Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

so since I crashed the parenting board w/ my question anyway, I'll crash your post As you know I don't have experience w/ this personally, but by the time we have our 2nd I will most likely be 35 or older. For the record my mom had me at 36 (almost 37) and that was like ANCIENT back then! lol Good luck with your decision babe, you know I'd LOVE you to have another so our little one will have a playmate close in age but of course that's just for my own selfish reasons lol I know you have a lot to think about with this!!

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

Posted by HelenZ

so since I crashed the parenting board w/ my question anyway, I'll crash your post As you know I don't have experience w/ this personally, but by the time we have our 2nd I will most likely be 35 or older. For the record my mom had me at 36 (almost 37) and that was like ANCIENT back then! lol Good luck with your decision babe, you know I'd LOVE you to have another so our little one will have a playmate close in age but of course that's just for my own selfish reasons lol I know you have a lot to think about with this!!

Message edited 6/7/2012 12:09:27 PM.

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

Posted by JenandMikey

Posted by HelenZ

so since I crashed the parenting board w/ my question anyway, I'll crash your post As you know I don't have experience w/ this personally, but by the time we have our 2nd I will most likely be 35 or older. For the record my mom had me at 36 (almost 37) and that was like ANCIENT back then! lol Good luck with your decision babe, you know I'd LOVE you to have another so our little one will have a playmate close in age but of course that's just for my own selfish reasons lol I know you have a lot to think about with this!!

lololol thanks babe!!!!! i think I'm close to a decision but like you said it's stupid how much time its taking to get to a decision, you know I'm usually good with decision making it's you and my dh that are bad at it maybe I've known and dealt with the two of you too long hope you're feeling ok today??

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

Posted by colette

Other than being DOG TIRED in these toddler years , there has really been no downside for us having a baby at 41.

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

I had my DS at 31, DD at 35 and am 37 and PG with #3, there is no difference. I have some issues this time around, but none of them are age related. The only thing I have heard is that you are at a higher risk for downs and other Chromosomal problems, but all of my tests have come back showing I had the risk of a 20 year old.

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Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

My friend is 37 got pregnant on her first try without intervention and just had a healthy baby boy. She is the oldest in our "group" by 4 years (most of us already have 4 year olds so we were in our late 20s when we got pregnant) She is the one that got pregnant the fastest and had the least complications in her pregnancy. Ironic huh

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

Posted by HelenZ

so since I crashed the parenting board w/ my question anyway, I'll crash your post As you know I don't have experience w/ this personally, but by the time we have our 2nd I will most likely be 35 or older. For the record my mom had me at 36 (almost 37) and that was like ANCIENT back then! lol Good luck with your decision babe, you know I'd LOVE you to have another so our little one will have a playmate close in age but of course that's just for my own selfish reasons lol I know you have a lot to think about with this!!

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

I had DD at 35 and she is PERFECT.....

I was considered high risk but you know for me it was a a great opportunity to see her via ultrasound more so I was happy...

Good luck

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

It really depends and you should go see your doctor to identify your personal risk. I'm only 31 and if I got pregnant today I would be considered high risk because I had preeclampsia before, so everyone is different. Good luck!

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

I'm the same age as you, and I remember talking about kid number three on another thread I talked to my OB a month ago, she feels like 35 is on the older side, but many moms are having at 35, the magic cutoff age.

By 37 ( if I were to wait that long). She said I would have to mentally prepare myself for bad news, miscarriage, trouble conceiving, other issues

My DH is 3.5 years younger then I am, and that is something you need to factor in ( sperm quality, genetic issues fertility etc) How old is your DH?

I had a very long conversation with her, and I finally decided if I am not ready to concieve on my 35th birthday, we won't have a third.

I hope this helps you a bit, but you seem like you really want number three

ETS
If I were to have a third, it would be my 3rd c section as well. This is a huge factor in my decision. I'm afraid to have a third surgery if that makes any sense. What did you doc say about a third c section?

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Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

I had my two babies after the age of 35. Was never considered high risk and my drs never mentioned having an amino either (only if 12 week or 16 week screening came back with numbers that were not good) I hope you go for the 3rd . Best of luck Pregnancy is one of those things you cant control I know girls that were wayyyyy younger than me and had issues with their pregnancies.

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

Posted by maybesoon

I talked to my OB a month ago, she feels like 35 is on the older side, but many moms are having at 35, the magic cutoff age.

