"Pushing Present".......??

Has anyone else heard of it? A present form DH for all of your hard work for the past 9 mo. and counting....? People keep briging it up like it's one of the essentials of giving birth! Does anyone else find this to be true and does anyone know if their DH will be buying them something or have gotten something for having a baby? If so what was it? I have been told it is usually jewelry.
Just curious......

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I never got a big "present" either time. I was just thankful he always got me food so I didn't have to eat it from the hospital, and that when I got home it was clean

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I'm still waiting for mine

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After all I've been through with infertility I consider my two little babies to be my real present.

To be honest and JMHO, I think the "expectation", in some social circles/neighborhoods, of an expensive jewelry gift is a bit I know this started in the more affluent neighborhoods and it just reaks of materialism to me. If a hubby wants to buy his wife something that's great but the fact it's become an "expectation" amongst some... with many women trying to top one another is really too much. I've heard the conversations in the supermarket and I am just aghast!!

If we really educated ourselves on all of the variables that need to take place (over 60 must be in perfect sinc) in order for a baby to be born it's a true miracle that any of us are here at all.

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I got a diamond tennis bracelet for my first mother's day, instead of right after Damien was born.

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DH's friends have convinced DH that it is the norm to purchase a gift for the new mom. I personally fee that it has gotten a bit excessive.
DH bought me a beautiful white gold charm bracelet for Valentine's Day this year. What I rwould really love is a bootie or baby carriage charm. I think that is more representative of becoming a mom than a "push present" though.
Last night I was looking through a catalogue and mentioned to DH that somewhere along the lines, I would love diamond stud earings. He asked me if I wanted that instead of the charm. I was like, no I mean like for a 5 or 10 year anniversary present, not for having a baby! The baby is really gift enough. DH's best friend's brother is a jeweler so of course she has lots of jewelry. I don't feel the need to keep up with the Joneses.

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My BF was completely surprised when her DH gave her diamond studs. I thought it was so cute b/c he doesn't usually go over board-but this time he did.

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Posted by Tah-wee-ZAH

To be honest and JMHO, I think the "expectation", in some social circles/neighborhoods, of an expensive jewelry gift is a bit I know this started in the more affluent neighborhoods and it just reaks of materialism to me. If a hubby wants to buy his wife something that's great but the fact it's become an "expectation" amongst some... with many women trying to top one another is really too much. I've heard the conversations in the supermarket and I am just aghast!!

Message edited 8/22/2006 8:34:12 AM.

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I heard of it but I am not expecting anything by any means...our little baby is the best present ever!

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i would never expect anything- well maybe flowers.
Of course i would be overjoyed with something sparklie, but it would have to be something my DH thought of on his own. I wouldnt want a gift just because everyone else is doing it.

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I'm definately not expecting anything. DH is not the kind of guy to think to get me something, either.

BUT, his present to me has been doing whatever I tell him with minimal complaints. He has really stepped up to the plate. He was always good at doing house work and all that, but now he does it without complaining (mostly), which is really shocking to me.

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Each time my mother had a child, my father would have flowers sent to the hospital - one dozen for the number that child was. Since I was fourth, she got 4 dozen for me. I like that idea, I think it is quite romantic

DH knows what to do. If he wants to buy me flowers or jewelry when the time comes, then he will do it. If he doesn't, he doesn't. However, I always wanted one of those little enamel and gold baby shoes when the time comes and I dont think thats a big deal:

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I never got a present until the 2nd mothers day. he made up for the past 2 mothers day and my 'pushing present'. His Uncle was very annoyed with him that he didn't get me anything. ey, whatever.

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My DH bought me a precious moments figurine. Mothers day was three weeks after I gave birth and I got a necklace.

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I don't want or expect a present. I am carrying this baby because I want it not because he has begged me to. If I wanted some expensive present, I could find a faster easier way to get it.

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I dont' expect a present.
plus- if he were to spend a boat load of money i'd be annoyed- considering i'm the money manager and I'm "cheap" (or so I've been told by my DH b/c once it's saved- it takes a really big even to gt the money back OUT of savings)

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I don't think I'll be getting anything, and I wouldn't expect to. DH did buy my a baby bootie for Mother's Day though. I was so touched and it came as a total surprise.

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I've never received a "pushing present". I don't think it's necessary, and I honestly don't think DH's would think of something like that. Usually it's the wives who tell their DH's about it, and that's how they get one. Some DH's will just go out and buy a gift for mom, but I know my DH would never think of buying a pushing gift.

It would definitely be the least thing that I would worry or think about. To me having a baby is enough of a gift! JMO!!!

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I think once I push this baby out, DH will be pushing me into a gym membership

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I don't want one. I'm sure I'll be too wrapped up in our new little girl and being a new family that the gift won't get the appreciation it deserves.

I'd love jewelry for Mother's Day though!

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That would be lovely. I'll have to show DH this thread . In all honesty, we will probably be so broke by the the time the baby arrives that the last thing DH will be purchasing will be a "pushing present" ! It will probably be all stuff for baby.

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I tried telling DH that he had to get me something, mainly because it is a big joke between us that I "can never have enough jewelry". I didn't get anything after DD was born, which I was fine with, but I got a really nice Mother's Day present (about 2 weeks after DD was born). It was a pretty heavy white gold "circle of life" with a diamond solitaire inside the circle. I LOVE IT!

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After me being on bedrest for probably 1/3 of my pregnancy, my DH is the one that deserves the present, not me!!! I promised him a clean house and lots of dinners as soon as I am able to get up!