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teaforthree
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People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
What's the etiquette on this?
We are bordering on our room max. Our invitations didn't even go out yet and I was already asked if someone I never even met (a family friend's grown daughter) can bring her 1 1/2 y/o daughter.
I remember going to showers with my mom when I was a little girl, so I hate to say no. But I also feel like if I say yes to some, I have to say yes to everyone. Is that true, or can we have only family bring daughters?
I hate these guest list questions... it brings back wedding guest list nightmares!!!
Also, would people think to bring their SONS to a baby shower?
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MichLiz213
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
We're not having kids at my shower. My family and DH's family is huge to begin with. We just can't accommodate all the kids too.
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| Posted 4/17/11 7:35 PM |
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dlj97
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
We told everyone no babies - to me, it is not the place for them.
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| Posted 4/17/11 7:40 PM |
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sunflowerjesss
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
I told everyone no.
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| Posted 4/17/11 7:57 PM |
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BriBri2u
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
I told everyone no...and still had 15 kids at my shower
It started with a few people saying they HAD to bring dc for whatever reason
In the end I felt if some were insisting they bring their dc I had to open it up to everyone else.
I think it's so rude of people to insist on bringing their child or even asking when it was said no children. Don't go to the shower if you can't find a sitter.
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| Posted 4/17/11 8:18 PM |
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M514
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
someone showed up to my bridal shower with the 1 year old daughter and they never even asked if they could bring her. im saying no to children again for my baby shower if anyone asks, but we'll see if this same person shows up with her daughter again.
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| Posted 4/17/11 8:32 PM |
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springsandra
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
My baby shower was in our home. I told everyone they were welcome to bring their babies. Especially since it was either bring them or not come and we weren't in a situation where we had to worry about space. We had 4 young babies and a toddler there, and it was very cute.
You have to make a decision that you're comfortable with. If you truly are not going to have the space for the babies because you're at your max, then saying "no" to all babies will also cut out some of your guests which could work for you. Just try to remember in a few months when you're invited somewhere and you want to bring your baby how you feel now.
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| Posted 4/17/11 8:40 PM |
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drwifettc
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
We had kids at my shower (bridal and baby). We have so many kids in our family that it's impossible not to include them. However, both of my showers were at my parents house so space wasn't an issue. I have to say it was super cute to have my 3 year old cousin comment about all the stuff and tell me how cute it was or how she had that and loves it, ha.
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| Posted 4/17/11 8:42 PM |
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
I said no kids for my bridal shower...but welcomed them to the baby shower. To me it made sense to have kids at a baby shower...I am about to become a mommy.
I don't think it is appropriate to bring a SON to a baby shower though, only little girls were invited to mine, and I'm pretty sure my mom included the girls names on the invites.
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| Posted 4/17/11 9:35 PM |
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KPsquared
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
If you were having friends and family bringing children I would say sure but if only one person wants to bring kids I would tell her its adults only.
Message edited 4/17/2011 10:26:16 PM.
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| Posted 4/17/11 10:25 PM |
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littlebeanz
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
I would just say your not really having kids, and if they bring them then theres nothing you can do...I can understand a 6 yO but not a baby!!!
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| Posted 4/17/11 10:56 PM |
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MrsW2010
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
its up to you...I told everyone to feel free to bring their kids because the kiddies were sad they didn't get invited to the wedding and I wanted to make it up to all our little cousins, but most people wanted a kid free day for themselves and left them home....
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| Posted 4/17/11 11:00 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Helll to the freaking no.
If you are having it at a place, and running out of room, you need to put your foot down now and say "No sorry, no kids allowed."
I'm sorry but this really chaps my @ss these days. Why do people have the BALLS to even ask this kind of question?? It makes the host uncomfortable and causes nothing but awkward moments. Get a sitter, or do not go. That's it...those are the 2 options in my book. Maybe it's because when I was a kid, my mom never bothered to ask such a question and if she had a shower or something to go to, either she'd decline if she couldn't have someone watch my brother and I, or she'd handle child care in some way.
I find it ESPECIALLY rude that you don't even really know this woman and she is asking such a question. 
