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ElizaRags35
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To find out the gender or not????
I had to know. I did not want a bunch of gender neutral clothes. I wanted to personify the baby and not refer to her as "it". Also, we had a gender reveal party and loved every moment of it!
However, if we ever have a second, I would seriously consider being team green.
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NervousNell
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Re: To find out the gender or not????
Posted by shellbebaby
Also no offense to those above who said "there are so few surprises in life…" but I never understood how you are any more surprised when you find out at the birth then you are when you find out at your sonogram. Either way you didn't have any real clue before and suddenly its a surprise. If anything I think now you get two days of surprises… one the day you find out the gender and one when you see what the baby will look like.
I think its a personal choice to everyone whether they want to know or not. It just makes me mad when I tell people I want to know and they say "there are so few surprises in life." When I find out next week I will be just as surprised as I would be in April.
I always say that! Trust me when I tell you we were shocked to SHIT when the doc read us the amnio results and said it's a baby girl.
We swore I was having a boy.
I wouldn't have been any more surprised after pushing her out.
In fact, I was so shell shocked from the whole birth that I was just mentally numb right after she came out. I don't remember much and I felt in a daze.
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LuckySV
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Re: To find out the gender or not????
Personal choice. I've done both and I preferred waiting. I think the feelings are difficult to describe. Just hearing the doc say it's a girl was just indescribable. I think also emotions are going crazy at that time. Also the excitement of everyone guessing and not being able to wait to meet the baby/find out the gender. I don't know. You could always just wait until the next sono if you're really unsure!
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Mara1017
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To find out the gender or not????
There is no right or wrong answer. I was team green and would not want it any other way. The funny thing is I am totally a planner and everyone was shocked when I told them we were not finding out. I did not register for any clothes on my registry since I did not want all yellow and green clothes.
Nothing in my opinion beats hearing "its a ______" and then having your child handed to you. It was a hassel to have to come up with a boy name and girl name. Not registering for clothes was not an issue at all. By the time we were home people had come and/or sent so much clothes he had an entire wardrobe!
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Katareen
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To find out the gender or not????
We waited...that was DH's "big moment" in the whole baby process...he loved being able to call the grandparents and aunts/uncles to announce it was a girl!!
Plus, the less people know about the baby, the less opinions they'll give 
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Re: To find out the gender or not????
Posted by shellbebaby
Also no offense to those above who said "there are so few surprises in life…" but I never understood how you are any more surprised when you find out at the birth then you are when you find out at your sonogram. Either way you didn't have any real clue before and suddenly its a surprise. If anything I think now you get two days of surprises… one the day you find out the gender and one when you see what the baby will look like.
I think its a personal choice to everyone whether they want to know or not. It just makes me mad when I tell people I want to know and they say "there are so few surprises in life." When I find out next week I will be just as surprised as I would be in April.
I never understood that comment either and I'm team green this time around too. With dd we found out and I can say with almost 100% certainty that I was just as surprised at 20 weeks than I will be at the end of this one. I don't get that logic. It's still a surprise no matter when you find out.
To answer op question- there really is no right or wrong. We found out with dc #1 and decided that since this pregnancy was our last, we would do it differently, so this time team green! Both have pros and cons. I do like the suspense of not knowing and it's really fun having people guess. I'm really enjoying it and never had the urge to find out. It's really exciting to have that anticipation and the anticipation of friends and family members. However I will admit it's been hard to bond with the baby not knowing what it is. I really hate to say that because of course I love this baby to death. But it's hard when you don't know what it is. I can't refer to it by name and sometimes that's tough, but overall I'm loving every second of this experience. I really look forward to having the gender announced in the hospital. I feel like it will be really special and exciting time!!
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shellbebaby
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Re: To find out the gender or not????
Posted by Bearcat
Posted by shellbebaby
Also no offense to those above who said "there are so few surprises in life…" but I never understood how you are any more surprised when you find out at the birth then you are when you find out at your sonogram. Either way you didn't have any real clue before and suddenly its a surprise. If anything I think now you get two days of surprises… one the day you find out the gender and one when you see what the baby will look like.
