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Sash
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UPDATE IN OP: Birthday Party, Please explain why
My son just got invited to a party on Friday at 3:30pm??? And they’re 5th graders!!
They get out at 3pm, so if you or a sitter can take them it’s right after school. Even cutting close considering sometimes my son gets out few minutes after because 3pm is when the bell rings.
Also it’s a catholic school, so they would either go in uniform or change in the car.
Update: My son told me that his friend was complaining that less than half the kids showed up and no one was hardly there. To each their own but like I said that is terrible planning.
Atleast the bday boy still had fun
Message edited 11/21/2018 10:21:38 AM.
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Marbo
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Is it possibly a half day? Otherwise I got nothing.
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| Posted 10/31/18 10:07 PM |
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Sash
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Posted by Marbo
Is it possibly a half day? Otherwise I got nothing.
No, I checked because even my son said maybe we don't have school that day when I was reading the invite. 
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| Posted 10/31/18 10:09 PM |
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ali120206
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Birthday Part, Please explain why
Maybe the kids parents were going to pick everyone up?
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| Posted 11/1/18 8:11 AM |
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
How many kids? If it is like, 5 kids, then I'd assume the parents are just taking everyone
When my son was in elementary and went to aftercare when he'd get invited to things like this another friend of his mother would sign him out for me.
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| Posted 11/1/18 9:36 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
I feel like if the parents were picking everyone up they would have specified that to you- either on the invite or in a text or something.
I don't think you just assume something like that.
It's a weird time to be honest.
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| Posted 11/1/18 9:49 AM |
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lululu
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
I'm not sure I understand the problem. I would like that it's right after school.... Pick them up and bring them to the party. I don't work full time thou so maybe that's the issue? If you can't get him there I would ask the party hosts if my son could go home with their child and go with them.
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| Posted 11/1/18 10:04 AM |
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LInMI
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Maybe it's a time that works well for the family?
The only time available at the party place?
A discounted price and that's what the family could afford?
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| Posted 11/1/18 10:06 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Posted by lululu
I'm not sure I understand the problem. I would like that it's right after school.... Pick them up and bring them to the party. I don't work full time thou so maybe that's the issue? If you can't get him there I would ask the party hosts if my son could go home with their child and go with them.
Yes, it's hard for working parents, I think that is what she meant.
I'm not home until 615 every night since my 12 mile commute somehow turned into 45 minutes every freaking night as long island gets more and more overpopulated. 
Yes, maybe ask the mom if your son can go home with hers.
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| Posted 11/1/18 10:09 AM |
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Sash
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Posted by LInMI
Maybe it's a time that works well for the family?
The only time available at the party place?
A discounted price and that's what the family could afford?
Im sure there is a reason but I think the time is crazy. Even if I didnt work full time, it a ridiculous time. You are barely allowing anyone to get there on time. The place with no traffic is like 20 minutes from the school.
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| Posted 11/1/18 10:14 AM |
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Sash
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by lululu
I'm not sure I understand the problem. I would like that it's right after school.... Pick them up and bring them to the party. I don't work full time thou so maybe that's the issue? If you can't get him there I would ask the party hosts if my son could go home with their child and go with them.
Yes, it's hard for working parents, I think that is what she meant.
I'm not home until 615 every night since my 12 mile commute somehow turned into 45 minutes every freaking night as long island gets more and more overpopulated.
Yes, maybe ask the mom if your son can go home with hers.
I don't know the mom or any of the moms, so my son isn't going in a strangers car. Also I am sure if they were offering option to take them it would've been written on the invite or sent via text.
I mean it's not the end of the world, my son won't go. I just find it odd the day and time. Not even 4 or 5pm.
Not sure who was invited but there are 24 kids in his class I think.
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| Posted 11/1/18 10:17 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
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Posted by NervousNell
Posted by lululu
I'm not sure I understand the problem. I would like that it's right after school.... Pick them up and bring them to the party. I don't work full time thou so maybe that's the issue? If you can't get him there I would ask the party hosts if my son could go home with their child and go with them.
Yes, it's hard for working parents, I think that is what she meant.
