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dlj97
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Should I let this go? (DD's school) Update in last post
DD has been going to nursery school since September and has missed easily 10 days (she only goes 2 days a week). Last week they had a picnic scheduled for a day DD doesn't normally go, and my nanny asked the school if DD could attend. My nanny said the school said it was ok and that DD could still go her regular days that week. Then they sent home a bill on Friday for the extra day. DD is going to a different school next year, and there is only two weeks left this year, so I'm not worried about what they think of me. Do I send in the money with a note that I think asking me for the money for the extra day is tacky and wrong, or should I just let it go?
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
Did she stay for the full day or at least most of it? If so, then I'd expect to be billed for it.
If she only stayed for the picnic part then I do think it's wrong to charge you.
I had a similar situation. DD's Halloween parade at daycare was on a day that she doesn't normally go. I asked if she could come in and walk in the parade and they said yes. I brought her up at the time of the parade, dropped her off in the classroom then stood outside to watch the parade with the rest of the parents. When it was over I got DD and took her home. She wasn't there for the 'party' part and I was not charged. Had she stayed any longer than that, I would have expected to be billed.
The schools have ratios that they must stay within, so your DD being there may have meant they needed to have an extra employee in for the day.
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alli3131
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Should I let this go? (DD's school)
I would expect to pay. We also are not allowed to send our kids in different days without paying as they need to make sure they are still in ratio for the state laws.
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evnme
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
My dd's preschool lets her go an extra day if there is something special happening on that day. They don't charge us extra.
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| Posted 5/29/14 10:22 AM |
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nycgirl
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
We don't pay per day... but had a similar situation in which the teacher asked if my DS could come. I only brought him for the party.
Rather: I do pay "per day", but it's like a tuition, so we pay it up front.
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BriBri2u
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
I agree with the poster above - if she stayed the entire day I think you should pay. You utilized a service on a day that your DD normally is not there.
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| Posted 5/29/14 10:23 AM |
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ali120206
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Should I let this go? (DD's school)
It's worth mentioning something - say, I apologize, when my nanny asked, I was under the impression that she could go to the party and on her regular days - if I knew it would be extra $$, I probably would not have sent her and see what they say.
The same thing has happened at our daycare - people were led to believe they didn't have to pay extra for certain things and were charged.
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dlj97
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Should I let this go? (DD's school)
Thanks for the opinions. She stayed the "full" day (9-1). I don't disagree that the school was within their rights to ask for the money, I just think it was tacky. She missed A LOT of school in the winter and attending one extra day didn't incur them any extra expense, so I just thought the right thing to do was let it go.
I also don't pay per day - I pay tuition. And I think my nanny would have only brought her for the picnic part of the day if they didn't tell her it was ok for her to bring DD for the extra day.
I have also had some other issues with the school, so this just adds to my dislike of the people (which is why she isn't going back). The school let another mother take DD to the bathroom outside of the classroom earlier in the year (without teacher supervision) and the head teacher left midyear and the parents were never notified.
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
If the Nanny dropped her off and left as if it were a normal school day, I'd expect the charge.
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Xelindrya
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Should I let this go? (DD's school)
Honestly ....
I could have been a mistake. I'd call and ask. Then clear it up from there. If they charge then oh well, she was there, had fun and its one day. The other 10days don't factor into it in my mind. Tuition is tuition unless they specifically say you can subtract for absences, which mine wouldn't let me do.
Tacky? No. Business? Yes.
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
My daycare just lets us come in for a special day and does not charge us. If *I* needed the extra day for some reason, THEN we absolutely pay for it but no, they do not make us pay so they can be part of a special school event. This is at a chain center.
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EricaAlt
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
Posted by evnme
My dd's preschool lets her go an extra day if there is something special happening on that day. They don't charge us extra.
This exactly
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nycgirl
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
OK, if you pay tuition & they had a special event... it's not all together wrong for them to charge, but it is a bit tacky.
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NYCGirl80
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
I'd ask about it in a nice, friendly way. It could be an oversight. But if they expect you to pay, then just pay. Doesn't hurt to ask!
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| Posted 5/29/14 12:12 PM |
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cheryl28
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Should I let this go? (DD's school)
Dd's school added a week on at the end b/c of the snow days. I would think they should allow you to make up days and not be charged. You paid for a certain amount of dats
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Chai77
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
I really don't see what her missing days over the winter has to do with it. If she stayed all day, I would expect to pay. My preschool will let kids come to special events no charge if it's not their regular day, but you come for the event and then leave.
