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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by KarenK122
Just weird. If school ends at 3 then the kid would be lucky to even be home by 3:30. Very poor planning on the parents part. What type of party is it?
It’s a golf themed party at a Golf sporting place.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
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Posted by KarenK122
Just weird. If school ends at 3 then the kid would be lucky to even be home by 3:30. Very poor planning on the parents part. What type of party is it?
It’s a golf themed party at a Golf sporting place.
Is it TopGolf? Because I probably would try to do an early party there too because it gets crowded and rowdy
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
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Posted by KarenK122
Just weird. If school ends at 3 then the kid would be lucky to even be home by 3:30. Very poor planning on the parents part. What type of party is it?
It’s a golf themed party at a Golf sporting place.
Is it TopGolf? Because I probably would try to do an early party there too because it gets crowded and rowdy
No, I’m in NJ.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
It’s common in our area.
How does your kid get home?
If no buses, I’m assuming most kids have a parent or babysitter pick them up and that person would be assumed to take kid to party.
A friend did a Thursday party right after school at a sports place and had 100% attendance. She was hoping for less (small place).
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Obviously the mom is a SAHM and is around. Thats obnoxious and inconvenient.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by nycgirl
It’s common in our area.
How does your kid get home?
If no buses, I’m assuming most kids have a parent or babysitter pick them up and that person would be assumed to take kid to party.
A friend did a Thursday party right after school at a sports place and had 100% attendance. She was hoping for less (small place).
I think she said her son goes to after care.
OP- is this a good friend of your son? If not, I'd just skip it and it is what it is.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
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Posted by Straightarrow
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Posted by KarenK122
Just weird. If school ends at 3 then the kid would be lucky to even be home by 3:30. Very poor planning on the parents part. What type of party is it?
It’s a golf themed party at a Golf sporting place.
Is it TopGolf? Because I probably would try to do an early party there too because it gets crowded and rowdy
No, I’m in NJ.
TopGolf is in NJ (Im on SI) -Edison
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by Straightarrow
Posted by Sash
Posted by Straightarrow
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Posted by KarenK122
Just weird. If school ends at 3 then the kid would be lucky to even be home by 3:30. Very poor planning on the parents part. What type of party is it?
It’s a golf themed party at a Golf sporting place.
Is it TopGolf? Because I probably would try to do an early party there too because it gets crowded and rowdy
No, I’m in NJ.
TopGolf is in NJ (Im on SI) -Edison
I wasn’t sure if that was a chain on LI, but it’s not. A sports event place near my area. I’m more north, Bergen county - I forgot the name of the place again but I did check when you mentioned Top gulf.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
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I wasn’t sure if that was a chain on LI, but it’s not. A sports event place near my area. I’m more north, Bergen county - I forgot the name of the place again but I did check when you mentioned Top gulf.
The only reason why I said it is because TopGolf turns into more of a grown up atmosphere the later it gets, lol, which could explain the time
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by nycgirl
It’s common in our area.
How does your kid get home?
If no buses, I’m assuming most kids have a parent or babysitter pick them up and that person would be assumed to take kid to party.
A friend did a Thursday party right after school at a sports place and had 100% attendance. She was hoping for less (small place).
I think she said her son goes to after care.
OP- is this a good friend of your son? If not, I'd just skip it and it is what it is.
So the thing with my son everyone is his good friend since he plays with everyone across both classes and sex. His principal calls him the mayor.
I work in the city and with Thanksgiving and having to deal with half day no aftercare the following week I don’t want to wfh or leave at 1 to take him to a 2hr party. I did ask my husband about it and he basically said you want me to leave work early to take him to a party. So that’s out lol.
He will have to skip it. I’m hoping since he has friends that go to aftercare it won’t be a big deal. Unless the parents made arrangements, then it may sting a little.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by Sash
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by nycgirl
It’s common in our area.
How does your kid get home?
