Re: Preparing Meals for DH:

Who cares what his mom thinks...its what DH thinks/feels/expects and if he is fine with situation...then leave it the way it is!


I dont it for DH....he rather eat out with his hectic job and schedule and hes the cook not me so I wait for him at times.

Re: Preparing Meals for DH:

Posted by MsMBV

Posted by Snozberry
We said love, honor, cherish - not pack your lunch and wipe your azz.

OMG you rock

Re: Preparing Meals for DH:

For lunch, DH and I usually make our lunches together or one of us will make lunch for both of us. But it's not always me doing it for him, it's whoever does it.

As for dinner, in my house, dinner is the responsibility of whoever gets home first. When I'm working, DH gets home first, so he has dinner ready when I get home. But I only work 8 months out of the year, so the rest of the year, dinner is my responsibility.

That's what works for us.

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I used to make our lunches the night before..not pack it..His responsibility.
Now that I am taking care of our son, he makes his lunch and packs it in the AM. Sometimes he feels like "stepping out' and goes out to lunch.
I do cook dinner during the week. He calls when he is leaving and it gives me time to "throw' something together.
If he works really late, I will ask him to grab something on his way home for us. I am not about to start cooking.

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Do I think it's required for you to make his lunch/dinner? Absolutely not.

Do I make DH lunch/dinner every day? Yes.

The reason being:

I have tasted his cooking and it's horrendous. He has attempted to cook meals for me every now and again, but they always come out AWFUL. I would rather just cook dinner myself. I bring leftover dinner for lunch and I pack him a lunch.

Now me making lunch and dinner every night is only a recent development. It was that we were buying lunch every day and either eating cereal/crap for dinner or ordering out. Not only was that costing us a load of money, but its making us fat, too!

Now, in your situation, I think that if his mom is doing it, that's great. I would love for someone who knows how to cook to cook dinner for me and pack the lunches. I say, take full advantage while you can.

As far as the comments, who cares what she says? She's living in a bubble if she thinks those are "wifely" duties.

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I'm odd man out, but I make lunch for DH every day. I do it because I want to, not because it's "required" of me or because he won't do it himself.
I like to send him to work with something I made for him. Makes me feel good.
I don't cook every night either. But I do 99% of the cooking - because, well I'm better at it and he knows it. He tries and always asks me what I want to do. It's not like he's waiting for me to come home so he can say "get yo azz in the kitchen" - unless I ask him to (but that's another post)

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Wow. Apparently, I'm a bad wife because my DH makes my lunch every day when he makes his own, and he cooks dinner 90% of the time. I think my MIL would have a stroke if she lived with us and saw me not cooking and not doing laundry.

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I'd have a few choice words for my MIL if she ever hinted aout something like that!

We live in the year 2007. I work full-time in a demanding job. He works full-time in a demanding job. We have a demanding daughter.

You know what that means? We also SHARE full responsibility for everything. I happen to be a terrible cook, so DH prepares dinner most nights. Sometimes, on rare occasion, I will. But, in return, I clean up everything when he's done, and I tidy up the house while he's preparing dinner.

I prepare lunch everyday for my daughter, but that's because she's my CHILD. I married an adult man, not a child, I'd never dream of sending him off to work with a packed lunch!

It's 50-50 all the way - we'd never make it otherwise. The truth is, I'd never marry a man who had a perspective any different than this. But, unfortunately, you can't choose your MIL

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DH makes his own lunch, I usually bring leftovers. I try to cook dinner more days during the week than not, but if I have had a long day, it's soup and sandwiches or something like that.

If I had to share a kitchen with someone else, I would be cooking a lot LESS, not more.

Message edited 4/12/2007 1:53:41 PM.

Re: Preparing Meals for DH:

I make DHs lunch every night. If I am making mine, I see no difference in just making an extra sandwich for him too. I am home at least 2 hours before him.

We alternate who makes dinner. Its usually whomever is better at cooking that paticular thing.

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We have my MIL living with us so I know this can be VERY hard on a day to day basis.