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| Posted 4/17/11 11:13 PM |
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BeachGal
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
I invited my nieces only because I think they will have a good time. I can't even imagine anyone else asking though.
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| Posted 4/18/11 7:03 AM |
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Kim7706
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
I would say no....esp if you are getting near your limit....
The only way I would say yes, is if it was family.
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| Posted 4/18/11 9:12 AM |
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DeeGoody78
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
this is an issue that always comes up when it comes to weddings, showers, etc and everyone has their own opinion about it. in my opinion- it's all or none. this will def create unnecessary resentment among your family members/friends if you pick and choose. unless your invite specifically says "no children" it's an open invitation- especially if it's a baby (or even 1 & 1/2 yr olds) because babies are typically not counted in your headcount at the catering hall. they aren't entitled to a seat because they are too small and usually sit on their parent's lap or they are in a carrier- and they don't eat the food. this is how it was at our wedding. i think it's considerate of people to ask permission if the invitation does not say "no children" because they aren't just assuming it's ok to bring them. personally, i don't mind children at events... however, it does annoy me when the children help opening the gifts at showers- they usually aren't paying attention and they slow down the process b/c they are busy playing with the bows.
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| Posted 4/18/11 9:25 AM |
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Rycois
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Your shower - your call. You have to do what you are comfortable with.
Personally, I had no issues with babies at my showers - bridal and baby. I enjoy having them there - but it is a personal decision.
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| Posted 4/18/11 9:26 AM |
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
In our family, the rule of thumb is only relative children (if any) are invited to events like showers and weddings. Otherwise, you can wind up with a situation where kids out-number the adults and I think it takes away from the guest of honor. Secondly, why do ppl even ask...if the name isn't on the invite, then that person (kid or grown-up) isn't invited. Etiquette 101!!
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| Posted 4/18/11 9:38 AM |
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jasmine
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
I have never even heard of this!
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MarisaK
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Posted by DeeGoody78
this is an issue that always comes up when it comes to weddings, showers, etc and everyone has their own opinion about it. in my opinion- it's all or none. this will def create unnecessary resentment among your family members/friends if you pick and choose. unless your invite specifically says "no children" it's an open invitation- especially if it's a baby (or even 1 & 1/2 yr olds) because babies are typically not counted in your headcount at the catering hall. they aren't entitled to a seat because they are too small and usually sit on their parent's lap or they are in a carrier- and they don't eat the food. this is how it was at our wedding. i think it's considerate of people to ask permission if the invitation does not say "no children" because they aren't just assuming it's ok to bring them. personally, i don't mind children at events... however, it does annoy me when the children help opening the gifts at showers- they usually aren't paying attention and they slow down the process b/c they are busy playing with the bows.
I have to totally and completely DISagree with this - Etiquitte - wise you absolutely DO NOT assume your children are included on an invitation - If the invitation is addressed to Mr. & Mrs. - or Mrs. So and So, or Marisa K - Your kids are probably not invited, if it's addressed to The X Family - Ok, different story - I have NEVER seen an invitation state "No Children Allowed" I can't even imagine a tactful way to phrase that on a written invitation -
And to call the guest of honor and ask if you can bring your child is rude - Hello? Don't ANY of these kids have Daddies ??? My husband is perfectly capable of taking care of his son for a few hours while I attend an event, and if he's not available for whatever reason, I find alternate care, or I decline the invitation - You don't put it on the host or guest of honor to have to feel uncomfortable and say 'yes' or 'no' to you re: bringing your kid - I don't care if the baby is 2 months old or 2 years old -
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| Posted 4/18/11 10:33 AM |
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Ready4aBaby
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Personally.. I feel that if your child's name is not on the invite you shouldn't ask if they can come. I would much rather people not ask whether it's ok or not, and I also hate when people assume that it's ok to bring babies. I see that happen a lot.. 
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| Posted 4/18/11 10:36 AM |
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Posted by dlj97
We told everyone no babies - to me, it is not the place for them.
Agreed.
