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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

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myboysmyheart
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

In December I became pregnant with baby 4. At my first appointment there was no sac. I had a blighted ovum. I had a D&C shortly after. Fast forward to May, I became pregnant again. I was so sick right up until August. I had 3 appointment ,all times things were great. I went this morning for a scheduled appointment. The Dr couldn't find the heartbeat on the doppler. I was nervous but she said sometimes this happens. So they had me wait 4t mins for the sonogram tech. I went into her room, and she showed me my baby. I knew instantly. There was no heart beat. No movement. My beautiful baby is gone at 17 weeks. I am devestated. I was alone, as it was a normal appointment. This has been the worst day of my life. I though December was bad, but this time there was an actual baby on the screen. I am scheduled for a D&C on wed. I don't know what to do, do I name this baby? I feel like a part of me has died.

Message edited 9/11/2017 3:57:36 PM.

Posted 9/11/17 3:44 PM
 
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ANewDayHasCome
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I'm so sorry. There are no words. As far as naming, if it were me I think I would give them a name to honor them.

Posted 9/11/17 3:58 PM
 

myboysmyheart
LIF Adult

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K

Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

Thank you.

Posted 9/11/17 4:05 PM
 

RainyDay
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I am so sorry for your loss. I agree....I would name the baby.

Posted 9/11/17 4:16 PM
 

lightblue
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I am so sorry Chat Icon and yes I would probably name the baby to remember them. But its your personal decision. Chat Icon

Posted 9/11/17 4:16 PM
 

StaceyWill
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I am so, so sorry. It is the absolute worst thing to happen to a woman.

As for a name - it's such a personal decision...Do what you feel.

SO many hugs to you and your family Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 9/11/17 4:19 PM
 

Momma2015
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I have no advice to give, but I'm so sorry for your loss. Chat Icon

Posted 9/11/17 4:30 PM
 

IUIGirl
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

Oh my goodness, life is so cruel. I am so very sorry for your loss, just awful! Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 9/11/17 6:21 PM
 

MrsT809
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I'm so sorry for your loss. Like some others said, it's a very personal choice. I know mother's who named the baby and others who didn't even want to know the gender.

Posted 9/11/17 6:25 PM
 

luckyduck
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I'm so terribly sorry. It must be truly heartbreaking. I think if I were in your shoes I would probably name the baby but it's a personal decision. No right or wrong answer. I'm so sorry.

Posted 9/11/17 6:26 PM
 

Laraaidan
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Lara&aidansmommy

Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

Oh noChat Icon im so sorry.

Posted 9/11/17 6:37 PM
 

loveus
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I'm sorry.
They should test the baby and therefore you will find out the sex. I personally would give the baby a name and it would help mourn your child.
I'm so sorry.

Posted 9/11/17 7:28 PM
 

Michi
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M

Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I am so terribly sorry. There are no good words, it is so unfair.

Message edited 9/11/2017 8:25:07 PM.

Posted 9/11/17 8:24 PM
 

2BirdsofaFeather
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I am so sorry. I have been there and know some of your pain. I cannot imagine being alone. You need to do what is best for you. I just recently put up something in my home that just reminds me of her. It's a rainbow heart. I am just sharing that part because it had 15 months before I could even just look at something without tearing up thinking about her. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Posted 9/11/17 9:01 PM
 

edfilippi
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Erica

Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I'm so sorry. I think I would name the baby even if it was something I kept to myself.

Posted 9/11/17 9:31 PM
 

Jenn79
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I'm so sorry for what you are going through! As for naming I would. My cousin lost her baby around the same time. She had a plaque made up with the name and it's at the national shrine of divine mercy as a memorial.

Posted 9/11/17 9:33 PM
 

MrsMango
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I am so so sorry for your loss. I cant imagine the hurt in your heart.

Posted 9/12/17 8:27 AM
 

summerBaby10
let's be nice

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Wifey

Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I am so sorry for you loss Chat Icon

Message edited 9/12/2017 9:43:37 AM.

Posted 9/12/17 9:43 AM
 

Dolphinsbaby
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I am so sorry. I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks (before I had my twins) and it devastated me. I still cry when I think about my 4th baby (I have 3 now-that baby would have been my first).

I probably would name the baby if I were you, but of course do what you feel. There is no right or wrong. There are no words. So truly unfair. Sending you many prayers and hugs. Chat Icon Chat Icon

Message edited 9/12/2017 2:28:53 PM.

Posted 9/12/17 11:17 AM
 

NoPlaceLikeHome
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I am so so very sorry for your loss. As far as the name goes, there is no right or wrong answer. Do what you feel is best in your heart. Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 9/12/17 11:32 AM
 

MayBbaby21
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I'm so sorry. Totally heartbreaking. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 9/12/17 11:56 AM
 

Hope2beamom
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Noelle

Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I am so sorry. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 9/12/17 12:11 PM
 

BabyBearA
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Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I'm so sorry! I know the pain all too well and it's absolutely heartbreaking! Terrible!

Posted 9/12/17 9:07 PM
 

MrsB612
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Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

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Posted 9/12/17 9:30 PM
 

MrsS2005
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B

Re: Totally heartbroken... need to just get it out

I'm so sorry for your loss. Chat Icon

Posted 9/13/17 10:14 AM
 
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