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gabbie83
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private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
im watching private practice and this whole case with the father who left his baby in the car. i know this happens sometimes you hear it on the news, horrrible.
i just wonder, how do you forget your baby in the car? i understand they are rear facing, sleeping ... etc BUT I feel my DD is my life, a second doesnt go by that i dont think of her, or where she is, etc.... not to say that these parents dont love their children, i just dont know how you forget and just go to work?
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butterfly20
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
I don't understand it either, but I read an article from a family that did that...... and there was a great tip which I do every day now.......
When you put your child in the carseat, put your purse in the backseat, forcing you to go into the back.
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| Posted 9/23/10 11:09 PM |
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BAM 2009
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Unfortunately it happens everyday. Some people are so sleep deprived or caught up in something going on in their lives that they forget. Obviously they don't mean it, but it happens....It is very sad...And that poor person has to live with that "mistake" forever...
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| Posted 9/23/10 11:17 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by BAM 2009
Unfortunately it happens everyday. Some people are so sleep deprived or caught up in something going on in their lives that they forget. Obviously they don't mean it, but it happens....It is very sad...And that poor person has to live with that "mistake" forever...
ITA. It can happen. Routines change and people run on auto pilot. Ever drive home and not recall how you got home? That's the auto pilot part of our brain working. Now add in a change in routine (such as taking a child to daycare when you don't normally) and that's when things can happen, esp if you are also preoccupied. it can happen easier than you can imagine. I feel nothing but pain for those people.
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| Posted 9/24/10 12:39 AM |
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Diane
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
The thing is that it SHOULDNT HAPPEN!!!!!!
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| Posted 9/24/10 7:20 AM |
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Janice
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
I was leaving one of josh's classes and meeting people at the park. I pulled out of my parking spot, only to look up and see my stroller still on the sidewalk.
No baby in it...but I was shocked that I was completely sidetracked.
I can totally see this happening. Honestly, I see how easy it would be to leave her at home in the beginning and pull away.
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| Posted 9/24/10 8:06 AM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Sadly, I can see it happening. DS is the most important thing in the world to me, but when you are going somewhere and packing/unpacking the car...I can see how the baby gets "overlooked". The stresses of daily life can be extremely overwhelming...I sometimes wish I had a checklist for the day...between feeding animals, taking care of DS, getting ready for work, dropping DS off, running to stores, etc. etc.
I do the purse in the backseat thing and so far he hasn't been left behind....
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| Posted 9/24/10 8:08 AM |
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Diana1215
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
When I had my first son and this came up I said "This would never happen to me" -- now after having a second child, being pulled in 100 different places, my mind on 100 different things, lack of sleep for almost a year, I will never say never. It's the most horrible thing in the world. I can't even begin to imagine the pain that the parents go through.
These aren't some sick monsters who set up to hurt their children, this was an accident.
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| Posted 9/24/10 8:13 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by Diane
The thing is that it SHOULDNT HAPPEN!!!!!!
Of course; but it does and I can see how. It's so very sad.
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| Posted 9/24/10 8:24 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by Goobster
Posted by BAM 2009
Unfortunately it happens everyday. Some people are so sleep deprived or caught up in something going on in their lives that they forget. Obviously they don't mean it, but it happens....It is very sad...And that poor person has to live with that "mistake" forever...
ITA. It can happen. Routines change and people run on auto pilot. Ever drive home and not recall how you got home? That's the auto pilot part of our brain working. Now add in a change in routine (such as taking a child to daycare when you don't normally) and that's when things can happen, esp if you are also preoccupied. it can happen easier than you can imagine. I feel nothing but pain for those people.
Exactly-we have to be ever vigilant because you just never know. It's so sad and my heart aches for the poor child and the poor grieving parents. I cannot imagine their pain.
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| Posted 9/24/10 8:26 AM |
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Linda1003
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
I've had the opposite happen.. I forgot that he's NOT int he care with me!! I look back and realzie.. oh yeah.. he's home with daddy!!
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| Posted 9/24/10 8:28 AM |
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maybesoon
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by BAM 2009
Unfortunately it happens everyday. Some people are so sleep deprived or caught up in something going on in their lives that they forget. Obviously they don't mean it, but it happens....It is very sad...And that poor person has to live with that "mistake" forever...
ITA and would never judge anyone.
