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luv2laff
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Re: So Upset
Posted by RyansMama
Posted by luv2laff
Wow I apologize if you did not agree with the term "know it all". My point was that she should do what is right for her and her family. Sorry that you took it so personally. Must not be the first time someone called you that. It seems to be a hot button issue for you.
No actually I don't agree with the term know-it-all and none of my posts even mentioned the police, but actually the hot button is people on here who can not allow others to express their opinion without calling them names or starting unnecessary drama. I don't understand feeling the need to insult people just because you disagree with their opinion.
I apologize for using the term "know it all". I feel terrible for the family involved in this situation including the children. My main point was that her and her husband should decide their course of action in this situation and that without knowing the entire issue people should not be so quick to judge. I now realize that by using the term "know it all" that message was not received clearly.
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MaMaTeenie
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Re: So Upset
Posted by luv2laff
I apologize for using the term "know it all". I feel terrible for the family involved in this situation including the children. My main point was that her and her husband should decide their course of action in this situation and that without knowing the entire issue people should not be so quick to judge. I now realize that by using the term "know it all" that message was not received clearly.
Point taken thank you. and i agree this is a horrible situation and we should just be supportive of OP and whatever she decides to do.
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| Posted 9/13/08 2:56 PM |
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Dani922
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Re: So Upset
I am just reading this now & I want to send you some  & tell you how sorry I am that you are going through this. I cannot imagine having to sit & watch a tape of someone treating my child that way.
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| Posted 9/13/08 3:25 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: So Upset
Message edited 9/13/2008 3:45:30 PM.
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| Posted 9/13/08 3:44 PM |
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O M G.....I cannot even imagine how angry you are right now. That's unforgivable. So glad nothing terrible happened.
How long has he been watching them?
Good luck finding a new babysitter! 
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| Posted 9/13/08 3:51 PM |
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MrsSchwags
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Re: So Upset
wow i didn't realize this went on so long!!
anyway...i think it just needed to hit dh.
my p/t babysitter will be picking up a day and i got her friend (who i know) to babysit the other days.
they were both more than happy to do it.
since it is my bday MIL is suppose to be watching the kids tonight while DH and I go to dinner. Hell is probably going to break out if BIL is home. If not I will probably say something in person to my MIL. If not before dinner, definitely after and I get my alcohol muscles on.
thank you all for your support
it definitely was neglect more than anything. when he did smack them and throw them on the couch they were doing NOTHING wrong. No whining, no crying, no doing anything.
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| Posted 9/13/08 4:04 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: So Upset
Posted by MrsSchwags
wow i didn't realize this went on so long!!
anyway...i think it just needed to hit dh.
my p/t babysitter will be picking up a day and i got her friend (who i know) to babysit the other days.
they were both more than happy to do it.
since it is my bday MIL is suppose to be watching the kids tonight while DH and I go to dinner. Hell is probably going to break out if BIL is home. If not I will probably say something in person to my MIL. If not before dinner, definitely after and I get my alcohol muscles on.
thank you all for your support
it definitely was neglect more than anything. when he did smack them and throw them on the couch they were doing NOTHING wrong. No whining, no crying, no doing anything.
So glad you've figured out child care- that must be a relief.
Personally though- NOTHING a 1 and 2 year old EVER warrants throwing, smacking, cursing or yelling. You are a true lady for not going over and kicking the snot out of that little punk already.
I have thought about you all day and that you find some peace through all this.
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| Posted 9/13/08 4:09 PM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: So Upset
omg! i cant believe that. Def get a new babysitter. Wow
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| Posted 9/13/08 4:11 PM |
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DeniseMarie
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Re: So Upset
also, you should show your MIL the tape so she understnds why you are flipping out and doesnt just think you are out to get BIL!
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Boobobunny
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Re: So Upset
you have FM
Thank goodness you found out what was happening before something traggic happened
My sister left my nephew for about 4 minutes to answer the front door...and in that small window of time he suffered a traggic accident that took his life.
Way to many horroble things can happen to a child who is unattended for 3 hours.
Thank God your children are safe
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Aga
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Re: So Upset
omg, I just got so upset for you with you! how horrible! I cant stop thinking what if something happend to one of your babies... and to think that you trust this person, especially since he is family... wow
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| Posted 9/13/08 4:59 PM |
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Re: So Upset
Wow, I am truly sorry about what you are going through. I can't even imagine how painful it would be to see my daughter being treated in that way. You are a strong person to be handling this the way you are. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help.
