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Re: TTC after MC support thread
THANK YOU .. for writing this..
i have talked to so many women that didnt go with their GUT and ended up miscarrying again.. i feel that some doctors just dont know! its not their bodies and we just have to demand more tests in order for them to take it seriously... it really sickens me... and thats why i feel that some miscarriages can be prevented.. instead they just say "its a fluke" and i DONT want to hear that!! especially after my 16 week MC! therefore, i am doing whatever it takes to make sure i have a healthy baby next time! if i have to see 10 different doctors , so be it!
thanks again for sharing your story 
If I can help just one person, then I feel that what I went through was not completely negative. I truly think that I went through multiple m/c to help other women, because the alternative is just too cruel. I am so glad you are standing up for yourself and being your own advocate! I hope you get a healthy pregnancy very very soon!
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babydreams
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Hmmm my post ended up posting twice.
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by babydreams
THANK YOU .. for writing this..
i have talked to so many women that didnt go with their GUT and ended up miscarrying again.. i feel that some doctors just dont know! its not their bodies and we just have to demand more tests in order for them to take it seriously... it really sickens me... and thats why i feel that some miscarriages can be prevented.. instead they just say "its a fluke" and i DONT want to hear that!! especially after my 16 week MC! therefore, i am doing whatever it takes to make sure i have a healthy baby next time! if i have to see 10 different doctors , so be it!
thanks again for sharing your story
If I can help just one person, then I feel that what I went through was not completely negative. I truly think that I went through multiple m/c to help other women, because the alternative is just too cruel. I am so glad you are standing up for yourself and being your own advocate! I hope you get a healthy pregnancy very very soon!
thank you again for your support!!
this is why i love this thread !
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| Posted 5/28/08 9:58 AM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
To all you lovely ladies who have suffered a loss, many  to you. As others have said please take a stand and be advocates for yourselves. Just because an individual had the initials MD after their name, does not always mean they are the right fit for you.
In the end I was fortunate to have my DD after a long road of unexplained infertility, that lasted 3 years and six miscarriages later. Some were early on, (8 weeks) the latest was 11 weeks. Listen to your bodies and don't feel stupid or embarrassed abput calling your doctor if you have a concern.
I wish all of you a happy ending on your journey. much   to all
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by JennasMom
To all you lovely ladies who have suffered a loss, many to you. As others have said please take a stand and be advocates for yourselves. Just because an individual had the initials MD after their name, does not always mean they are the right fit for you.
In the end I was fortunate to have my DD after a long road of unexplained infertility, that lasted 3 years and six miscarriages later. Some were early on, (8 weeks) the latest was 11 weeks. Listen to your bodies and don't feel stupid or embarrassed abput calling your doctor if you have a concern.
I wish all of you a happy ending on your journey. much to all
my heart just breaks for you 
6 miscarriages must have been so devastating! i dont know how you did it.. im so happy to hear that you had a healthy baby after all this
like you said.. i was one who got embarrased and didnt call the doctor when i though something was wrong.. i feel like i should have called for every little thing.. but now i know this going into the next one. im so glad i am not the only one who is having problems with their doctor
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
I wanted to recommend my doctor for you ladies that are discouraged with yours.
My first pregnancy/miscarriage felt like an oil change. They weren't very sensitive towards the whole thing. No follow up phone call/ appt for me. I felt like I pulled a number from the deli counter and was waiting my turn.
I changed doctors for my second and what a difference! He was there for me thru the whole thing. I called him a few times crying before we decided the D&C was the only option. He sat on the phone with me and talked to me like a friend. He had the hospital call me the next day to make sure everything was okay & told me to call him if I needed him that weekend even though it was christmas day! When I met with him for the follow up he was great. He tested the fetus & also sent me for genetic counseling.
I know he will be as cautious with my next pregnancy as I will be.
Dr. Kiran Trivedi
North Babylon
It's a horrible experience and you definately need someone that will help.
I've never been a fan of Male Gyns, but this definately changed my mind.