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| Posted 9/24/10 8:30 AM |
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mamabear
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
This is definitely not meant to judge anyone, but i honestly dont see how it is possible. my baby is on my mind constantly. when i dont have a child attached to me, i feel like something is missing. maybe ive never been in a situation where it would come up. but the guy on the show said he realized at lunch when the pic of his son popped up as his screen saver. my daughters' pictures are all around my desk. i think about them constantly. i could see leaving a stroller on the sidewalk. i could see leaving a ton of things. but i kiss their faces a ton of times in the car before i pull away anywhere, and i go right to them when i get somewhere. i cannot imagine the pain and guilt that a parent would face. unbearable
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| Posted 9/24/10 8:59 AM |
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by mamabear
This is definitely not meant to judge anyone, but i honestly dont see how it is possible. my baby is on my mind constantly. when i dont have a child attached to me, i feel like something is missing. maybe ive never been in a situation where it would come up. but the guy on the show said he realized at lunch when the pic of his son popped up as his screen saver. my daughters' pictures are all around my desk. i think about them constantly. i could see leaving a stroller on the sidewalk. i could see leaving a ton of things. but i kiss their faces a ton of times in the car before i pull away anywhere, and i go right to them when i get somewhere. i cannot imagine the pain and guilt that a parent would face. unbearable
I agree with you .... I know some will flame me , but every time I hear about a baby left in a car I just don't get it , how do you leave/forget your child in the car?
 I'M NOT JUDGING ANYONE, obviously it happens A LOT, I just don't understand how 
I mean my DD has been the worst sleeper since the day she was born, first 2 years she used to wake up at least 2-3 times a night, and she is also a VERY early riser (4-5 am), she is 3 now and she still wakes up in the middle of the night sometimes, she is also an extremely active kid , which = exhausted mommy, so I have been and am constantly tired, sleepy,frustrated, overwhelmed .... but I still don't understand, sorry...
Message edited 9/24/2010 9:19:34 AM.
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04bride
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
I think there was a thread on this a while back and i posted this. While my Dh didnt come close to leaving her in the car here is what happened.
On Fridays my mom watches the kids. i just has my ds and my mom was helping out and taking my 19 month old dd. DH drove her from douglaston to bayside on his way to wortk in the city. He made it all the way to laGuardia airport area and realized that she was back there and had to go back to bayside. While she was never in danger i always think would he have realized if he made it all the way to the city with her? It can happen and I think i was one of the never happen to me types either but your thinking changes when you have a kid for sure. As someone said you have 1000000 things on your mind and also any change in routine( like my dh didnt normally take dd to my moms on fridays) can throw you off. you are so sleep deprived and on auto pilot sometimes.
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| Posted 9/24/10 9:24 AM |
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LeShellem
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by mamabear
when i dont have a child attached to me, i feel like something is missing.
For you your child is autopilot. What if your husband for whatever reason had to take your someplace that you normally would have. He's up all night because the baby wouldn't sleep and is now running late for work. He may very well forget he was suppose to drop his child off at daycare. This happens when you change your routine. You can think about your child all day and not realize that your have forgotten your child. It can happen. Please don't be so naive to say it wont,. You speak to people who this have happened to and they use to say the same thing - " This would never happend to me"
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| Posted 9/24/10 9:40 AM |
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gabbie83
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by 04bride
I think there was a thread on this a while back and i posted this. While my Dh didnt come close to leaving her in the car here is what happened.
On Fridays my mom watches the kids. i just has my ds and my mom was helping out and taking my 19 month old dd. DH drove her from douglaston to bayside on his way to wortk in the city. He made it all the way to laGuardia airport area and realized that she was back there and had to go back to bayside. While she was never in danger i always think would he have realized if he made it all the way to the city with her? It can happen and I think i was one of the never happen to me types either but your thinking changes when you have a kid for sure. As someone said you have 1000000 things on your mind and also any change in routine( like my dh didnt normally take dd to my moms on fridays) can throw you off. you are so sleep deprived and on auto pilot sometimes.
i wonder if it happens to husbands more, all the stories i have heard/read happened to husbands, bc theyre not the ones usually driving the child to DC or wherever.
just a thought.
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| Posted 9/24/10 9:41 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by Diana1215
When I had my first son and this came up I said "This would never happen to me" -- now after having a second child, being pulled in 100 different places, my mind on 100 different things, lack of sleep for almost a year, I will never say never. It's the most horrible thing in the world. I can't even begin to imagine the pain that the parents go through.
These aren't some sick monsters who set up to hurt their children, this was an accident.
I agree. I want to say that it will never happen to me... I want to say "how is that possible??" but really, the fact is that it DOES happen, it IS possible, and I think we should use these tragic stories to our advantage and learn from them. 
