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Message edited 8/28/2014 4:50:44 PM.

Re: bring food to a party: would you think this is rude?

im going to say yes its kinda rude... you didnt buy her cupcakes you bought them for her guests...

Re: bring food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Yup... I think the fact that she didn't put them out was rude! I could see that she liked them and wouldn't want to give them out at the end of the night if there were left overs but... not to put them out is a different story!!!!!!!!

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Yes, very. I would have said something like hey where are the cupcakes I brought?

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Very rude. If I took the time to either make something or spend money to buy something to bring I appreciate if it's put out for everyone to enjoy.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

I would have thought she was joking, how many did you bring? She could have kept one or two for herself and put the rest out...

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Yes.. I'd find that rude.... It wasn't a 'hostess' gift for her - it was a contribution to the party and should have been put out for everyone IMO.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Message edited 8/28/2014 4:51:04 PM.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

UM, yes! she wanted a dozen cupcakes for herself?!

on the other hand, i also find it really rude when someone shows up at a party with a bottle of wine or something, then when they're asked what they'd like to drink, they say "i'd like that wine i just brought!" and expect you to unwrap it from the gift packaging and serve it.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Extremely rude.

You brought the cupcakes so that everyone could enjoy them together. For her to keep them for herself is downright weird.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

I think it;s rude esp since she ASKED for it.


The problem I run inot when I throw parties is I always make too much food and people rbing food so I don't always put out everything people bring. I feel bad, but what can you do.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

I had a lot of people over recently and realized at the end of the night that some people brought stuff that I sincerely FORGOT to put out because I was so busy hosting!!

I would never do this intentionally though!!!

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

This can go both ways.

I have to lean towards yes, it is rude, because you didn't bring it as a gift, you brought it with the intention of it being served and were asked to contribute. I would have just saved one for myself if I was so happy about what was brought and still served the rest. So yes, it was rude.

However, it could also be viewed as not rude, because it is their party and they can serve or not serve whatever they'd like. She might have considered it a gift and not a contribution to be served. But that is weird. As someone else had mentioned, I hate when people bring wine (without being requested to) and act like it is a gift but then expect or demand that wine to be served. I find that a little annoying and rude.

But this wasn't wine and this wasn't a gift, and it should have been served.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

I think its different than simply bringing a bottle of wine, or cupcakes you picked up as a hostess "gift".

If you asked specifically what you could contribute to this party and she didn't put the cupcakes out then I would be uspet.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Rude.
I would have mentioned it to her at dessert time. Even jokingly, "Hey...where are my cupcakes??!"

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Rude. Very rude imo.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

totally rude if my sil husband said something like that to me i would not stand for it. neither would my dh

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Def rude. I would've said "Hey I could go for one of my cupcakes right about now" or something like that. What is she going to say. no you can't have the cupcakes you bought!

Message edited 5/17/2011 4:46:08 PM.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

i think its rude and i would have went and put it out myself . that may be rude too

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

yes it's rude but at the same time kudos to you for bringing something so good that the hostess thought was too good to put out and share!

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Wow, that's SUPER tacky as far as I'm concerned! Definitely would have pizzed me off too! You didn't buy them as a gift for her!

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

Yeah..super tacky. If she kept one aside, ok, but the whole box..not so much.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

thanks for all the responses. it's not something i am losing sleep over...just curious how everyone else would've felt.

Re: bringing food to a party: would you think this is rude?

If she kept one or two aside for herself to enjoy the next day I wouldn't have a problem with it, but to not put any out is rude.