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MrsPJB2007
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Posted by BriBri2u
It was so aggravating and I could NOT wait for my shower to be over with. The worst part was when I found out that HALF the husbands/fathers were all at one of the attendee's houses having a BBQ  ummm why couldn't they watch their children??
Omg I am so sorry that happened to you! That makes me see RED  and I find the rudeness of people to be utterly disgusting.
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RocPin
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by DeeGoody78
this is an issue that always comes up when it comes to weddings, showers, etc and everyone has their own opinion about it. in my opinion- it's all or none. this will def create unnecessary resentment among your family members/friends if you pick and choose. unless your invite specifically says "no children" it's an open invitation- especially if it's a baby (or even 1 & 1/2 yr olds) because babies are typically not counted in your headcount at the catering hall. they aren't entitled to a seat because they are too small and usually sit on their parent's lap or they are in a carrier- and they don't eat the food. this is how it was at our wedding. i think it's considerate of people to ask permission if the invitation does not say "no children" because they aren't just assuming it's ok to bring them. personally, i don't mind children at events... however, it does annoy me when the children help opening the gifts at showers- they usually aren't paying attention and they slow down the process b/c they are busy playing with the bows.
I have to totally and completely DISagree with this - Etiquitte - wise you absolutely DO NOT assume your children are included on an invitation - If the invitation is addressed to Mr. & Mrs. - or Mrs. So and So, or Marisa K - Your kids are probably not invited, if it's addressed to The X Family - Ok, different story - I have NEVER seen an invitation state "No Children Allowed" I can't even imagine a tactful way to phrase that on a written invitation -
And to call the guest of honor and ask if you can bring your child is rude - Hello? Don't ANY of these kids have Daddies ??? My husband is perfectly capable of taking care of his son for a few hours while I attend an event, and if he's not available for whatever reason, I find alternate care, or I decline the invitation - You don't put it on the host or guest of honor to have to feel uncomfortable and say 'yes' or 'no' to you re: bringing your kid - I don't care if the baby is 2 months old or 2 years old -
Yep I agree. Im not having children at my shower and I would not be offended if I was invited to a shower and my child was not. Id find a sitter or I would not attend. I would never assume it was ok to bring them. Unfortunately, many do.
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| Posted 4/18/11 11:11 AM |
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FirstMate
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
IMO, the etiquette is not to ask the host if you can bring someone that is not invited.
This is your shower, not a block party. I would tell them no.
This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. I think it's completely ridiculous how people feel they should be able to bring their kids everywhere.
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| Posted 4/18/11 11:47 AM |
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lynnd126
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Eh, I remember being annoyed when a guest at my wedding asked to bring her 5 month old baby. I said yes b/c I would never want to create any family drama (esp. bc it was my DH's side) but I was nervous the baby would cry during the ceremony or something.
A shower- meh- not so much. I had a ton of invited kids at mine and thought the more the merrier- esp since they are either free or half price when they're more like school aged. I think a baby shower esp celebrates children and it's good clean fun- not like everyone's getting wasted or something.
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luckyinlove
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
I do have to say that although I used to feel very adamant about children not being at these events, now that I have a DD of my own, and a DH who seems to always be working on the days that I have to go to these events, I do appreciate when I can bring her. I don't ask unless it is a close family member or friend, but when people do openly invite her it is a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders.
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| Posted 4/18/11 1:05 PM |
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Babylove10
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
Posted by DeeGoody78
this is an issue that always comes up when it comes to weddings, showers, etc and everyone has their own opinion about it. in my opinion- it's all or none. this will def create unnecessary resentment among your family members/friends if you pick and choose. unless your invite specifically says "no children" it's an open invitation- especially if it's a baby (or even 1 & 1/2 yr olds) because babies are typically not counted in your headcount at the catering hall. they aren't entitled to a seat because they are too small and usually sit on their parent's lap or they are in a carrier- and they don't eat the food. this is how it was at our wedding. i think it's considerate of people to ask permission if the invitation does not say "no children" because they aren't just assuming it's ok to bring them. personally, i don't mind children at events... however, it does annoy me when the children help opening the gifts at showers- they usually aren't paying attention and they slow down the process b/c they are busy playing with the bows.
I agree with this. I didn't mind kids or babies at my shower unless they were going to get in the way. Especially if they are my family. I would ask permission and expect an answer straight forward.
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| Posted 4/18/11 3:54 PM |
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kahlua716
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
I've asked a few times. I guess I'm tacky  
1- was for a friend's bridal shower. DH was supposed to be home with DD and at the last minute was offered a side job for $300. We needed the money, so he called his friend (the groom) and the host and asked if it was ok for me to bring DD. She was in the high chair 90% of the time and we were in the corner so I don't think she disturbed anything. I'm glad she was there because the girls I was sitting with all sat discussing a party one of them was having that night that I wasn't invited to.
2-was for my SIL's baby shower. I asked if I was supposed to bring DD. I didn't look at the envelope when I got it (and I think it was only addressed to me anyhow). My SIL's mom said "of course you should bring her!"
When I ask I always say "Is my daughter invited" not "can I bring."
Little girls were welcome to my bridal and baby showers.
You have to do what you feel comfortable with.  It's YOUR shower and you can choose who gets to come.
ETA: I think if children are disrupting the event- then it's the parents' fault and I wouldn't invite THEM the next time. j/k- but seriously, people who bring their kids and then let them steal the show or rip apart gifts are the ones who are tacky! I'm sorry for those who had to deal with that 
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| Posted 4/18/11 4:05 PM |
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bella321
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Re: People who ask to bring their daughters to baby shower?
This was an issue for me, too. My cousin's wife asked her mom (my aunt) to ask my mom if she could bring her daughter. The room was packed already but I was really tuned off by the whole "telephone game" of asking.
I think kids are a no-no unless the guest of honor approves of it.
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