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Hello... to all you girls..... i never got a chance to become part of the ttc board because i got pregnant in the first month of trying... i am between 6-8 weeks pregnant and never saw a heartbeat.. i started to spot on monday night and as the day went on it went from spotting to bleeding.. the doc said i am going to miscarry prob bleed for about 8 days and then need a d&c.. who has gone threw a D&C and were you under general or local anesthetic? i am soo scared of this procedure and what i am going to go threw the next couple of weeks  also has anyone miscarried and not gone threw a d&c?
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| Posted 5/29/08 9:58 AM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by sweetdreamz1181
Hello... to all you girls..... i never got a chance to become part of the ttc board because i got pregnant in the first month of trying... i am between 6-8 weeks pregnant and never saw a heartbeat.. i started to spot on monday night and as the day went on it went from spotting to bleeding.. the doc said i am going to miscarry prob bleed for about 8 days and then need a d&c.. who has gone threw a D&C and were you under general or local anesthetic? i am soo scared of this procedure and what i am going to go threw the next couple of weeks also has anyone miscarried and not gone threw a d&c?
omg , Jackie i am so sorry.. i know how you are feeling right now..
i actually didnt have a D&C even though i thought i did.. they just scraped what was left..i passed everything on my own... BUT my friend just had one a week ago and they put her out for the procedure.. you will bleed after it for a week or so.. feel crampy like you are having AF..
im sure alot of the girls here that had a D&C will help you.
i hope you are doing ok.. its such a horrible thing for any of us to go through. please stick around here, its such a helpful thread!
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| Posted 5/29/08 10:20 AM |
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by MetsGirl07
Posted by sweetdreamz1181
Hello... to all you girls..... i never got a chance to become part of the ttc board because i got pregnant in the first month of trying... i am between 6-8 weeks pregnant and never saw a heartbeat.. i started to spot on monday night and as the day went on it went from spotting to bleeding.. the doc said i am going to miscarry prob bleed for about 8 days and then need a d&c.. who has gone threw a D&C and were you under general or local anesthetic? i am soo scared of this procedure and what i am going to go threw the next couple of weeks also has anyone miscarried and not gone threw a d&c?
omg , Jackie i am so sorry.. i know how you are feeling right now..
i actually didnt have a D&C even though i thought i did.. they just scraped what was left..i passed everything on my own... BUT my friend just had one a week ago and they put her out for the procedure.. you will bleed after it for a week or so.. feel crampy like you are having AF..
im sure alot of the girls here that had a D&C will help you.
i hope you are doing ok.. its such a horrible thing for any of us to go through. please stick around here, its such a helpful thread!
thank you
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by sweetdreamz1181
Hello... to all you girls..... i never got a chance to become part of the ttc board because i got pregnant in the first month of trying... i am between 6-8 weeks pregnant and never saw a heartbeat.. i started to spot on monday night and as the day went on it went from spotting to bleeding.. the doc said i am going to miscarry prob bleed for about 8 days and then need a d&c.. who has gone threw a D&C and were you under general or local anesthetic? i am soo scared of this procedure and what i am going to go threw the next couple of weeks also has anyone miscarried and not gone threw a d&c?
I am so sorry for your loss.
I had a miscarriage at 6w3d. I did not need a D&C, it all passed naturally after about 2-3 days of heavy bleeding. It took about 2 weeks for my hcg levels to go back to negative.
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by sweetdreamz1181
Hello... to all you girls..... i never got a chance to become part of the ttc board because i got pregnant in the first month of trying... i am between 6-8 weeks pregnant and never saw a heartbeat.. i started to spot on monday night and as the day went on it went from spotting to bleeding.. the doc said i am going to miscarry prob bleed for about 8 days and then need a d&c.. who has gone threw a D&C and were you under general or local anesthetic? i am soo scared of this procedure and what i am going to go threw the next couple of weeks also has anyone miscarried and not gone threw a d&c?
First off, I am so sorry for your loss. It is an absoluelty devestating thing that I woulld never wish on my worst enemy. It will get easier with time. I promise, but let yourself grieve.
I had a m/c and did not have a d&c but I bled for 30 + days. I don't know why but I don't think that is typical. Why would the doctor let you bleed for 8 days and then do a d&c? It doesn't make much sense to me. Most people naturally m/c after that time period so why do the d&c, which doesn't come without risks of scarring or infection?