By 37 ( if I were to wait that long). She said I would have to mentally prepare myself for bad news, miscarriage, trouble conceiving, other issues

My DH is 3.5 years younger then I am, and that is something you need to factor in ( sperm quality, genetic issues fertility etc) How old is your DH?

I had a very long conversation with her, and I finally decided if I am not ready to concieve on my 35th birthday, we won't have a third.

I hope this helps you a bit, but you seem like you really want number three

Message edited 6/7/2012 3:33:05 PM.

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

Posted by Goobster

Posted by maybesoon

I talked to my OB a month ago, she feels like 35 is on the older side, but many moms are having at 35, the magic cutoff age.

By 37 ( if I were to wait that long). She said I would have to mentally prepare myself for bad news, miscarriage, trouble conceiving, other issues

My DH is 3.5 years younger then I am, and that is something you need to factor in ( sperm quality, genetic issues fertility etc) How old is your DH?

I had a very long conversation with her, and I finally decided if I am not ready to concieve on my 35th birthday, we won't have a third.

I hope this helps you a bit, but you seem like you really want number three

So not looking for drama, but I have to say I am surprised to read this. I dont hear any doctors talking about over 35 negatively much these days. Women are having babies over 40 and their first one at that. Sort of surprised your doctor would say this. Again, not looking for drama, just totally surprised.

To the OP, most women I know these days have had at least one child or MORE after 35, and their doctors are never concerned. We have alot of screening that helps identify any possible problems. Are the odds greater of something being wrong over 35? Yes. BUT...that risk is posed with every pregnancy, so pretty much every pregnancy poses a risk that could come into play.

I would totally go for it, b/c in my mind, even if the risk is greater, every pregnancy poses a risk we all must consider could happen.

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

Posted by alli3131

Posted by Goobster

Posted by maybesoon

I talked to my OB a month ago, she feels like 35 is on the older side, but many moms are having at 35, the magic cutoff age.

By 37 ( if I were to wait that long). She said I would have to mentally prepare myself for bad news, miscarriage, trouble conceiving, other issues

My DH is 3.5 years younger then I am, and that is something you need to factor in ( sperm quality, genetic issues fertility etc) How old is your DH?

I had a very long conversation with her, and I finally decided if I am not ready to concieve on my 35th birthday, we won't have a third.

I hope this helps you a bit, but you seem like you really want number three

So not looking for drama, but I have to say I am surprised to read this. I dont hear any doctors talking about over 35 negatively much these days. Women are having babies over 40 and their first one at that. Sort of surprised your doctor would say this. Again, not looking for drama, just totally surprised.

To the OP, most women I know these days have had at least one child or MORE after 35, and their doctors are never concerned. We have alot of screening that helps identify any possible problems. Are the odds greater of something being wrong over 35? Yes. BUT...that risk is posed with every pregnancy, so pretty much every pregnancy poses a risk that could come into play.

I would totally go for it, b/c in my mind, even if the risk is greater, every pregnancy poses a risk we all must consider could happen.

I have to agree. I am shocked an OB would even say this. I saw 2 OBs during my pregnancy and neither had any concerns. And once I went to a hgih risk for non age related issues he said age was not an issue that I was fine.

I also saw 2 REs again not age related and neither had any concerns with my age. all my issues were just medical issues that I have always had. My Drs were nto even concerned about higher risk of Downs etc. My one Dr said if you really start to research the rates in "older women" they really aren't higher.

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Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

I actually wasn't worried at all with being pregnant with my third. My midwives were the ones that mentioned to me on my first visit that I will turn 35 during gestation (2wks before due date ) They just wanted to send me to a specialist for the level II, I had no problem with that. I did suffer a miscarriage at 10weeks before this pregnancy(luckily no D&C was needed). So far all my tests are coming back great, I even have numbers better than some woman where age isn't a concern. Ie downs and trisomies were better than if I was 25, glucose is a 95(no where near 140) I'm 30 weeks now and hopefully everything will be good from here on out. Like another poster said, I think it is just a caution and that maybe once we hit 35 we should be more aware that something more likely could happen. And that we need to be comfortable with that.

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

Posted by maybesoon

I'm the same age as you, and I remember talking about kid number three on another thread I talked to my OB a month ago, she feels like 35 is on the older side, but many moms are having at 35, the magic cutoff age.

By 37 ( if I were to wait that long). She said I would have to mentally prepare myself for bad news, miscarriage, trouble conceiving, other issues

My DH is 3.5 years younger then I am, and that is something you need to factor in ( sperm quality, genetic issues fertility etc) How old is your DH?

