Re: The weirdest, most bizarre, most unbelievable story I've decided to share with all of you. And a question.

First off I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this!

As an outsider, I think you should go by your Grandma's wishes b/c reading this story there are things that don't add up. If your grandma was around 6 when this happened I feel like wouldn't she have some sort of memory of being shot or being taken to the hospital etc? I mean, I have memories from that age - not alot but something traumatic like this - I can't imagine not having some inkling that it happened. Also, if it went through her head right through her eyes wouldn't there have been some sort of scar - maybe not now but, at least at an age where she would have asked about it and been told something - but, yet, she doesn't remember anything? Also, wouldn't something like this have been in her medical records? Something that would have been brought up maybe a year or two later to check on? And, then, at that age she would def remember. Also, being shot is a hard secret to keep - I'm sure if a 6 yr old was shot in the head other people in the family would know about it etc. and something must have come up in all these years...something just doesn't add up to me Is it possible that your grandma just doesn't want anyone to know what happened or blocked it out herself? Or, is it possible now she might not remember that she once knew?

Hope you find the answers and peace you are looking for

Re: The weirdest, most bizarre, most unbelievable story I've decided to share with all of you. And a question.

Posted by joenick


We think this might be Mafia related. My grandmother said her father had NOTHING to do with the Mafia, but who really knows.

He died when my grandmother was 6.

Around the same time the doctors are saying she was shot.

Re: The weirdest, most bizarre, most unbelievable story I've decided to share with all of you. And a question.

Re: The weirdest, most bizarre, most unbelievable story I've decided to share with all of you. And a question.

As someone who has herself uncovered several family secrets, some good, some bad...

If your grandma doesn't want to know, don't tell her anything you/others may find.

If certain people want to "investigate" in the family, there's no point in trying to stop them. Newspaper articles, death certificates, and other public records may point them in the right direction, but will probably not go so far as providing conclusive evidence of mafia ties.

And even if it did - that doesn't make your grandfather a bad man. It makes him human, and gives him a dimension that you never knew before. There are a lot of reasons why people do the things they do... and regardless of his associates, he still could have been a warm and loving father/husband.

Also, it's entirely possible that her head wound had nothing at all to do with her father's death. The doctors said it was there "over 80 years" you said? Wwll who's to say it didn't happen when she was younger than 6, thus no recollection of the event? 80 years is a rough estimate. There's no possible way they could narrow it down to EXACTLY that age, when it just so happened that her father died.

And there have been documented cases, though few and far between, of people who get shot in the head and don't realize it. I watched one situation on TV recently, where a guy was in a construction zone and thought he was hit by a brick or metal rod, had some bleeding, cleaned it up, and was fine for years afterward.

Honestly, I think it's a cool story. A survival story. Keep that in mind no matter what is or isn't found out.

Re: The weirdest, most bizarre, most unbelievable story I've decided to share with all of you. And a question.

wow!

but no need to go through michrofiche - you can do it from home with your library card. The New York Times database goes back to 1851

If you are in Brooklyn


New York Public


Nassau (I just searched for Massapequa, but the county usually shares databases


Suffolk e-Resources


World Vital Records shows some birth/death info. There are so many free databases, literally, at our fingertips - they might point you in the right direction.

Re: The weirdest, most bizarre, most unbelievable story I've decided to share with all of you. And a question.

No advice - but WOW!!!

Re: The weirdest, most bizarre, most unbelievable story I've decided to share with all of you. And a question.

Wow - that is crazy!

Re: The weirdest, most bizarre, most unbelievable story I've decided to share with all of you. And a question.

I had to read this 2x because I thought you got this from the internet. I feel bad too for your grandmother to uncover something sinister happened to her at a young age like 70+ years ago. That's crazy but in the end respect her wishes, whatever she wants to do. Maybe it was so long ago...sometimes their is peace in not knowing. It may just open up painful memories, maybe she supressed for a good reason.

Re: The weirdest, most bizarre, most unbelievable story I've decided to share with all of you. And a question.

This is such a crazy story. I don't think I would be able to let it go without at least trying to find out how it happened.

But...I can also understand your grandmother's wishes about not wanting to look into it any further. I'm sure she truly has no recollection of what happened since it sounds like she is really upset about it. The fact that she is so opposed to investigating makes me think that she might have a feeling that there are secrets in your family that she'd rather not be uncovered. She's probably trying to protect you and your family. And if other family members do know about what happened and have kept it a secret for so long, the chances that they will talk about it now are slim to none.

I do hope your grandmother is feeling better and is able to make peace with this revelation and it doesn't affect the memories she has of her childhood and especially her father.

I still can't get over how crazy this whole story is!!

Re: The weirdest, most bizarre, most unbelievable story I've decided to share with all of you. And a question.

Wow! What a story.

To be honest, while I would be incredibly curious, I wouldn't do too much investigating at this point (at least not letting grandma know).

Lets face it, at 6 we all think are parents are heros. We don't know the true dimensions of our parents until we grow up. My dad passed 12 years ago- and I still love him and think of him as a great man. But like all of us, he was flawed. But at 6, I would have never known that.

If you *do* want to investigate, I would keep it quiet. Why upset your grandmother at this age? Its clearly something she suppressed.

But if you want to investigate, I'd start with her father's death certificate. Its a public record and you should be able to get a copy of it at the Department of Vital Records.

Then you can try to search old articles from newspapers that were around back then. I'm sure they'd be on microfiche. You can look for an obituary or some article which may point you towards a hospital. You can try to find the hospital records for your grandmother/great-grandfather.