I'm not home until 615 every night since my 12 mile commute somehow turned into 45 minutes every freaking night as long island gets more and more overpopulated.
Yes, maybe ask the mom if your son can go home with hers.
I don't know the mom or any of the moms, so my son isn't going in a strangers car. Also I am sure if they were offering option to take them it would've been written on the invite or sent via text.
I mean it's not the end of the world, my son won't go. I just find it odd the day and time. Not even 4 or 5pm.
Not sure who was invited but there are 24 kids in his class I think.
I feel like the majority of people don't work- or work part time and are home at 3 pm- so it's rare they take into account full time working moms.
And I'm with you- my DD goes with NOBODY. Only my parents or sister. I'm nutty like that.
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| Posted 11/1/18 10:19 AM |
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Sash
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Sash
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by lululu
I'm not sure I understand the problem. I would like that it's right after school.... Pick them up and bring them to the party. I don't work full time thou so maybe that's the issue? If you can't get him there I would ask the party hosts if my son could go home with their child and go with them.
Yes, it's hard for working parents, I think that is what she meant.
I'm not home until 615 every night since my 12 mile commute somehow turned into 45 minutes every freaking night as long island gets more and more overpopulated.
Yes, maybe ask the mom if your son can go home with hers.
I don't know the mom or any of the moms, so my son isn't going in a strangers car. Also I am sure if they were offering option to take them it would've been written on the invite or sent via text.
I mean it's not the end of the world, my son won't go. I just find it odd the day and time. Not even 4 or 5pm.
Not sure who was invited but there are 24 kids in his class I think.
I feel like the majority of people don't work- or work part time and are home at 3 pm- so it's rare they take into account full time working moms.
And I'm with you- my DD goes with NOBODY. Only my parents or sister. I'm nutty like that.
I still think its odd you are giving people only 15 minutes to get to a party 20 minutes way. That in itself is odd as heck.
There are actually a lot of working parents in my sons class this year. I only know because he goes to after care with a good chunk of them.
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lululu
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
She is probably somewhat restricted on the time of the party because of the place that she is having it. They probably have set times and she had to choose one. This one probably fit best for her. Maybe she thinks it would be more convenient rather than kids going to aftercare or going home to an empty house? She probably isn't counting on the fact that people would be opposed to carpooling since they are 10/11 years old.
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lorich
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
I'm sorry but that is just crazy. Even if I wasn't a f/t working parent, my DS wouldn't even get off the bus until 3:30.
I get it may be cheaper or a time that may work better for them, but unless they want no one to show at the party....it makes no sense.
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| Posted 11/1/18 11:02 AM |
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Sash
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Posted by lululu
Maybe she thinks it would be more convenient rather than kids going to aftercare or going home to an empty house?
How is this more convenient when the reason why they are in after care is because no one can pick them up at 3?
Again there is no carpool or else it would've been suggested on the invite or mass text sent out. We have #s listed in a directory for this.
My Dh gets out at 3 or 3:30 sometimes and even he said - maybe if it was at 4 or 5 I probably could've taken him.
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| Posted 11/1/18 11:07 AM |
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Sash
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Posted by lorich
I'm sorry but that is just crazy. Even if I wasn't a f/t working parent, my DS wouldn't even get off the bus until 3:30.
I get it may be cheaper or a time that may work better for them, but unless they want no one to show at the party....it makes no sense.
Exactly, I just find it odd to do a party right after school with no buffer. And obviously I get this works for them, I just find the time really strange.
It would stress me out if I was throwing this party. I have to have a cake and stuff and then go get my son from school to take him to his own party right afterwards. Then try to carpool because I would feel bad for kids who had no one to take them. I would go batty
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| Posted 11/1/18 11:11 AM |
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lululu
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
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Posted by lululu
Maybe she thinks it would be more convenient rather than kids going to aftercare or going home to an empty house?
How is this more convenient when the reason why they are in after care is because no one can pick them up at 3?
Again there is no carpool or else it would've been suggested on the invite or mass text sent out. We have #s listed in a directory for this.