I used to cook for DH and I used to make him lunch often. Since the baby, I only cook fast, easy dinners for the most part. He is FINE w/this and helps me if he is home. I rarely pack him lunch anymore because his schedule is all over the place but if there is something I know he likes I'll tell him it's in there if he wants to take it for lunch.
MIL (Living with us) hasn't found a job yet, so likes to cook. She makes separate things for him if he doesn't like what she's making. It makes me laugh, but she can knock herself out bc he knows once she's gone he gets whatever I'm cooking and that's that.

TOO BAD if they think you "should" be doing this and that for him. It's rude of her to say so. She is babying him, you are married to him not his mother. Sounds like a generation gap thing you know?

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I am the only one who cooks at all here.

My dh works nights, so whatever I make for dinner that night, gets packed up for him for the following nights dinner. He eats breakfast at home and usually gets a bagel and coffee when he gets to work..so he really doesnt have a lunch.

I gotta admit though, sometimes it makes me angry when he goes to leave and just picks up his "lunchbox" and leaves. I wish someone would have meals waiting for me like that!

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I do make lunch for my husband 2 days out of 5 during the week, and since I don't cook, I'll make sure to make something I know, or buy it in our gourmet deli and prep it really quickly. I do the cleaning, the laundry and I take of the bills...what else????? S E X every night?????????????

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Don't make DH lunch and we split cooking dinner 50/50

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Never made lunch for DH. He would never bring lunch to work. I always cook dinner because I like to cook and I'm the one that usually got home first when I was working, now I'm a SAHM. My DH cooks breakfast on the weekends though.

Re: Preparing Meals for DH:

in our house

boosh makes dinner
i make the lunches

occasionally if boosh can't cook dinner for whatever reason (she has plans or whatever) - i'll go to my parents across the street, or, usually, I just make myself something easy.

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OMG - I could have written this post. It took me months to get his mother to stop making dinner and packing his lunches every day. He now packs his own lunch - daily, and I make dinner almost every night (he cooks whenever I don't).

I will say that the way I got it to stop was by complaining to him about how his "mommy" does these things for him when he is a grown man, and not by having a discussion with her.

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Wow, and you didn't even say that his mom made his lunch with anger. The whole thing is totally 1950's. Where's your lunch??? You work too. Don't you get hungry? Who wants to cook after they work all day. You are not obligated to any of this.

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I cook when I can and Dh brings frozen meals for lunch so- no.

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I make DH's lunch and dinner every day because of our schedules. We both teach so buying lunch is a no, no and he gets home a lot later then I do because of coaching. I usually wind up making lunch during dinner so I can get everything done at once! It's something that I don't mind doing and I know that he really appreciates it.

We try to cook together on the weekends and try out new recipes! It's more of a fun thing that we enjoy doing together.

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i do the cooking, but not because I'm the "wife" but rather, because I really like to do it. But it's not waiting for DH. He waits for it because I get home after him. Sometiems he cooks too but 9 times out of 10 its me. If there are leftovers, I'll pack it in tupperware for each of us to have for lunch but no brown bagging or anything.

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When I was first married. (Im older than most of you, by about 10 yrs) It used to aggravate me when my mil used to try to help or suggest things. (She doesn't live with us, but the same town) I used to complain. When my kids were little i took them to a ranch. My husband couldn't come because of work. while we were away he hurt his back. My mil came over and cleaned the house. I was so mad at first, but then I realized. Im coming home to a clean house. What do I care. Now, 15 years later. If she wants to cook, clean whatever. Knock your socks off. I love it. Who cares if your mil cooks. Less for you and your husband to do. Whenever my mil makes a suggestion I just say "Oh thats sounds great" and do what I want. In the end it only m atters what you and your husband feel. (See if she'll cook for you )

stephanie

Re: Preparing Meals for DH:

I don't think there's a right or wrong to this-whatever works for each individual family.

I cook dinner every night, I also sometimes make breakfast when my DH is home, but I am a SAHM, and I enjoy doing it, not because he's telling to "get in the kitchen&do my job" lol.

Just curious-does you MIL also pack & leave lunch for YOU when she's leaving it for your DH?

It has to be hard living w/in laws looking over your shoulder all the time.
I also think I would be cooking less if it wasnt my kitchen , I just wouldnt feel comfortable using my MIL's kitchen.

Re: Preparing Meals for DH:

Posted by MsMBV

Posted by Snozberry
We said love, honor, cherish - not pack your lunch and wipe your azz.

OMG you rock