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Re: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by shamrock124
I would take it to mean that she can only fill out what is on the sheet and not write out what went on during the day. Perhaps other parents were asking for a very detailed, written report of the day which would be difficult to provide for all the children in her care. I would assume you could ask as many questions as you wish and call as often as you like but she isn't going to journal the minutes of the day.
That is how I read it too.
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Re: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. My guess is that you ARE the only parent whose child has been in care for more than a month that calls every single day. However, if you're not the only parent, and let's say they have 10 kids and 10 parents calling daily, and they talk to each parent for 10 minutes, they are spending more than 1 1/2 hours on the phone INSTEAD of paying attention to the kids.
DD has been in care for a month - I called once to discuss a staffing issue I noticed at pickup one day, and DH called her first day to see if she had calmed down b/c she was hysterical when we left - that's it.
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Re: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
As a former daycare teacher, I think the letter could have been worded differently. BUT I completely understand why it's very difficult to take phone calls from parents every day. Imagine if every parent called every day. How would the children ever get any attention? My kids start daycare on Monday, and you can bet I will be calling every day for the first week. But after that, unless they haven't been feeling well or had a very cranky morning, I will trust that they will call me if my children need me, or if something is not right. 
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Re: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
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Posted by BabyLove08
"PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT I WILL NOT ALWAYS BE ABLE TO PROVIDE YOU WITH ANYMORE INFORMATION THAN WHAT IS ON THE SHEET. UNLESS OF COURSE THERE IS SOMETHING I FEEL YOU NEED TO BE NOTIFIED OF".
OK, first of all let me say that if I had received the letter, I probably would read it the exact same way as you and be just as annoyed.
But, from an outsiders perspective, let me play the devil's advocate.
I don't read this as them telling you that you cannot call or ask questions. I take it to say that they may not always be able to answer the questions you have because they are so busy and maybe they don't remember how many times DD took off her socks. (to use your example)
I would give them the benefit of the doubt and ask exactly what was meant by this. I would personally first ask the teacher before going to the director because it could just be that you read more into it than the teacher meant to imply. That's the problem with the written word, there is no way to gather the tone of what the person was saying and sometimes we read it with our own judgements and jump to the wrong conclusion.
So for me, I would ask the teacher what was meant by this and if I am not satisfied with the answer, then I would go to the director. Does that make sense?
I agree
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
UPDATED in original post:)
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
OK, honestly, I dont see what the big deal is...at least it wouldnt be for me. The teacher said she would answer any specific questions and youre still talking about going to the director. I just think you are reading too much into it, just my opinion. Im pretty laid back though and as long as my DS is coming home to me, well taken care of, and well fed and happy then Im OK. I wouldnt look into it so much and just ask a question if you should feel you need to.....what are they going to say "Im sorry I cant answer that, did you not see my note the other day" 
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
You should be able to ask questions beyond what is on the sheets. I don't know your specific situation and exactly how much information you ask for, though. If I felt that my requests were reasonable then I would not tolerate a note saying that I only get the information that's on the sheets.
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by eddiesmommy
OK, honestly, I dont see what the big deal is...at least it wouldnt be for me. The teacher said she would answer any specific questions and youre still talking about going to the director. I think you are just reading too much into it, just my opinion. Im pretty laid back though and as long as my DS is coming home to me, well taken care of, and well fed and happy then Im OK. I wouldnt look so much into it and just ask a question if you should feel you need to.....what are they going to say "Im sorry I cant answer that, did you not see my note the other day"
I agree...why would you still be annoyed with her or "watching" her? She said she would answer your specific questions....
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by eddiesmommy
OK, honestly, I dont see what the big deal is...at least it wouldnt be for me. The teacher said she would answer any specific questions and youre still talking about going to the director. I think you are just reading too much into it, just my opinion.
ITA. I kind of think you are overreacting a bit. Even from the original letter, I took it to mean that she wouldn't be providing a detailed summary of your child's day, just basic info. And now that she said of course she'll answer any specific questions you're still upset, I don't get it.
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
You are a paying customer. They provide you witha service. You have every right to ask anything you want!
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| Posted 10/7/09 10:29 PM |
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by DancinBarefoot
IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
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| Posted 10/7/09 11:03 PM |
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Are you happy with the way the teacher is caring for your DD? Are you comfortable with her?
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by DancinBarefoot
IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
IMHO, at some point you have to learn to TRUST the provider you have chosen. Calling once per day, every single day for over a year is IMHO excessive and if I was the daycare provider I would be feeling as if this particular parent has absolutely no faith in my ability to care for their child, and would secretly be hoping said parent would move their child someplace else.
As I said in my original post - if there are 10 kids, and 10 phone calls per day, at 10 minutes each - that is 1 1/2 hours of attention from the teacher that is NOT being given to the children. In NY 12 is the max in a group at a daycare center - so at max capacity with every single parent calling every single day, the children are being overlooked for 2 hours while the teacher fields phone calls!!! INAPPROPRIATE!!!
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by MrsDrMatt
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Posted by BabyLove08
"PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT I WILL NOT ALWAYS BE ABLE TO PROVIDE YOU WITH ANYMORE INFORMATION THAN WHAT IS ON THE SHEET. UNLESS OF COURSE THERE IS SOMETHING I FEEL YOU NEED TO BE NOTIFIED OF".
OK, first of all let me say that if I had received the letter, I probably would read it the exact same way as you and be just as annoyed.
But, from an outsiders perspective, let me play the devil's advocate.
