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sal79
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touchy family issue- WWYD
my nephews bris is wed AM, in NJ. now, rosh hashana starts wed night. they are makign the bris at 10 AM. its is DH's sister kid. DH absolutely cannot make it, work thing, long story. so, do i go myself? its at least 2.5 hour trip each way. i'm 8 weeks pregnant. ILs don't knwo yet, but I think i will have ot tell them if i don't go. and it means i would have to take an UNpaid day from work, and i'm goign to need the time off soon enough. but, it's nephew's bris. WWYD?
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dawnygirl25
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
I think you should go because it is your nephew.
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| Posted 9/5/10 10:09 PM |
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EckoRed81504
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
If you don't go, why will you have to tell them you're pg?  If that isn't the reason why you're not going, why share if you don't want to?
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| Posted 9/5/10 10:13 PM |
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sal79
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
Posted by EckoRed81504
If you don't go, why will you have to tell them you're pg? If that isn't the reason why you're not going, why share if you don't want to?
this is the reason i don't think i can drive by myself- i am having really crappy pregnancy. and i figure, the good news will take the sting out of me not coming? maybe?
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| Posted 9/5/10 10:15 PM |
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EckoRed81504
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
when did you want to tell them? I don't know if the good news will make up for you not going honestly, but if you're all for it-it's worth the try.
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| Posted 9/5/10 10:23 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
I would go. I am sorry that you are having a hard pregnancy and I know that driving 2.5 hours is not fun but I think either you or DH need to be there. It is one of those times, like a wedding, where you just don't miss it. Sorry.
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| Posted 9/5/10 10:25 PM |
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
i wouldn't go
especially if DH isn't...and it's his family
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| Posted 9/5/10 10:29 PM |
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OrganicMama
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
Posted by speakthetruth
i wouldn't go
especially if DH isn't...and it's his family
I'm sure I'm in the minority, but I agree with this. If it were me and I weren't pregnant then I would go. I was so nauseous at 8 weeks that you couldn't have paid me to drive 2.5 hours one way, so I would stay home.
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| Posted 9/5/10 10:42 PM |
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InShock
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
I think if you're really sick from being pg, it wouldn't be too smart to drive 2.5 hr away by yourself. Can you travel with someone else? Definitely a tough call.
What does your DH want you to do??
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| Posted 9/5/10 10:44 PM |
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sal79
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
Posted by InShock
I think if you're really sick from being pg, it wouldn't be too smart to drive 2.5 hr away by yourself. Can you travel with someone else? Definitely a tough call.
What does your DH want you to do??
can't find someone to drive with me- rosh hashana- the new year- starts wed night and a bunch of relatives aren't going, its a busy day.
DH originally wanted me to go, now he's rethinking it
Message edited 9/5/2010 10:53:44 PM.
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| Posted 9/5/10 10:53 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
I would go if I were you.
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| Posted 9/6/10 8:40 AM |
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kahlua716
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
I think you should go since it's your nephew. If it was a friend I'd say to skip it.
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| Posted 9/6/10 8:52 AM |
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JennZ
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
I'd go. Its an important thing and being just 8 weeks pg *I* personally dont think is a good enough excuse NOT to go. JMHO.
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| Posted 9/6/10 9:12 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
Are you bringing the two kids with you in the car? Honestly, I would think that would be too much for me; packing up and lugging the kids in by myself and driving 5 hours round trip.
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| Posted 9/6/10 9:18 AM |
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ChilisWife
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
I wouldn't go, but not because I was PG. I just think 2.5 hours each way is a lot to do by myself and if DH isn't going - and it's his family - then I don't think it's expected that I go, especially if I have a job as well. If it were local on LI then I would definitely go. If I were the family having the bris I would totally understand this.
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| Posted 9/6/10 10:12 AM |
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shapla79
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
I wouldn't be able to stomach a drive 2.5 hours each way with morning sickness, especially without DH. I don't know about you, but my morning sickness was all day sickness and I hated driving at that point. Why do that if you're going to be miserable? I would say no and let them know why. I don't know how good your in-laws are at keeping a secret, but if that's what's holding you back I'd tell them and DH's sister.
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| Posted 9/6/10 11:04 AM |
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mrswask
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
Posted by JennZ
I'd go. Its an important thing and being just 8 weeks pg *I* personally dont think is a good enough excuse NOT to go. JMHO.
I agree. They didn't ask for the bris to be on Rosh Hashanah morning - the little man decided on that. I would be really hurt if both my child's aunt and uncle couldn't come. I had all day nausea when I was pg and the one thing that actually made me feel a little better was driving. I say that because I had to concentrate on driving and put the nausea on the back burner and couldn't let it take over/
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| Posted 9/6/10 11:26 AM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
Id go.
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| Posted 9/6/10 11:34 AM |
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maybesoon
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Re: touchy family issue- WWYD
Posted by speakthetruth
i wouldn't go
especially if DH isn't...and it's his family
ITA
I was so sick w/ both pregnancies, I woudln't drive/go anywhere by myself
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| Posted 9/6/10 12:09 PM |
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