If no buses, I’m assuming most kids have a parent or babysitter pick them up and that person would be assumed to take kid to party.
A friend did a Thursday party right after school at a sports place and had 100% attendance. She was hoping for less (small place).
I think she said her son goes to after care.
OP- is this a good friend of your son? If not, I'd just skip it and it is what it is.
So the thing with my son everyone is his good friend since he plays with everyone across both classes and sex. His principal calls him the mayor.
I work in the city and with Thanksgiving and having to deal with half day no aftercare the following week I don’t want to wfh or leave at 1 to take him to a 2hr party. I did ask my husband about it and he basically said you want me to leave work early to take him to a party. So that’s out lol.
He will have to skip it. I’m hoping since he has friends that go to aftercare it won’t be a big deal. Unless the parents made arrangements, then it may sting a little.
Are you close with any of the other mom's in the class? Can you ask what they are doing?
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by lululu
Posted by Sash
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by nycgirl
It’s common in our area.
How does your kid get home?
If no buses, I’m assuming most kids have a parent or babysitter pick them up and that person would be assumed to take kid to party.
A friend did a Thursday party right after school at a sports place and had 100% attendance. She was hoping for less (small place).
I think she said her son goes to after care.
OP- is this a good friend of your son? If not, I'd just skip it and it is what it is.
So the thing with my son everyone is his good friend since he plays with everyone across both classes and sex. His principal calls him the mayor.
I work in the city and with Thanksgiving and having to deal with half day no aftercare the following week I don’t want to wfh or leave at 1 to take him to a 2hr party. I did ask my husband about it and he basically said you want me to leave work early to take him to a party. So that’s out lol.
He will have to skip it. I’m hoping since he has friends that go to aftercare it won’t be a big deal. Unless the parents made arrangements, then it may sting a little.
Are you close with any of the other mom's in the class? Can you ask what they are doing?
No, I don't. I only do drop-offs and DS was a transfer student in 3rd grade.
I appreciate everyones response and advice/tips. I pretty much knew my DS wouldn't be able to go when I saw the invite and set that expectation with him.
I really posted this just because I believe this time is inconvenient for anyone SAHM vs WFH vs Full-Time Work moms because its right after school. I mean my husband gets out at 3 / 3:30 and can't even make this party. But I see maybe that isn't the case for majority who have an early schedule or are SAHM.
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Birthday Party, Please explain why
This would be a non issue for me. My kid wouldn’t go. The invite would go straight in the garbage. And if asked why my kid wasn’t going I’d say that both DH and I will be at work.
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Birthday Party, Please explain why
I don’t know why everyone is so up in arms about this. They’re paying for the party, so they schedule the party based on what works best for them.
If your child can’t attend, you RSVP “no”, and everyone moves on with their lives.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by Katareen
I don’t know why everyone is so up in arms about this. They’re paying for the party, so they schedule the party based on what works best for them.
If your child can’t attend, you RSVP “no”, and everyone moves on with their lives.
No one is up in arms or losing sleep over this. It was a topic posted because I think this time is incredibly inconvenient and wanted to discuss.
Obviously everyone has a right to do whatever they please with their money and life but we still manage to talk about it on LIF. Or did I miss that memo?
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by itsagoodlife
Obviously the mom is a SAHM and is around. Thats obnoxious and inconvenient.
That's a bold statement.
Not everyone works 9-5, Monday - Friday.
I could bring my kid to this party, I am not a stay at home.
Everyone has to do what works for them - this is obviously what worked for this family. I'm sure many people can't attend, but that's how life works.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by LiveForMoments
Posted by itsagoodlife
Obviously the mom is a SAHM and is around. Thats obnoxious and inconvenient.
That's a bold statement.
Not everyone works 9-5, Monday - Friday.
I could bring my kid to this party, I am not a stay at home.
Everyone has to do what works for them - this is obviously what worked for this family. I'm sure many people can't attend, but that's how life works.
