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Jenn627
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Re: Spinoff to Would you say something - because of seaside's comment!
Posted by jerseypanda
But if it is a situation where someone could get in trouble or there might be negative issues surrounding it, then we choose the path of "not my business"? So if I see my neighbors having a fight across the street and there are small children watching and crying... it's not bothering me and they are not asking for my help so I am not going to get involved. (this was another situation I witnessed and most people posted that they would not get involved)
Well, if it was a situation where someone might get hurt - I would intervene. Don't need another Kitty Genovese....
In your case, I would have asked my neighbors if they wanted me to watch their kids. I certainly wouldn't tell them to stop fighting in front of them.
Every case is different.
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HoneyBadger
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Re: Spinoff to Would you say something - because of seaside's comment!
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by jerseypanda
Posted by Luv2bAmom
In your previous post I answered "no I don't see how its any of my business", and to your question here I answered that i would say something.
But to me the two situations are completely different, see in your previuos post I think that you saying something to me seems like you are trying to be the "store police" and/or getting in the middle of somthething that IMO is none of your business, and you don't know the intention of the other person.
But in this situation its clear no one wants to buy someting and leave it behind, so I see it as doing them a favor.
So what I see happening is that people are drawing a line in their minds as far as what situations are OK to get involved in and what situations are not.
So if it is a situation where someone is going to be helped, imost people seem to think t is OK to get involved. If you see someone yelling out for help, you would call the police for them because they are asking for assistance. Or if someone dropped something, you would make sure to get their attention and give it back to them.
But if it is a situation where someone could get in trouble or there might be negative issues surrounding it, then we choose the path of "not my business"? So if I see my neighbors having a fight across the street and there are small children watching and crying... it's not bothering me and they are not asking for my help so I am not going to get involved. (this was another situation I witnessed and most people posted that they would not get involved)
Keep in mind that I am not judging, I am just trying to understand where people draw the line in their minds as to when it's OK and when it is not OK to step in.
I had a really hard time yesterday when I was in the store. If the cashier didn't say something, my mind was battling with itself as to whether or not I was going to say something!
Yes, exactly - Other people's personal business is not MY business and if sticking my nose in it and opening my mouth could have ANY other consequence other than a positive one (ie: the person is appreciative and accepting of my assistance) then I'm staying out of it -
It's not my business to involve myself in someone else's grocery bill, or personal argument - Fired cashier, Crying kids or Whatever -
ITA on all counts.
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| Posted 10/1/08 1:11 PM |
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ali120206
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Re: Spinoff to Would you say something - because of seaside's comment!
I would say something (and I have said something before).
For the other situation - I wouldn't have noticed probably. If I had noticed - I'm not sure what I would do.
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| Posted 10/1/08 1:29 PM |
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MissJones
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Re: Spinoff to Would you say something - because of seaside's comment!
I would say something here. I said MYOB in the other thread. But to another posters comment, yes I would say something to help someone. Yes, i would do somethiing to help someone. But I'm also wary of the psychos out there. Should my neighbor be beating his wife, yes, I'd call the police. Should a kid be wandering the streets, yes, I'd call the police. But in the case of the store, nobody is in danger.
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| Posted 10/1/08 2:12 PM |
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HeatherRose
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Re: Spinoff to Would you say something - because of seaside's comment!
I'm the complete opposite, I would have said something before, but probably not now
what's funny is I would say something if they forgot to load it on the belt, just b/c I don't think its right to steal or not pay for something, by accident or not, we all pay for those shortages in the end.
I never pay any attention to people in a parking lot, but unless it was someone maybe returning the cart and there was something under the cart, I would probably not say anything or even think to say anything.
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| Posted 10/1/08 3:05 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to Would you say something - because of seaside's comment!
I would say something.
If someone drops their wallet in front of you & doesn't realize it would you pick it up & give it to them? I would & I have.
This is the same thing, to me.
In the other thread, I said I would say some thing, because I was putting in in the same category as this. I didn't even think that someone would view it as me making sure they didn't steal.
Message edited 10/1/2008 5:16:40 PM.
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| Posted 10/1/08 5:14 PM |
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seaside
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Re: Spinoff to Would you say something - because of seaside's comment!
Posted by tourist
I would say something.
If someone drops their wallet in front of you & doesn't realize it would you pick it up & give it to them? I would & I have.
This is the same thing, to me.
In the other thread, I said I would say some thing, because I was putting in in the same category as this. I didn't even think that someone would view it as me making sure they didn't steal.
This is exactly the way I saw/see it, and that's where my comment came from. I was surprised that so many people asumed that they'd be witnessing a theft and not helping out a forgetful person. What a world!
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| Posted 10/1/08 5:20 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to Would you say something - because of seaside's comment!
Yes, and I have done it quite a few times. Each time people thank me for it. I would be thankful if someone did the same for me if it ever happened to me.
I have called people about leaving their wallet on the regiter counter, etc... Trust me! That guy was so thankful!
ETA: This is totally different than telling on someone. I don't do direct confrontation with people who steal but have told the cashier a couple of time after the person left that the person did not put all the items on the counter.
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| Posted 10/1/08 6:11 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Spinoff to Would you say something - because of seaside's comment!
I would definitely let someone know they left something behind because that's happened to me at the S&S parkling lot and someone was kind enough to point it out to me.
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| Posted 10/1/08 6:26 PM |
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luvsbob4603
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Re: Spinoff to Would you say something - because of seaside's comment!
Yes i wouls say something.
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