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by sweetdreamz1181
Hello... to all you girls..... i never got a chance to become part of the ttc board because i got pregnant in the first month of trying... i am between 6-8 weeks pregnant and never saw a heartbeat.. i started to spot on monday night and as the day went on it went from spotting to bleeding.. the doc said i am going to miscarry prob bleed for about 8 days and then need a d&c.. who has gone threw a D&C and were you under general or local anesthetic? i am soo scared of this procedure and what i am going to go threw the next couple of weeks also has anyone miscarried and not gone threw a d&c?
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had my m/c in February. I believe I was just over 5weeks. I did not have a D&C. I bled for about 4-5 days, spotted brownish for a day or 2 & then that was it. My HCG levels were down to zero in about a week. The physical part of it wasn't so bad. The bleeding was about the same as a period & I was only crampy the first day. The emotionally recovery is the hardest. I can't say you'll ever get over it completely (I'm far from that), but the pain does ease. Allow yourself time to grieve. I had a few of the less sensitive people in my life tell me to "stop sulking & move on" and it just doesn't happen that way.
Why is the doctor letting you bleed for over a week before doing a D&C? Are they trying to let you miscarry naturally first or are they definately planning a D&C? It's weird that they'd let you bleed for a while if they already know for sure you'll need the D&C.
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by Dani922
Posted by sweetdreamz1181
Hello... to all you girls..... i never got a chance to become part of the ttc board because i got pregnant in the first month of trying... i am between 6-8 weeks pregnant and never saw a heartbeat.. i started to spot on monday night and as the day went on it went from spotting to bleeding.. the doc said i am going to miscarry prob bleed for about 8 days and then need a d&c.. who has gone threw a D&C and were you under general or local anesthetic? i am soo scared of this procedure and what i am going to go threw the next couple of weeks also has anyone miscarried and not gone threw a d&c?
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had my m/c in February. I believe I was just over 5weeks. I did not have a D&C. I bled for about 4-5 days, spotted brownish for a day or 2 & then that was it. My HCG levels were down to zero in about a week. The physical part of it wasn't so bad. The bleeding was about the same as a period & I was only crampy the first day. The emotionally recovery is the hardest. I can't say you'll ever get over it completely (I'm far from that), but the pain does ease. Allow yourself time to grieve. I had a few of the less sensitive people in my life tell me to "stop sulking & move on" and it just doesn't happen that way.
Why is the doctor letting you bleed for over a week before doing a D&C? Are they trying to let you miscarry naturally first or are they definately planning a D&C? It's weird that they'd let you bleed for a while if they already know for sure you'll need the D&C.
i have had people say that to me to.. its common u just have to move on.. i guess no one understands unless they go threw it.. thats what i dont understand why do i haev to do both..... i go back next wed so i will find out everything for sure.. i have a feeling that i was so devistated that i may not have fully understood what he said
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Bumping
how is everyone feeling??
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by sweetdreamz1181
thats what i dont understand why do i haev to do both..... i go back next wed so i will find out everything for sure.. i have a feeling that i was so devistated that i may not have fully understood what he said
I would imagine they'll only do the D&C if they need to, but if I were you, I would make sure. If you've been left to bleed for a week, they should do a sonogram when you go back. When I went for mine, they showed me what was left in my uterus on the monitor. they said there wasn't really much left and that it would pass naturally, I didn't need to have a D&C - I would ask to see it myself. Good luck!
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by MetsGirl07
Bumping
how is everyone feeling??
I am so anxious to get my period so that I can start trying again!!!! I never wanted AF so damn bad...
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Posted by hmm12
Posted by MetsGirl07
Bumping
how is everyone feeling??
I am so anxious to get my period so that I can start trying again!!!! I never wanted AF so damn bad...
omg.. same here!! i never wanted it soooo bad.. i hope soon for the both of us!!