I had a very long conversation with her, and I finally decided if I am not ready to concieve on my 35th birthday, we won't have a third.

I hope this helps you a bit, but you seem like you really want number three

ETS
If I were to have a third, it would be my 3rd c section as well. This is a huge factor in my decision. I'm afraid to have a third surgery if that makes any sense. What did you doc say about a third c section?

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

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Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

In terms of c sections, I think it depends on how your surgeries went, how much scar tissue you have, how soon after your last pregnancy you get pregnant again etc etc. Some people are told to stop at 2, and my dr at one point told me he had a patient on her 7th (!) c section! so it all depends on the individual patient.
I am planning to go for #3 at some point. I had DD at 32, DS at 34 and I will be 35 in Sept. I do NOT want to get pregnant again for at least another year. DS was a difficult infant and I need to recover some more from that! Ialso want to lose some weight. I am planning to TTC when I am 36 and hopefully, it will happen fairly quickly. That will be my last baby and my 3rd c section. For me, 36, 37 is my cutoff. I just personally want to be done having babies by 37.

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

My sister was 39 when she gave birth- she had no problems at all.
I was 37 when I gave birth and I just had gestational diabetes. I did have a miscarriage last year, but the doc never said that it was associated with my age.

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

There is a dramatic decrease in a woman's fertility that EXPONENTIALLY increases starting at age 35. It is in all medical textbooks. While women above 35 can go on to have healthy pregnancies, it is a known phenomena that fertility decreases. This is the chart most professionals are referring to:

http://www.babycenter.com/0_chart-the-effect-of-age-on-fertility_6155.bc

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

I was 35 when I got pg and delivered at 36. I did have a miscarriage right before I got pregnant with DS. I don't think it had anything to do with age. I had gotten pregnant on the first try. At what would have been 11 weeks, we found the baby stopped growing around 10 weeks. I had thought given my age and especially since I had the miscarriage I would be high risk when i got pregnant again a month later but the OB said no.

My pregnancy was great. No sickness, no problems with blood pressure or glucose levels. When we did the 12 week and, what was it, 16 week tests, the dr said my numbers were great. I was so afraid that because of my age I should do the amino or CVS test, but the doctor didn't see a need.

The only "issue" I had was that DS was breech and I ended up having to have a Csection but because of another medical condition (unrelated to age or pregnancy) I was knocked out which sucked.

I don't think you have anything to worry about but lots of luck with your decision!

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

I had my trio at 41 and only was considered high risk bc they were triplets.....I had a great pregnancy no health issues at all and my kids are fine without any issues as well.


Good Luck to you!!!!!!!!!

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

I got pregnant with DD when I was 35 and had her just after turning 36.

I am now 20 weeks preggo with #2, and will be a month shy of my 39th birthday when he's born.

I did have an amnio with both, but because I have some genetic issues that would be there no matter how old I was. I thank Gd that both are fine, and am aware that there are higher risks for women over 35, but my OB said that if you are in general good health, the risks are less for you.

If you want it, go for it!!!

Good luck!

Re: please explain what the dangers/risk of getting pregnant at 35 really are?

Posted by Goobster

Posted by maybesoon

I talked to my OB a month ago, she feels like 35 is on the older side, but many moms are having at 35, the magic cutoff age.

By 37 ( if I were to wait that long). She said I would have to mentally prepare myself for bad news, miscarriage, trouble conceiving, other issues

My DH is 3.5 years younger then I am, and that is something you need to factor in ( sperm quality, genetic issues fertility etc) How old is your DH?

I had a very long conversation with her, and I finally decided if I am not ready to concieve on my 35th birthday, we won't have a third.

I hope this helps you a bit, but you seem like you really want number three

So not looking for drama, but I have to say I am surprised to read this. I dont hear any doctors talking about over 35 negatively much these days. Women are having babies over 40 and their first one at that. Sort of surprised your doctor would say this. Again, not looking for drama, just totally surprised.

To the OP, most women I know these days have had at least one child or MORE after 35, and their doctors are never concerned. We have alot of screening that helps identify any possible problems. Are the odds greater of something being wrong over 35? Yes. BUT...that risk is posed with every pregnancy, so pretty much every pregnancy poses a risk that could come into play.

I would totally go for it, b/c in my mind, even if the risk is greater, every pregnancy poses a risk we all must consider could happen.