I agree with this. I'm a SAHM... but i know a ton of people who work schedules other than M-F 9-5. i know a mom who is a hiring recruiter that works from home, owns her own recruiting company. I know moms who are nurses that works long shifts, but just a couple days a week. i know moms who are flight attendants and have days off in between the trips they fly. i know a mom who owns a salon, and sets her own schedule around things like this for her daughter. i know a mom who is a freelance editor that works from home, around her kids stuff.
so the parents throwing the party just booked it when it worked for them, and i'm sure some people will be able to make it based on their own personal work schedules.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by ml110
Posted by LiveForMoments
Posted by itsagoodlife
Obviously the mom is a SAHM and is around. Thats obnoxious and inconvenient.
That's a bold statement.
Not everyone works 9-5, Monday - Friday.
I could bring my kid to this party, I am not a stay at home.
Everyone has to do what works for them - this is obviously what worked for this family. I'm sure many people can't attend, but that's how life works.
I agree with this. I'm a SAHM... but i know a ton of people who work schedules other than M-F 9-5. i know a mom who is a hiring recruiter that works from home, owns her own recruiting company. I know moms who are nurses that works long shifts, but just a couple days a week. i know moms who are flight attendants and have days off in between the trips they fly. i know a mom who owns a salon, and sets her own schedule around things like this for her daughter. i know a mom who is a freelance editor that works from home, around her kids stuff.
so the parents throwing the party just booked it when it worked for them, and i'm sure some people will be able to make it based on their own personal work schedules.
I just want to clear up, I know people have different schedules which wasn't my issue with the time. Even if I was a SAHM or worked from home on Friday, I would never book my son's party at a place 30 minutes after the time he gets out of school. It wouldn't make sense. It's just odd, it is 25 minutes away from the school. I am 10 minutes away from my sons school and I don't get home till 3:30 when I pick him up because of the traffic and amount of schools in the area.
I find it odd that it doesn't even allow much time for the guest who can pick up there kids after school. And everyones kid gets out at 3-3:05pm unless they go to aftercare.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by Sash
Posted by ml110
Posted by LiveForMoments
Posted by itsagoodlife
Obviously the mom is a SAHM and is around. Thats obnoxious and inconvenient.
That's a bold statement.
Not everyone works 9-5, Monday - Friday.
I could bring my kid to this party, I am not a stay at home.
Everyone has to do what works for them - this is obviously what worked for this family. I'm sure many people can't attend, but that's how life works.
I agree with this. I'm a SAHM... but i know a ton of people who work schedules other than M-F 9-5. i know a mom who is a hiring recruiter that works from home, owns her own recruiting company. I know moms who are nurses that works long shifts, but just a couple days a week. i know moms who are flight attendants and have days off in between the trips they fly. i know a mom who owns a salon, and sets her own schedule around things like this for her daughter. i know a mom who is a freelance editor that works from home, around her kids stuff.
so the parents throwing the party just booked it when it worked for them, and i'm sure some people will be able to make it based on their own personal work schedules.
I just want to clear up, I know people have different schedules which wasn't my issue with the time. Even if I was a SAHM or worked from home on Friday, I would never book my son's party at a place 30 minutes after the time he gets out of school. It wouldn't make sense. It's just odd, it is 25 minutes away from the school. I am 10 minutes away from my sons school and I don't get home till 3:30 when I pick him up because of the traffic and amount of schools in the area.
I find it odd that it doesn't even allow much time for the guest who can pick up there kids after school. And everyones kid gets out at 3-3:05pm unless they go to aftercare.
oh, no... i get what you're saying. it was just the tone of that other poster's comment- almost implying that SAHM's are clueless about the "real world" and like purposely schedule parties/ events that don't work for working parents. you never know what somebody's work situation is... or why somebody is a SAHM. in my case, its not because i just want to hang around at home all day or whatever.... i'm a SAHM because we adopted my youngest son from Korea at 3 years old- so he had a humungous change in his life and i'm taking some time to be home with him, help him get settled in, catch him up on English and all of that.
so not all SAHMs are clueless to the working world.... people schedule their parties when it works for them, and if it doesn't work for you, don't feel bad 
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by ml110
Posted by Sash
Posted by ml110
Posted by LiveForMoments
Posted by itsagoodlife
Obviously the mom is a SAHM and is around. Thats obnoxious and inconvenient.
