shower vent!!!

Back story: I had to plan and PAY for my bridal shower last October. My mom lives upstate and isn't in the best of health. MIL didn't offer to do anything (except add people to already large list; bought jellybeans for the table and made her signature desserts). MIL also felt the need to "suggest" ideas about things (a) saw at other showers of people I don't like and (b) she wasnt doing/paying for.

When the discussion of a baby shower came up with my mom, I said I don't want one b/c I can't fathom doing it all again, myself. She said she's handle it. I said if she AND MIL (since its her grandchild too) wanted to do it, fine but I want nothing to do with the planning/execution of it. I just asked they keep my tastes (likes and dislikes) in mind since it is a party for me.

WELL... so far my mom has asked me 1001 questions, and when I answer with what I'd like I get "oh i would rather do this..." and its the TOTAL opposite of what I like. First... *** is the point of asking me since I said I don't want to know about it? But secondly why ask me what I'd like id you aren't going to listen any way.

you have no idea how much I don't want a shower. DH has sticker shock at the idea of getting all the baby stuff ourselves. Honestly though, I don't think I can handle months more of these countless questions just to have my answers ignored in the end just to have others buy the stuff for us.

I've planned an INSANE amount of parties and the first rule to them is to plan the party with the guest(s) of honors in mind - what they would like/dislike. NOT what you would want.

I'm so frustrated already with this. Is there ANYTHING I can do????????


vent over!!!

Re: shower vent!!!

Aww!!! I totally understand where you are coming from. Maybe the best thing to do is figure out what things you completely cannot stomach and send your mother a list. This way, even though it won't be exactly what you want, those things you detest hopefully won't be there. And I would explain to your mother that although you are grateful that she wants to throw you a shower that there are certain things that you want/don't want and if it is too much of a pain, you are amenable to not having a shower. HTH!

Re: shower vent!!!