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gabbie83
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TTC during same time as friends/family
I feel like its even more stressful? Do you?
I feel its like who gets BFP first.
I'm even more stressed when one of my friends and cousins is TTC as well.
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Posted 11/5/10 2:26 PM  |
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BABYblues2010
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
Message edited 11/6/2010 4:01:17 PM.
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| Posted 11/5/10 2:29 PM |
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RocPin
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
I found it more comforting knowing I had a friend to confide in and talk about our TTC journey.
I am using past tense because last night she told me she was preggo.  I truly am SO happy for her. The only stressful thing for me is wanting to hurry up and get preggo so we can go through this process together as well.
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| Posted 11/5/10 2:32 PM |
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gabbie83
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
yeah, maybe your girls are right.
I am just getting stressed out bc they're trying for 2-3 months, and im almost a year
and one of them mentions... OMG i cant believe you've been TTC for a year already.
maybe thats why i feel like that
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| Posted 11/5/10 2:38 PM |
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Egg
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
Posted by RocPin
I found it more comforting knowing I had a friend to confide in and talk about our TTC journey.
ditto. i wish more than anything my sisters weren't done having kids, b/c i would love to be pregnant at the same time as them.
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| Posted 11/5/10 2:38 PM |
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Egg
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
Posted by gabbie83
yeah, maybe your girls are right.
I am just getting stressed out bc they're trying for 2-3 months, and im almost a year
and one of them mentions... OMG i cant believe you've been TTC for a year already.
maybe thats why i feel like that
my friend was TTCing for her 2nd for 7 months and just went to an RE. she just didn't want to wait anymore because she really wants her kids close together. Have you thought about going to an RE?
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| Posted 11/5/10 2:39 PM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
it turns out my friend and my cousin and i were ttc all at the same time... we all got BFP together (found out with in days of each other)... but i had an ectopic... they both have viable pregnancies...
to be completely honest, it makes me feel slightly inadequate... im trying not to let it bother me... but every once in a while it does...
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| Posted 11/5/10 2:43 PM |
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ttc2011
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
Personally , I did not share with the first DC and I am not sharing now. Regardless of what anyone else is doing , for me , it does create pressure . I do not want to be asked , so did you get your  are you pregnant yet every month.
TTC for me is between me and DH( and you girls who don't know me in IRL ) . Not even family members , I am a private person to begin with , so the questioning would drive me bonkers.
I understand if you want to feel supported and share, but with that comes the comments that might upset you or add pressure.  . That's why this board is so great we can support each other in our TTC journey
Message edited 11/5/2010 2:58:26 PM.
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| Posted 11/5/10 2:57 PM |
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gina409
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
i didnt tell any friends or fam i was ttc untill we were having issues...then i told my sisters..i just needed someone to vent to
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| Posted 11/5/10 3:06 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
Yes. That's why I've decided to not discuss with anyone that we are TTC. I'm stressed enough as it is.
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| Posted 11/5/10 3:17 PM |
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limommer
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
we havent told many people and im glad if we dont get a bfp this month i will be going on month 4
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| Posted 11/5/10 3:22 PM |
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Nik211
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
eh...i know my sil is trying for her third...she didn't really come out and say it until she found out we were going to be trying in the near future (she asked me when are we going to start trying already)...when she said she had been trying for a few months i was kind of bummed...i wanted this time to be special for DH and i figured if she was trying already she'd def be pregnant with her third as soon as we were ready to try. his parents already have 2 grandchildren by my sil, a boy and a girl. i wanted to pregnant alone, especially b/c we are in FL and far away from them. if my sil is pregnant that is all we will hear about from my inlaws since they are all up in NY together which will make me being pregnant down here feel more lonely (not so much for me, but for my DH b/c it is his parents and he already feels like the red headed step child when it comes to his sister  ). i also don't want my pregnancy to be compared to someone else's and i don't want my kid to be compared to someone else's. i felt that way as a kid and i didn't like it.
so the first month we winged it and i had this horrible feeling that we were going to find out my sil was already pregnant. i would be excited to be an aunt again and happy for her - i love my sil - but i'd be lying if i said it wouldn't have made me feel bad. but it didn't end up that way. i actually got pregnant right away. i don't know about her. she could very well be as well. i am hoping if she does get pregnant it is at least 1 month apart from me otherwise i'm sure there will be issues when it comes to my inlaws coming down for the birth and that would really hurt my DH if they couldn't come down for it
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| Posted 11/5/10 3:23 PM |
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iamme
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
all h*ll would break loose if i got preggo at the same time as my sil.
she even said if we were both knocked up i wouldn't be allowed to come to her baby shower bc then people wouldn't pay full attention to her...
and yes. she is for real.
i would love it bc everyone would leave me alone!
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| Posted 11/5/10 3:39 PM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
Posted by iamme
all h*ll would break loose if i got preggo at the same time as my sil.
she even said if we were both knocked up i wouldn't be allowed to come to her baby shower bc then people wouldn't pay full attention to her...
and yes. she is for real.
i would love it bc everyone would leave me alone!
ewww... thats so friggin obnoxious...
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| Posted 11/5/10 3:41 PM |
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whoababy11
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by iamme
all h*ll would break loose if i got preggo at the same time as my sil.
she even said if we were both knocked up i wouldn't be allowed to come to her baby shower bc then people wouldn't pay full attention to her...
and yes. she is for real.
i would love it bc everyone would leave me alone!
ewww... thats so friggin obnoxious...
wow that is insane. its amazing how people think the entire planet revolves around them.
i for one found it kind of stressful to be TTC at the same time as some of my friends bc it made me feel like something was wrong with me that it was taking such a long time. stupid, maybe, but true.
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| Posted 11/5/10 4:05 PM |
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KellyM
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
totally more stressful! I wish I never told anyone, because every keeps getting BFP's!
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| Posted 11/5/10 4:08 PM |
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JackiePags
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
I haven't told anyone for this reason too competitive...
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| Posted 11/5/10 4:50 PM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
Posted by RocPin
I found it more comforting knowing I had a friend to confide in and talk about our TTC journey.
I am using past tense because last night she told me she was preggo. I truly am SO happy for her. The only stressful thing for me is wanting to hurry up and get preggo so we can go through this process together as well.
This exactly, minus the fertility issues
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| Posted 11/5/10 5:08 PM |
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DPratt1030
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
DH's bf is actually going to start trying the same time we are in Jan. She asked if I would be jealous if they got pregnant before us. Of course I said no but I was so lying.
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| Posted 11/5/10 5:22 PM |
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Nik211
my little monkey<3
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Re: TTC during same time as friends/family
Posted by JackiePags
I haven't told anyone for this reason too competitive...
that is kind of how i felt after my SIL found out that i was coming off the pill so we could try. it seemed like she was more into trying all of a sudden. i actually suggested to DH that we should just wait until she got pregnant again to try (so that i didn't feel any pressure and so that at least i'd know we could space out the ages of the kids) but he said absolutely not - he said to me, we waited until we were ready and now we are and we aren't planning our life around anyone else's. he said who cares what other people are doing and to care about us and we shouldn't change our plans b/c of other people. so we went for it anyway. but i felt put off about it - i don't know why.
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