Message edited 12/7/2009 10:39:39 AM.

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I am raising teenagers now. Would I want my kids doing anything that I did. NO! Maybe we were the lucky ones who survived what we did, but I never want my child to to be at risk, ever. I am definately not naive and I am a liberal person, but when it comes to my kids safety, that takes priority. Thats why I choose my battles carefully. What do I care if my 12 year old plucks her eyebrows or my 15 year old listens to songs with curses. But I Do care what time they are home, who they are with and what they are doing. We can not watch our kids every minute, it is impossible but that is where we hope our children listen to us and are able to walk away from certain situations or call us when needed.

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Wow.. This is horrible. She even has a myspace page:

Myspace

Wow..."interesting" page...

Wow, I agree.. Interesting to say the least.... You hear about what a great, smart girl she was, yet I see a totally different picture of her just by looking at her page and her pictures

ITA! I was not expecting what I saw at all.

same here

It sickens me that these kids are wasting their lives.

Way too much partying from the pics, it's a shame and very sad....and can I ask what is a chaser cap? That's how ignorant I am.

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I totally agree with everything Isabelle said. I actually think there's a probblem if you see so little of your kid when she has a chance to party (i.e. on weekends) b/c she is always at someone else's house or mumbling hi as she rushes past you b/c she was able to compose herself, etc. Good parents spend time with tehir kids and communicate with them enough to know, at the very least, if they're being phased or blocked out. Of all the families that I know where the parenting was, in my opinion, "good", not one of the kids got involved with partying/drinking/drugs, becuase they respected themselves too much for it. I aspire to be involved enough with my child's life, as a parent, so that like it or not (& hopefully she will!), my child will have to spend enough time with me and clue me in enough for me to understand who she is with and generally what she does when she's not with me or at school/activities. My parents did that, and so did many of their friends. The screwed up kids often have screwed up parents wgo cut corners and farm their kids out to whatever sleepover or party will have them with nothing more than a minimal explanation requiredso that the parents can have more time for themselves. That's alright if your child has the maturity to be on her own like that, but it's a gamble. Too many parents in my school district lost that gamble, but I don't think that there was any lack of correlation between the parents who sacrificed, spent time with their kids (both for fun/companionship and "parenting") and the kids who ended up avoiding bad choices and lifestyles.

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so sad...