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dlj97
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
Posted by Chai77
I really don't see what her missing days over the winter has to do with it. If she stayed all day, I would expect to pay. My preschool will let kids come to special events no charge if it's not their regular day, but you come for the event and then leave.
Which she would have, if the school didn't tell her it was ok to come for the whole day.
How do you not think missing days has to do with it? I paid for her to go a certain number of days, and she didn't go for all of them. I obviously understand the no make ups, but at the same time, I don't. DD goes to soccer, and if she misses a day she can make it up. Same policy for gymnastics and Gymboree. It is not like they have to pay anyone any more if DD is there. I just think the classy thing to do is not ask for the $32.
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dlj97
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
Posted by NYCGirl80
I'd ask about it in a nice, friendly way. It could be an oversight. But if they expect you to pay, then just pay. Doesn't hurt to ask!
The school is unprofessional and just put a handwritten note in her bookbag that said 9-1 $32. Not thinking it was an oversight. Of course I will pay, I just wanted to add a note with my money saying that I am disappointed in their pettiness.
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dlj97
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
Posted by nycgirl
OK, if you pay tuition & they had a special event... it's not all together wrong for them to charge, but it is a bit tacky.
This is all I am saying!
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Chai77
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
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Posted by Chai77
I really don't see what her missing days over the winter has to do with it. If she stayed all day, I would expect to pay. My preschool will let kids come to special events no charge if it's not their regular day, but you come for the event and then leave.
How do you not think missing days has to do with it? I paid for her to go a certain number of days, and she didn't go for all of them. I obviously understand the no make ups, but at the same time, I don't. DD goes to soccer, and if she misses a day she can make it up. Same policy for gymnastics and Gymboree. It is not like they have to pay anyone any more if DD is there. I just think the classy thing to do is not ask for the $32.
Because it seems their policy is no make ups. Why did your child miss days? If it was illness or something like that, I don't see why they should have to give you free make up days. You pay tuition for the opportunity to attend twice per week. Unless it was their fault that she missed, I think it's fair for them to charge you for this day. It isn't like soccer or Gymboree in my mind bc they have to have the proper ratios and staffing as a daycare/preschool.
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Should I let this go? (DD's school)
Let it go
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Should I let this go? (DD's school)
I see what you are saying, but in your eyes you are looking at it as making up a day that she didn't attend. Our school policy is no makeups. If their school policy is no makeups, and you sent her for a full extra day, than you are responsible for payment.
I would call the school and explain your way of thinking, and maybe they will let it slide, but if their policy is no makeups they are in the right
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alli3131
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Should I let this go? (DD's school)
I'm sure the paying even when sick and their polices were all set out in your agreement
Paying even when sick is standard for daycare/ nursery school so I don't think they are being petty. They set staff up based on their schedule of enrollment. I actually think they are being nice letting her be there on a non scheduled day. The place my son goes to does not allow it even for events. It would put them out if ratio and be in violation of state laws.
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lynnd126
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
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Posted by Chai77
I really don't see what her missing days over the winter has to do with it. If she stayed all day, I would expect to pay. My preschool will let kids come to special events no charge if it's not their regular day, but you come for the event and then leave.
Which she would have, if the school didn't tell her it was ok to come for the whole day.
How do you not think missing days has to do with it? I paid for her to go a certain number of days, and she didn't go for all of them. I obviously understand the no make ups, but at the same time, I don't. DD goes to soccer, and if she misses a day she can make it up. Same policy for gymnastics and Gymboree. It is not like they have to pay anyone any more if DD is there. I just think the classy thing to do is not ask for the $32.
Eh, it's a business- not trying to be so classy, kwim? I happen to agree with the pp that the prior missed days have nothing to do with it. They were still set up for the day to accommodate your child. I think it's more that they don't want to veer from their billing precedent. I think the nanny should have only brought her for the special event and then obviously you shouldn't be charged. If she was there the whole session then you utilized the service that day. I wouldn't have been surprised by the bill.
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mbg1007
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Re: Should I let this go? (DD's school)
I guess Im in the minority but if they told your nanny she could come and didnt say it would be extra than I wouldnt pay, they should have told you that up front.
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