23 PM |
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DaniRN
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
Posted by Stacey1403
I have to say that potty training is one of the most stressful things for parents (most cases, some parents are lucky enough that the kid practically trains themselves)
That said training a child before they are ready can be forcing them and can lead to problems when they are older, such as bedwetting, and holding in their poop, etc. So IMHO I think you should wait till they are ready, not when the parent wants them to be ready.
Exactly what my ped said as to why I shouldn't "force" Jenna to poop in the potty.
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| Posted 12/15/08 8:26 PM |
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
Posted by missrock
I am trying not to judge, i just dont understand how you CANNOT try to potty train your kid before age 3.
Because at age 3 both of my girls trained in less than 4 days. I tried with my older DD at 2 1/2 and it was a constant struggle. At 3, once I started telling her to go on the potty, she had it down by the end of the first day.
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| Posted 12/15/08 8:46 PM |
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
lol I'm thinking back to an old post where a kid went to the potty in the person's back yard. That was a good thread!!!
I'd say after 3 is on the later side but completely normal.
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| Posted 12/15/08 8:51 PM |
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avamamma
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
Ava showed some interest at about 18 months. I was soo excited that I bought a musical potty, videos, stickers. She lost interest quickly.
I waited until she turned 3 to really focus on it. She was fully trained in about 3 days.
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twicethefun
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
Posted by missrock
Posted by laurabora
I really don't get why you'd even care enough about it to post this.
Congratulations to you if your child was ready way before the age of three. My first DS was a few months shy of three and trained day and night in three days (I think because I waited and he was ready). I tried similar timing with DS2 and it has been a nightmare. Every kid is different and every mother has their reasons for doing things the way they do.
No need to get nasty. Seems like some people are a little defensive about this topic. What I was trying to say is that I think its odd that moms don’t even attempt to TRY potty training until 3. IMO, this process should be started earlier than 3. Im not saying at age 2 they should be trained but maybe introduce it and if it doesn’t work and the kid is not ready then so be it – but at least you tried. Then you give it a couple of months and try again. If you saw my OP then you would see what I mean.
Its funny how so many people take their kid off the bottle at 1 year old, but don’t potty train until 3. It doesn’t make sense to me. I’d rather see a kid at age 3 drinking a bottle then smell like poop.
Oh, and my DD is not even 2 yet and yes, I have the potty ready to go and I have had her sit on it already just to get used to it. I plan on trying a couple of months after her 2nd b’day. This is just MY OPINION….everyone has one. Im not judging the kid…I am kind of judging the mom who hasn’t even tried to potty train. Im sorry if any of you are taking offense to that.
Go ahead flame away…I am ready.
Um, did you just actually infer that laurabora was getting nasty? I think you should reread YOUR OWN POSTS!
There is actually a reason to get rid of bottles at one if you can....to protect a babies teeth. Not that I care when anyone chooses to get rid of the bottle.
I hate to break it to you, but all mommies and children are different. Maybe your friend just worries about different things than you do. Personally my son took to the potty at 2 no problem, but then two months later had constipation issues lasting him until age 4. With constipation issues came other potty issues. My dd is going to have to do it herself because I wm not going to even think about it until age three.
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05mommy09
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
I think the OP wasnt judging the child for NOT being trained at 3.
Sometimes kids arent ready, sometimes they just DONT train, but this isnt whats going on... Its hasnt even been introduced at 3yrs old. The child hasnt been given the chance to even show whether he/she is ready yet.
So while many of your children were still crapping in their pants at 3yrs 3 months- you still did YOUR part to try and TEACH your child, that CRAP goes in the toilet
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missrock
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
Posted by 05mommy09
I think the OP wasnt judging the child for NOT being trained at 3.
Sometimes kids arent ready, sometimes they just DONT train, but this isnt whats going on... Its hasnt even been introduced at 3yrs old. The child hasnt been given the chance to even show whether he/she is ready yet.
So while many of your children were still crapping in their pants at 3yrs 3 months- you still did YOUR part to try and TEACH your child, that CRAP goes in the toilet
Thank you!!! Finally, someone who understands what I am getting at. 
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MrsR
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Re: Not potty trained until over 3 years old….
Posted by 05mommy09
Im really surprised- most preschools wont even accept an unpotty trained child.Gymnastics wouldnt even accept them untrained...
IMO- At 2yrs old they are so much more receptive to training, waiting until 3 becomes more challenging.
But to each their own!
This is a great example of every kid being different. My DD wanted NOTHING to do with it when she was 2. I trained her 2 weeks before her third birthday and it was a breeze.
With my next child, unless they show an interest earlier I will probably just wait until they are three - it's just easier for everyone that way in my experience.
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