Re: The mother who says having these two children is the biggest regret of her life

I find her strange and ridiculous. I wouldn't want to be her kids reading that article.

Re: The mother who says having these two children is the biggest regret of her life

My mom let me know on a regular basis that I was the biggest regret of her life and she wished she never had me. She DID have mental issues. So I'm a little biased but this woman does seem to be a few fries short of a happy meal.

Re: The mother who says having these two children is the biggest regret of her life

She actually appears like a cold person, just by looking at her. Her poor children.

Re: The mother who says having these two children is the biggest regret of her life

Re: The mother who says having these two children is the biggest regret of her life

Although motherhood isn't for everyone, you don't go around publicly humiliating your family. Why post picture? Why use your name? How horrible for her kids!

She didn't want kids but didn't want to deny her husband the experience? Isn't that a conversation you have BEFORE you get married???

I get that's what people did back then. I also get that she is kinda brave for saying this out loud...but why the photos?

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Re: The mother who says having these two children is the biggest regret of her life

Re: The mother who says having these two children is the biggest regret of her life

Re: The mother who says having these two children is the biggest regret of her life

i have to admit,i am very surprised by some of the responses

i cannot relate to regret for having children,but i do think it exists and people do not talk about it

i have no problem with her even addressing it,although i feel for her kids

her blatant disrespect for working mothers is atrocious and for even that she should be called a douche

for me there is a big difference in regret and flat out not giving a shit about them

having regret is one thing but what this woman has said and done is like if someone gave her a choice to kick them off a cliff for a night out she would take it

i have more compassion for her children than she does,or at least she makes it seem that way

i do agree she is wanting to come across as a martyr,bc if she did not she would not mention caring for her daughter now,she wants to cover her bases

again thi sis not about her regretting having kids,but what she did after she knew this

i feel sorry for her,bc the love of a child is like no other

and i respect anyone who does not want that,i thik it is awesome that you would do what you want and feel is right for you

but if you did have them to say they give you nothing in return?? well that is something i just cannot grasp

i pray the children knew this was being published

Re: The mother who says having these two children is the biggest regret of her life

I remember back in undergrad I took a women's studies class, and when the professor asked why we were glad to be women, I said, "We have the power to create life." This was the wrong thing to say, and she ripped my response apart, mostly, I think, because she was fighting against the view that women are put on this earth for the creation and care of children while men do the "real work" of society. While I think she was a bit extreme, I do think it's a socially accepted given that all girls should want babies, and the article gives voice to something real and taboo.

But I am going to agree with Gina about all the douchey things she said. Parenting is hard, and everyone needs to find their own way. She has nerve to criticize anyone.

I just remember after we got married that I was terrified to start trying because I finally had a little money to travel and do what I wanted after 3 decades of family poverty and working to put myself through school and juggling job responsibilities that were eating me alive. But I felt like I didn't have time to wait, so we started, and I was really conflicted about this new life of minivans and soccer games and Disney on ice that potentially waited on the other side of a BFP. The idea of being chained to this screaming, sh*tting creature when I had just gained a little bit of freedom was terrifying for me, but I knew it was what I wanted in the long-term, so we forged ahead.

Well, joke was on me. 4 years of IF gave me all the freedom I wanted to travel, see plays and concerts, have dinner parties, indulge the spontaneity of a weekend out east or a trip to the city. Now that I've gotten all that out of my system, I'm bored with it. I want children desperately, and I probably can't have them. My point is that I always wonder about perspective. If she hadn't felt forced into it at the young age of 22--if she had waited to live her life a bit first--would her perspective be the same? This is not to say that CF just need long enough to realize they want children. Parenting is definitely not for everyone, but the tone in the article screams that she was forced in too young.

And I have one girlfriend who had 2 kids and now openly says, "I love them, and I'm a good mom, but if I could go back in time, I wouldn't have them again." She's really unhappy: depressed, on meds, feels "swallowed up," so even though this woman is obnoxious, it's a voice that needs to be heard so that more women can feel like the child-free life is a real option.