That's a bold statement.
Not everyone works 9-5, Monday - Friday.
I could bring my kid to this party, I am not a stay at home.
Everyone has to do what works for them - this is obviously what worked for this family. I'm sure many people can't attend, but that's how life works.
I agree with this. I'm a SAHM... but i know a ton of people who work schedules other than M-F 9-5. i know a mom who is a hiring recruiter that works from home, owns her own recruiting company. I know moms who are nurses that works long shifts, but just a couple days a week. i know moms who are flight attendants and have days off in between the trips they fly. i know a mom who owns a salon, and sets her own schedule around things like this for her daughter. i know a mom who is a freelance editor that works from home, around her kids stuff.
so the parents throwing the party just booked it when it worked for them, and i'm sure some people will be able to make it based on their own personal work schedules.
I just want to clear up, I know people have different schedules which wasn't my issue with the time. Even if I was a SAHM or worked from home on Friday, I would never book my son's party at a place 30 minutes after the time he gets out of school. It wouldn't make sense. It's just odd, it is 25 minutes away from the school. I am 10 minutes away from my sons school and I don't get home till 3:30 when I pick him up because of the traffic and amount of schools in the area.
I find it odd that it doesn't even allow much time for the guest who can pick up there kids after school. And everyones kid gets out at 3-3:05pm unless they go to aftercare.
oh, no... i get what you're saying. it was just the tone of that other poster's comment- almost implying that SAHM's are clueless about the "real world" and like purposely schedule parties/ events that don't work for working parents. you never know what somebody's work situation is... or why somebody is a SAHM. in my case, its not because i just want to hang around at home all day or whatever.... i'm a SAHM because we adopted my youngest son from Korea at 3 years old- so he had a humungous change in his life and i'm taking some time to be home with him, help him get settled in, catch him up on English and all of that.
so not all SAHMs are clueless to the working world.... people schedule their parties when it works for them, and if it doesn't work for you, don't feel bad
I was a SAHM for 11 years. I NEVER said they were "clueless". I am now a single full time working mom.
What I said was that OBVIOUSLY the time is obnoxious and inconvenient because the MAJORITY of people are not available to take their kid to a birthday party at 3:30 in the afternoon. School ends at 3. So what does this person expect people to do? Leave work early? Take their kid straight to the party after school?
It is obnoxious and inconvenient. I stand by that opinion.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by itsagoodlife
Posted by ml110
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Posted by LiveForMoments
Posted by itsagoodlife
Obviously the mom is a SAHM and is around. Thats obnoxious and inconvenient.
That's a bold statement.
Not everyone works 9-5, Monday - Friday.
I could bring my kid to this party, I am not a stay at home.
Everyone has to do what works for them - this is obviously what worked for this family. I'm sure many people can't attend, but that's how life works.
I agree with this. I'm a SAHM... but i know a ton of people who work schedules other than M-F 9-5. i know a mom who is a hiring recruiter that works from home, owns her own recruiting company. I know moms who are nurses that works long shifts, but just a couple days a week. i know moms who are flight attendants and have days off in between the trips they fly. i know a mom who owns a salon, and sets her own schedule around things like this for her daughter. i know a mom who is a freelance editor that works from home, around her kids stuff.
so the parents throwing the party just booked it when it worked for them, and i'm sure some people will be able to make it based on their own personal work schedules.