My own answer to that is the longer that you're waiting, the more the suspense builds up and hence, more excitement. Also, when you wait until the end, you get a big huge surprise all at once - you get to hold and see your new baby AND find out what it is. When you find out the sex halfway through you're still waiting another 20+ weeks for the rest.
But if something goes wrong you miss that moment. My mom hemorrhaged. She lost so much blood they thought they were going to lose her. It was hours before she held me. My grandparents all new my sex before she did. She's a big advocate of me finding out. My friend had a c-section and was out of it for an hour. She missed that moment.
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Bearcat
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Re: To find out the gender or not????
Posted by shellbebaby
Posted by Bearcat
Posted by shellbebaby
Also no offense to those above who said "there are so few surprises in life…" but I never understood how you are any more surprised when you find out at the birth then you are when you find out at your sonogram. Either way you didn't have any real clue before and suddenly its a surprise. If anything I think now you get two days of surprises… one the day you find out the gender and one when you see what the baby will look like.
My own answer to that is the longer that you're waiting, the more the suspense builds up and hence, more excitement. Also, when you wait until the end, you get a big huge surprise all at once - you get to hold and see your new baby AND find out what it is. When you find out the sex halfway through you're still waiting another 20+ weeks for the rest.
But if something goes wrong you miss that moment. My mom hemorrhaged. She lost so much blood they thought they were going to lose her. It was hours before she held me. My grandparents all new my sex before she did. She's a big advocate of me finding out. My friend had a c-section and was out of it for an hour. She missed that moment.
Of course, but the chances of that are slim. Since that's a scenario that hits very close to home for you, it's certainly going to weigh on your mind. I had a section after pushing for 3 hours (after laboring for 27). I was out of it, but I was still able to enjoy the moment. In fact it was the only thing that kept me going!
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Re: To find out the gender or not????
Posted by shellbebaby
Also no offense to those above who said "there are so few surprises in life…" but I never understood how you are any more surprised when you find out at the birth then you are when you find out at your sonogram. Either way you didn't have any real clue before and suddenly its a surprise. If anything I think now you get two days of surprises… one the day you find out the gender and one when you see what the baby will look like.
I think its a personal choice to everyone whether they want to know or not. It just makes me mad when I tell people I want to know and they say "there are so few surprises in life." When I find out next week I will be just as surprised as I would be in April.
For me, its more about the build-up, the wives tales, the speculation. THAT's my argument for the big "surprise".
Like you said- its just a personal choice. I don't think there's a right or wrong answer here. I completely see the logic for wanting to know and wanting to bond with the baby and prepare, but I'm enjoying the suspense. I've waited 3 years to get to this point and I'm really looking forward to the moment when they hold my baby up to me and say "IT'S A _____!!" Plus I like green and yellow and ducky onesies so its a non-issue
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PiccoloDue
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Re: To find out the gender or not????
DH and I are arguing over this. I don't want to find out the sex of this baby but he insists that he does so we are still playing around with the idea. I do want to wait because I know it's going be HUGE. Finding out at your sonogram is wonderful and waiting to see the baby in the end is also wonderful but nothing like finding out both at the same time. I respect both ideas but I want to be team green
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To find out the gender or not????
We found out with our #1 but when we have another one it will be a surprise. We have all big items as neutral colors and clothing we'll buy if we need after he/she is born. I always wanted that moment where DH runs out and tells the family/friends "it's a ____"!
The pregnancy will feel real soon. When you feel the kicks and movements and hiccups. It's a personal choice though and don't let anyone talk you into one way or another.
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J9-13
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Re: To find out the gender or not????
I definitely want to know. So does DH.
We plan on having a small gathering for a gender reveal. I think it's going to be so exciting! Especially since we are having identical twins. We (and everyone else) are dying to know if it's two boys or two girls!
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