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| Posted 4/18/11 10:38 AM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by DeeGoody78
this is an issue that always comes up when it comes to weddings, showers, etc and everyone has their own opinion about it. in my opinion- it's all or none. this will def create unnecessary resentment among your family members/friends if you pick and choose. unless your invite specifically says "no children" it's an open invitation- especially if it's a baby (or even 1 & 1/2 yr olds) because babies are typically not counted in your headcount at the catering hall. they aren't entitled to a seat because they are too small and usually sit on their parent's lap or they are in a carrier- and they don't eat the food. this is how it was at our wedding. i think it's considerate of people to ask permission if the invitation does not say "no children" because they aren't just assuming it's ok to bring them. personally, i don't mind children at events... however, it does annoy me when the children help opening the gifts at showers- they usually aren't paying attention and they slow down the process b/c they are busy playing with the bows.
I have to totally and completely DISagree with this - Etiquitte - wise you absolutely DO NOT assume your children are included on an invitation - If the invitation is addressed to Mr. & Mrs. - or Mrs. So and So, or Marisa K - Your kids are probably not invited, if it's addressed to The X Family - Ok, different story - I have NEVER seen an invitation state "No Children Allowed" I can't even imagine a tactful way to phrase that on a written invitation -
And to call the guest of honor and ask if you can bring your child is rude - Hello? Don't ANY of these kids have Daddies ??? My husband is perfectly capable of taking care of his son for a few hours while I attend an event, and if he's not available for whatever reason, I find alternate care, or I decline the invitation - You don't put it on the host or guest of honor to have to feel uncomfortable and say 'yes' or 'no' to you re: bringing your kid - I don't care if the baby is 2 months old or 2 years old -
I agree with you... and as far as a tactful way to say no kids... "Adult Only"
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Posted by DeeGoody78
this is an issue that always comes up when it comes to weddings, showers, etc and everyone has their own opinion about it. in my opinion- it's all or none. this will def create unnecessary resentment among your family members/friends if you pick and choose. unless your invite specifically says "no children" it's an open invitation- especially if it's a baby (or even 1 & 1/2 yr olds) because babies are typically not counted in your headcount at the catering hall. they aren't entitled to a seat because they are too small and usually sit on their parent's lap or they are in a carrier- and they don't eat the food. this is how it was at our wedding. i think it's considerate of people to ask permission if the invitation does not say "no children" because they aren't just assuming it's ok to bring them. personally, i don't mind children at events... however, it does annoy me when the children help opening the gifts at showers- they usually aren't paying attention and they slow down the process b/c they are busy playing with the bows.
Utterly and 10000% disagree with you, I'm sorry but how the heck can you say that children are an open invite? Invitations are for the people who are listed on the invite.
Your child is NOT invited if they are NOT included. Why would anyone assume this is beyond me. Babies & toddlers especially should not be assumed to be invited, and arrangements should be made by the guest.
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BriBri2u
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Posted by DeeGoody78
this is an issue that always comes up when it comes to weddings, showers, etc and everyone has their own opinion about it. in my opinion- it's all or none. this will def create unnecessary resentment among your family members/friends if you pick and choose. unless your invite specifically says "no children" it's an open invitation- especially if it's a baby (or even 1 & 1/2 yr olds) because babies are typically not counted in your headcount at the catering hall. they aren't entitled to a seat because they are too small and usually sit on their parent's lap or they are in a carrier- and they don't eat the food. this is how it was at our wedding. i think it's considerate of people to ask permission if the invitation does not say "no children" because they aren't just assuming it's ok to bring them. personally, i don't mind children at events... however, it does annoy me when the children help opening the gifts at showers- they usually aren't paying attention and they slow down the process b/c they are busy playing with the bows.
I have to disagree with this.
Unless noted on the invite children should not be considred invited. There are a time and place for children and for me and others - a baby/bridal shower is not the place.
I had to deal with 15 children surrounding me when I was opening my gifts.
Who was opening something before I had a chance to even open the card, who was pulling riboons and bows off of nicely wrapped packaged before I could see them.
They were running around, crawling under tables etc. Anyone who thinks they will stayed seated in their parents laps the entire time is kidding themselves.
It was so aggravating and I could NOT wait for my shower to be over with. The worst part was when I found out that HALF the husbands/fathers were all at one of the attendee's houses having a BBQ  ummm why couldn't they watch their children??
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