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by MetsGirl07
Bumping
how is everyone feeling??
this past weekend i have become and emotional wreck.. all i did when my dh and I were alone was cry.. i usually am a very strong rational person and could handle anything but this time I cant.. since this baby really wasnt planned but once i saw that BFP i knew this was what i wanted and i couldnt wait to give birth.. dh and I werent going to officially start ttc until our 1 yr anniversary and yesterday dh told me that he thinks we should wait till we try again so we are more finincially stable and i think this is making me worse.. on top of it all i know i have not miscarried yet because all i have seen is blood (sorry for the tmi) no clots nothing yet and its been 8 days .. then i have people telling me well it still could be ok you could go back and there will be a heartbeat some people just bleed  i just cant take this anymore .. i have never wanted to go to a docs appointment so bad in my life.. wed cant come fast enough.. i know when i get that BFP next time i am not going to tell anyone... bad enough dh and i have to deal with this on our own i have people all day long giving their own opinion and i cant take it anymore sorry for the long post but thanks for hearing me vent
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
I was just snooping around the pregnancy board and saw a July mommies thread. That would have been me 
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
I m/c in October. After my m/c I found this poem and it really helped me get through some pain.
A pair of shoes - author unknown
I am wearing a pair of shoes.
They are ugly shoes.
Uncomfortable shoes.
I hate my shoes.
Each day I wear them, and each day I wish I had another pair.
Some days my shoes hurt so bad that I do not think I can take another step.
Yet, I continue to wear them.
I get funny looks wearing these shoes.
They are looks of sympathy.
I can tell in others eyes that they are glad they are my shoes and not theirs.
They never talk about my shoes.
To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.
To truly understand these shoes you must walk in them.
But, once you put them on, you can never take them off.
I now realize that I am not the only one who wears these shoes.
There are many pairs in this world.
Some woman are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.
Some have learned how to walk in them so they don't hurt quite as much.
Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think about how much they hurt.
No woman deserves to wear these shoes.
Yet, because of these shoes I am a stronger woman.
These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.
They have made me who I am.
I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child.
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
hi girls...sorry i have said hello in awhile, been busy at work....
so as i was taking the bus to work...there was a girl who i usually see waiting as well...and i noticed she was PG...
everytime i see someone newly PG, i always say why cant that be me!...oh welll....only time will tell
for everyone of you!!
oh and btw my MIL was looking at my stomach yesterday and i was tell DH to tell her not to start at my stomach....there's nothing there...its just 10 pounds that i havent lost...which at this point is going away.. 
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
I'm feeling a bit better this week than last week, mainly b/c I had my IUI yesterday and everybody in the office really made me feel good this month. They were positive and upbeat, and even fit me into the Sunday schedule at the last minute -- I didn't get in touch with them until 7am Sunday and they told me to come in at 7:30! So now I'm in the 2ww...
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by sweetdreamz1181
Posted by MetsGirl07
Bumping
how is everyone feeling??
this past weekend i have become and emotional wreck.. all i did when my dh and I were alone was cry.. i usually am a very strong rational person and could handle anything but this time I cant.. since this baby really wasnt planned but once i saw that BFP i knew this was what i wanted and i couldnt wait to give birth.. dh and I werent going to officially start ttc until our 1 yr anniversary and yesterday dh told me that he thinks we should wait till we try again so we are more finincially stable and i think this is making me worse.. on top of it all i know i have not miscarried yet because all i have seen is blood (sorry for the tmi) no clots nothing yet and its been 8 days .. then i have people telling me well it still could be ok you could go back and there will be a heartbeat some people just bleed i just cant take this anymore .. i have never wanted to go to a docs appointment so bad in my life.. wed cant come fast enough.. i know when i get that BFP next time i am not going to tell anyone... bad enough dh and i have to deal with this on our own i have people all day long giving their own opinion and i cant take it anymore sorry for the long post but thanks for hearing me vent
Jackie.. i completely understand how you are feeling.. DH and I are still going through it.. we were not technically "trying" either.. but when i got my BFP , it was such a happy moment.. we were not financially ready either.. but we are going to start trying when we can , regardless of being financially ready.. its too much of a risk to keep waiting and something could be wrong with me.. if i keep having MC or what not.. so why dont you sit down with DH and talk to him about all the possibilities.. that you can MAKE it work!!
and i also said the same thing.. this time when i get my BFP.. im not telling anyone.. it just hurts more when people keep saying things to you , and make dumb comments.. i learned my lesson.
if you ever want to talk .. please dont hesitiate.. we are going through the same thing together!
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