My Dh gets out at 3 or 3:30 sometimes and even he said - maybe if it was at 4 or 5 I probably could've taken him.
Convenient was the wrong word. More appealing is what I should have said! Could he just go a half hour late? Sounds like a lot of the kids will end up being at least 10-15 minutes late anyway. Or else skip it altogether. Parties can be a pain in the ass no matter what time they are planned for.
ETA: Also I would never put carpool or transportation information on the invite. I don't think it would be wrong to ask but since you are not amenable to letting your son in another person's car it's a moot point.
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| Posted 11/1/18 11:20 AM |
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Sash
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
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Posted by Sash
Posted by lululu
Maybe she thinks it would be more convenient rather than kids going to aftercare or going home to an empty house?
How is this more convenient when the reason why they are in after care is because no one can pick them up at 3?
Again there is no carpool or else it would've been suggested on the invite or mass text sent out. We have #s listed in a directory for this.
My Dh gets out at 3 or 3:30 sometimes and even he said - maybe if it was at 4 or 5 I probably could've taken him.
Convenient was the wrong word. More appealing is what I should have said! Could he just go a half hour late? Sounds like a lot of the kids will end up being at least 10-15 minutes late anyway. Or else skip it altogether. Parties can be a pain in the ass no matter what time they are planned for.
I don't want to RSVP yes and then my husband get stuck in traffic and then 30 min turns into an hour, and it is only 3 hours long. I am going to just decline, again not the end of the world.
ETA: It's not that I don't let my son in anyones car but I don't know this person at all. Also, even if I didn't mind, I would feel weird asking a complete stranger if they can take my kid to a party.
Edited again - the party is actually 2 hours.
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Aries14
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Birthday Part, Please explain why
my dd was invited to a party right after school too. Some kids took the bus home with the girl - my husband ended up just driving her to it after she got off the bus.
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| Posted 11/1/18 2:50 PM |
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GoldenRod
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Is it at the kid's house? If so, the parents are probably figuring that the other kids can take the bus to their house.
There's a bunch of activities where kids take a different bus to go to an activity right after school. Girl Scouts, Cub Scouts, parties, etc. It's not uncommon.
If it's at an establishment, then I got nuthin'....
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| Posted 11/1/18 3:15 PM |
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Sash
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Posted by GoldenRod
Is it at the kid's house? If so, the parents are probably figuring that the other kids can take the bus to their house.
There's a bunch of activities where kids take a different bus to go to an activity right after school. Girl Scouts, Cub Scouts, parties, etc. It's not uncommon.
If it's at an establishment, then I got nuthin'....
So I guess I left that out, it's not a house party its at a place.
Also there is no bus options at his school. No one takes the bus.
But general question, if a group of kids never take the bus would they allow that to happen? Just curious because I would think they estimate the number of kids who take the bus and there could be a potential capacity issue.
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| Posted 11/1/18 3:27 PM |
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BargainMama
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
You don't know any of the parents of the kids in his class? They are probably assuming that most parents know each other, especially since there is no bus transportation and you all have to pick up/drop off, and possibly talk to each other. I would love a party like that right after school. I think the majority of people we know though are either teachers that get out early, or SAHMs.
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| Posted 11/1/18 3:34 PM |
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Sash
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Re: Birthday Part, Please explain why
Posted by BargainMama
You don't know any of the parents of the kids in his class? They are probably assuming that most parents know each other, especially since there is no bus transportation and you all have to pick up/drop off, and possibly talk to each other. I would love a party like that right after school. I think the majority of people we know though are either teachers that get out early, or SAHMs.
No I don't know the parents. I do drop off & my husband does the majority of pick up. Pick up is mostly after care where parents come and go at different times.
The party is also only 2hrs so DH taking my son late would be pointless.
ETA: The demographic here is a lot of working parents because the cost of living here increases and it is close to commute to the city.
I find more SAHM and teachers as you go deeper into NJ.
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| Posted 11/1/18 3:38 PM |
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KarenK122
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Birthday Party, Please explain why
Just weird. If school ends at 3 then the kid would be lucky to even be home by 3:30. Very poor planning on the parents part. What type of party is it?
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