I just want to clear up, I know people have different schedules which wasn't my issue with the time. Even if I was a SAHM or worked from home on Friday, I would never book my son's party at a place 30 minutes after the time he gets out of school. It wouldn't make sense. It's just odd, it is 25 minutes away from the school. I am 10 minutes away from my sons school and I don't get home till 3:30 when I pick him up because of the traffic and amount of schools in the area.
I find it odd that it doesn't even allow much time for the guest who can pick up there kids after school. And everyones kid gets out at 3-3:05pm unless they go to aftercare.
oh, no... i get what you're saying. it was just the tone of that other poster's comment- almost implying that SAHM's are clueless about the "real world" and like purposely schedule parties/ events that don't work for working parents. you never know what somebody's work situation is... or why somebody is a SAHM. in my case, its not because i just want to hang around at home all day or whatever.... i'm a SAHM because we adopted my youngest son from Korea at 3 years old- so he had a humungous change in his life and i'm taking some time to be home with him, help him get settled in, catch him up on English and all of that.
so not all SAHMs are clueless to the working world.... people schedule their parties when it works for them, and if it doesn't work for you, don't feel bad
I was a SAHM for 11 years. I NEVER said they were "clueless". I am now a single full time working mom.
What I said was that OBVIOUSLY the time is obnoxious and inconvenient because the MAJORITY of people are not available to take their kid to a birthday party at 3:30 in the afternoon. School ends at 3. So what does this person expect people to do? Leave work early? Take their kid straight to the party after school?
It is obnoxious and inconvenient. I stand by that opinion.
OBVIOUSLY implies that only a SAHM mom would do something so inconvenient and obnoxious.
As if a working mom would be more understanding and accommodating.
There's very little room for any other interpretation of your statement.
Maybe it's what this families working hours allow, maybe they just don't care - impossible to know, so therefor I can't judge their actions. But that's just me...
And though it may be inconvenient for many, that doesn't make it obnoxious, it's a birthday party, not a mandatory meeting.
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Birthday Party, Please explain why
For everyone who keeps saying that the family of this child chose a time that worked for them that’s all well and good until no one shows up at the party. So yeah, you do have to take working parents into consideration because if you don’t you will have a whole bunch of kids decline your child’s party.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by LuckyStar
For everyone who keeps saying that the family of this child chose a time that worked for them that’s all well and good until no one shows up at the party. So yeah, you do have to take working parents into consideration because if you don’t you will have a whole bunch of kids decline your child’s party.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by itsagoodlife
Posted by LuckyStar
For everyone who keeps saying that the family of this child chose a time that worked for them that’s all well and good until no one shows up at the party. So yeah, you do have to take working parents into consideration because if you don’t you will have a whole bunch of kids decline your child’s party.
I would assume they're either morons who don't understand time or they genuinely don't care if the kid's classmates show up. Maybe they have other friends and family members that can make it. Maybe they ran it passed the parents of the kid's closet friends and they were okay with it. Who knows and honestly, who cares. You either go or you politely decline. I wouldn't give it a second thought.
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Re: Birthday Party, Please explain why
Posted by LuckyStar
For everyone who keeps saying that the family of this child chose a time that worked for them that’s all well and good until no one shows up at the party. So yeah, you do have to take working parents into consideration because if you don’t you will have a whole bunch of kids decline your child’s party.
Where I live almost everyone would say yes to that time frame so, no I wouldn't take into consideration the "working parents." Just like I wouldn't expect people to take my schedule into consideration when booking their party (and actually I do work). Weekends in particular are bad for us because of all of my other children's activities, family obligations, etc. I am not expecting someone to think about me or my child when planning their party.
And in most families I know both parents do not have 9-5 jobs. One has a 9-5 type job and the other has different hours (either a teacher, owns a small business, works from home, Doctor, nurse, cop, fireman, etc). Where do you want people to draw the line? Working parents, single parents, disabled parents, Parents with more than 3 kids.... You just need to do what works for you!
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