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| Posted 9/13/08 5:19 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: So Upset
Posted by Boobobunny
My sister left my nephew for about 4 minutes to answer the front door...and in that small window of time he suffered a traggic accident that took his life.
How terrible, I am so sorry 
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| Posted 9/13/08 5:21 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: So Upset
i might do it after your b-day not before bc you will have an ugly time if its presented before. make tonite about you. Ya know its funny bc even the side you presented where dh and MIL would be mad at you about the camera...i could totally see that and I find that soooo crazzzzzzzzy!!!!!!! i could see any family saying "well why did you tape it in the first place". BUTTTTT regardless, its there and hes done. Unfortunately hes always going to be dh's bro and you are always going to see him in the future. Remember, whatever path you choose to do...make sure it will make you happy in the end.
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| Posted 9/13/08 5:38 PM |
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Re: So Upset
Posted by RyansMama
Posted by luv2laff
I feel terrible for the mother and the family on this post. It is ridiculous that she is being pressured to report her BIL to the Police by a bunch of people who were not inolved and do not necessarily know the entire story. It is one thing if she wants to report her BIL. She has every right, but she should not be pressured by 50 know it alls on a website.
To the Mother I am so sorry your family is in this situation. I am sure it will all work out for your family. Thank God your children were not seriously hurt.
First of all no one is pressuring her to do anything. they are giving their opinion THIS IS AN OPINION BOARD!!!!!!! And its really unnecessary for you to call people names. I don't know where you get off, but I don't see anyone on here being a know-it-all! I see a lot of concerned and supportive parents who are offering suggestions, offering their time and services and reaffirming for the OP that she was right in following her instincts at a time when myabe the people more closely involved can not be objective. Seriously....We are not 5 years old and don't need to call names.
She came to us with a problem. You don't seem to know much about any of us with 22 posts.... so think before you post!
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dm24angel
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Re: So Upset
Posted by luv2laff
Posted by RyansMama
Posted by luv2laff
Wow I apologize if you did not agree with the term "know it all". My point was that she should do what is right for her and her family. Sorry that you took it so personally. Must not be the first time someone called you that. It seems to be a hot button issue for you.
No actually I don't agree with the term know-it-all and none of my posts even mentioned the police, but actually the hot button is people on here who can not allow others to express their opinion without calling them names or starting unnecessary drama. I don't understand feeling the need to insult people just because you disagree with their opinion.
I apologize for using the term "know it all". I feel terrible for the family involved in this situation including the children. My main point was that her and her husband should decide their course of action in this situation and that without knowing the entire issue people should not be so quick to judge. I now realize that by using the term "know it all" that message was not received clearly.
I think your doing the O/P some disjustice by saying that we know it alls would sway her mind into making a decision for her family?
Clearly shes an adult and upset at the horrible situation and wanted advice . No one is holding a gun to her head and telling her what to do...
We do know the entire issue as the issue is what she saw on the tape and told us.
I think all anyone on here did was offer support, advice and friendship.
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Re: So Upset
Posted by Mikismom
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Obviously secretly videotaping a family member is not a great idea for family harmony,
she had a feeling something was not right...screw the family harmony, those are her CHILDREN
and thats why the rest of my sentence said she was totally justified. I don't know why you would take what I wrote out of context.
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twicethefun
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Re: So Upset
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by michele31
I think the other care poster is correct- they are too accepting of this AND your BIL was too easily doing it.
I think it is very clear that your BIL is just not able to handle the daily needs of 2 small children. He does not realize that what he is doing is hurting them or that he is doing something truly wrong. I bet he feels like "it is no big deal".
Sorry - but at the age of 18, a man knows the difference between right and wrong - money or not, if he couldn't handle it, he should have said so!!!!! I doubt the money was sooo astronomical that he couldn't find something else!
I agree that 18 yr olds know right from wrong and some even know how to babysit. Kids start babysitting at 14 or 15 years old. I know two male babysitters/campcounselors who are fabulous. If BIL did not like babysitting or could not handle it, he should have said no.
YOUR HUSBAND SHOULD BE THANKING AND PRAISING YOU. You saved your children, that was a disaster waiting to happen.
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PrincessP
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Re: So Upset
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| Posted 9/13/08 8:07 PM |
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mamasita27
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Re: So Upset
wow, how scary! at least you found out and can take care of the situation now. Good luck !
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| Posted 9/13/08 8:07 PM |
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Wow, thank god you found out now!
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| Posted 9/13/08 8:15 PM |
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megsm3
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Re: So Upset
what a horrible thing to have witnessed - thank god you went with your instincts
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