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| Posted 9/24/10 9:53 AM |
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mamabear
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by LeShellem
Posted by mamabear
when i dont have a child attached to me, i feel like something is missing.
For you your child is autopilot. What if your husband for whatever reason had to take your someplace that you normally would have. He's up all night because the baby wouldn't sleep and is now running late for work. He may very well forget he was suppose to drop his child off at daycare. This happens when you change your routine. You can think about your child all day and not realize that your have forgotten your child. It can happen. Please don't be so naive to say it wont,. You speak to people who this have happened to and they use to say the same thing - " This would never happend to me"
I am not being naive...a million things can happen and go wrong. im terrified about things happening to my babies all the time. all i meant was for me--not my dh, not anyone else, i just personally dont understand because as you said--my child is my autopilot. btw--the part about my dh being up all night with the baby---that would NEVER happen...that much i can say. he never ever gets up during the night...that's all me.
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| Posted 9/24/10 9:53 AM |
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Tine73
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by Diana1215
When I had my first son and this came up I said "This would never happen to me" -- now after having a second child, being pulled in 100 different places, my mind on 100 different things, lack of sleep for almost a year, I will never say never. It's the most horrible thing in the world. I can't even begin to imagine the pain that the parents go through.
These aren't some sick monsters who set up to hurt their children, this was an accident.
ITA - god willing it will never happen to me, but I can see it happening. It's awful.
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| Posted 9/24/10 9:54 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by mamabear
This is definitely not meant to judge anyone, but i honestly dont see how it is possible. my baby is on my mind constantly. when i dont have a child attached to me, i feel like something is missing. maybe ive never been in a situation where it would come up. but the guy on the show said he realized at lunch when the pic of his son popped up as his screen saver. my daughters' pictures are all around my desk. i think about them constantly. i could see leaving a stroller on the sidewalk. i could see leaving a ton of things. but i kiss their faces a ton of times in the car before i pull away anywhere, and i go right to them when i get somewhere. i cannot imagine the pain and guilt that a parent would face. unbearable
This isn't a knock on you AT ALL, but not all people are as wrapped up in their kids as you are (which is not a bad thing, it just is what it is ). I adore my kids, love them to pieces, but they are not on my mind every single waking moment.
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| Posted 9/24/10 9:55 AM |
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mamabear
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by mamabear
This is definitely not meant to judge anyone, but i honestly dont see how it is possible. my baby is on my mind constantly. when i dont have a child attached to me, i feel like something is missing. maybe ive never been in a situation where it would come up. but the guy on the show said he realized at lunch when the pic of his son popped up as his screen saver. my daughters' pictures are all around my desk. i think about them constantly. i could see leaving a stroller on the sidewalk. i could see leaving a ton of things. but i kiss their faces a ton of times in the car before i pull away anywhere, and i go right to them when i get somewhere. i cannot imagine the pain and guilt that a parent would face. unbearable
This isn't a knock on you AT ALL, but not all people are as wrapped up in their kids as you are (which is not a bad thing, it just is what it is ). I adore my kids, love them to pieces, but they are not on my mind every single waking moment.
oh, I know. and i agree. i'm totally wrapped up in them and they are my everything...there's good and bad about that.
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| Posted 9/24/10 9:57 AM |
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Diane
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
nevermind
Message edited 9/24/2010 10:28:53 AM.
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| Posted 9/24/10 10:28 AM |
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charon54
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by mamabear
This is definitely not meant to judge anyone, but i honestly dont see how it is possible. my baby is on my mind constantly. when i dont have a child attached to me, i feel like something is missing. maybe ive never been in a situation where it would come up. but the guy on the show said he realized at lunch when the pic of his son popped up as his screen saver. my daughters' pictures are all around my desk. i think about them constantly. i could see leaving a stroller on the sidewalk. i could see leaving a ton of things. but i kiss their faces a ton of times in the car before i pull away anywhere, and i go right to them when i get somewhere. i cannot imagine the pain and guilt that a parent would face. unbearable
This isn't a knock on you AT ALL, but not all people are as wrapped up in their kids as you are (which is not a bad thing, it just is what it is ). I adore my kids, love them to pieces, but they are not on my mind every single waking moment.
I agree. I love my son to pieces, but there are plenty of times when I am not thinking of him. I am thinking about work, my husband, a home issue, whatever it is.
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| Posted 9/24/10 1:39 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: private practice---re: leaving baby in the car
I had to turn it off last night. I tried watching this show again this year thinking my hormones got the best of me last year, however the first mention of the 5 month old dying. . .done. Then after I realized why, I turned it off. I no longer can watch this show, it depresses me.
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