Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

What would you do if you had to go to an unveiling while pg? My grandmother's unveiling is going to be in the next few months. My sister is out of state and I dont know if she will be able to go. We have no other family so it would be just me and DH going. What would you do or have done? I know that there something about not going to a cemetery while pg. I am comfortable with going but other people say that a pg women shouldnt go. Thanks!

Edited for spelling!

Message edited 4/19/2009 7:43:47 AM.

Re: Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

Hi,

I am Jewish and I know that you are not supposed to go on the cemetery while preggo...that is such a hard decision b/c it is only you and your DH who can go...can you maybe go but stay in the car w/ the window open and not walk onto the cemetery??

Re: Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

Re: Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

Hi,
I am so sorry that you have an unveiling to go to. Just as with most other things with our religion, you have to do what you are comfortable doing. There really is no right or wrong answer.... If you do have a rabbi you feel comfortable talking to, I think that is a good idea. But ultimately, whatever feels right to you is the right thing to do. Unless you are ultra-orthodox, you probably do things every day that aren't exactly by the book. Just be true to yourself.
Sorry I don't have anything better to say, just wanted to respond

Re: Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

My grandfather passed away when I was pregnant with DD. To me, it was much more important for me to be at the funeral and cemetary to say goodbye than to worry about whether I was "supposed" to be there. I'm glad that I went. I would have regretted it if I hadn't. You need to do what is right for you.

Sorry for your loss

Re: Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

I am sorry for your loss. Please allow me to share my experience with you. My mother passed away when I was PG and you can 100% go to the cemetery when you are PG for a funeral or for an unveiling. It is superstition and not Halakic law. The Rabbi I consulted in conservative bordering on modern orthodox.

Message edited 4/18/2009 11:14:59 PM.

Re: Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

Not PG now but was when my best friend's brother died very unexpectedly. I wanted to go the cemetery but my best friend's mother was very adamant about me not going. What does your family think?

It's a tough call. I'm sure you will make a choice that you are comfortable with

Re: Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

Thank you to everyone that responded. It is a hard decision although I really want to be there. Other family is really more uncomfortable with me going than I am. To me, one thing has nothing to do with the other and I strongly believe that. I may compromise and go but sit outside the cemetery. A date has not been set yet so I have some time to make a decision. Ultimately, I am going to do what I am comfortable with. Thank you!

Message edited 4/19/2009 8:05:28 AM.

Re: Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

I went to an unveiling when pregnant. There is no jewish law that says you cannot go to a cemetary when pregnant.

I'm sorry for your loss

Re: Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

Re: Question for the jewish girls (sort of a sensitive topic)

Im Jewish and just wanted to extend my sympathies -

I didnt really have an answer, but just that I believe you do what is good / right for YOU