I don't read this as them telling you that you cannot call or ask questions. I take it to say that they may not always be able to answer the questions you have because they are so busy and maybe they don't remember how many times DD took off her socks. (to use your example)
I would give them the benefit of the doubt and ask exactly what was meant by this. I would personally first ask the teacher before going to the director because it could just be that you read more into it than the teacher meant to imply. That's the problem with the written word, there is no way to gather the tone of what the person was saying and sometimes we read it with our own judgements and jump to the wrong conclusion.
So for me, I would ask the teacher what was meant by this and if I am not satisfied with the answer, then I would go to the director. Does that make sense?
I agree
I agree.
I dont think it said you can't call or ask questions.
I think it said they "may not" be able to provide more information and not that they 'refuse' to.
If I got this letter, i'd probably would have ignored that and not changed my routine. Right now i ask tons of questions every day. She just turned 1 in August. I do not call, but then again I do have video cameras on her all day.
In the next room she will go onto a mat. I find it amusing and interesting they get to figure out how that's going to work for AJ. Its all part of the growing up process for me. She needs to learn change. The next class also teaches her how to properly use a spoon and fork. Something i fail at teaching her.
Sorry but the letter overall wouldn't bother me much. And if it did, Id fine their response to be enough for me to give them the benefit of the doubt. They didnt make it sound like they were making an exception for you at all. They seemed to be more than willing to give you want you need if you ask for it. I guess its just not given as an assumed or mandatory part of their info sheets. That's the message I got.
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Hi,
If you read the first post I put out THOROUGHLY you'd understand:) She changed her "tone" when I questioned her.
I ask basics, nothing major!
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| Posted 10/8/09 5:48 AM |
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by DancinBarefoot
IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
Thank you, me either!
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by DancinBarefoot
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by DancinBarefoot
IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
IMHO, at some point you have to learn to TRUST the provider you have chosen. Calling once per day, every single day for over a year is IMHO excessive and if I was the daycare provider I would be feeling as if this particular parent has absolutely no faith in my ability to care for their child, and would secretly be hoping said parent would move their child someplace else.
As I said in my original post - if there are 10 kids, and 10 phone calls per day, at 10 minutes each - that is 1 1/2 hours of attention from the teacher that is NOT being given to the children. In NY 12 is the max in a group at a daycare center - so at max capacity with every single parent calling every single day, the children are being overlooked for 2 hours while the teacher fields phone calls!!! INAPPROPRIATE!!!
TRUST or NOT, I am STILL calling once a day in a 10 hour day to to see how my "precious cargo" is doing.
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Thank you to all who responded! I appreciaciate the MANY different opinions on this matter!
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| Posted 10/8/09 5:53 AM |
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by BabyLove08
Hi,
If you read the first post I put out THOROUGHLY you'd understand:) She changed her "tone" when I questioned her.
I ask basics, nothing major!
I definitley think you are looking too much into it, her tone changed via a note?
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| Posted 10/8/09 7:52 AM |
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by eddiesmommy
Posted by BabyLove08
Hi,
If you read the first post I put out THOROUGHLY you'd understand:) She changed her "tone" when I questioned her.
I ask basics, nothing major!
I definitley think you are looking too much into it, her tone changed via a note?
Id just relax, I reread your post and nowhere did she say you COULDNT inquire, she just said she may not have specific answers for all of your questions. For instance, if they had waffles for breakfast maybe she cant tell you how much your DD ate specifically, bc she was also busy feeding 10 other children. You know?
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| Posted 10/8/09 7:56 AM |
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by BabyLove08
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by DancinBarefoot
IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
Thank you, me either!
ITA...I think if DD was in daycare I would call every day, call me crazy, call me over protective. I'm paying them to take care of DD and I have every right to question them about anything I feel like it, whether or not they have an answer is one thing, but I have the right to ask...If I had a nanny or babysitter, I doubt she would get annoyed if I called her during the day, yes daycare is not EXACTLY like babysitting/nanny, and I understand there are other children there, but I don't think a 5 minute phone call once a day should annoy the day care...JMO!!!
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| Posted 10/8/09 8:00 AM |
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by BabyLove08
Hi,
If you read the first post I put out THOROUGHLY you'd understand:) She changed her "tone" when I questioned her.
I ask basics, nothing major!
Basics like what though?
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by pickles16
Posted by BabyLove08
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by DancinBarefoot
IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
Thank you, me either!
ITA...I think if DD was in daycare I would call every day, call me crazy, call me over protective. I'm paying them to take care of DD and I have every right to question them about anything I feel like it, whether or not they have an answer is one thing, but I have the right to ask...If I had a nanny or babysitter, I doubt she would get annoyed if I called her during the day, yes daycare is not EXACTLY like babysitting/nanny, and I understand there are other children there, but I don't think a 5 minute phone call once a day should annoy the day care...JMO!!!
but you have to look at it in the context of the center. There have to be 50 kids at my DS center, if each parent called for 5 minutes, thats 250 minutes a day spent on the phone.
As a daycare mom, its not that Im not concerned about DS while he is there, but I trust that he is OK and happy and if there were anything to be concerned about, they would call me. If I havent heard from them, then DS is fine, I dont need to call them to hear them actually say "hes fine", KWIM???? 
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by BabyLove08
TRUST or NOT, I am STILL calling once a day in a 10 hour day to to see how my "precious cargo" is doing.
LOL, we refer to my son as the precious cargo as well....haha.
Anyway, it is totally your right to call them whenever you want.
Honestly, I would love to call my daycare provider everyday. However, when I think about the two teachers covering 8 - 10 toddlers. And one may be changing diapers while the other is wrestling 9 other toddlers I can't help but feel like I'd rather their time be spent taking care of the children. So
unless I have a specific concern I refrain. If I do happen to call them I make sure it is during naptime when I know they're not going to have to take away from the child's care to talk to me.
However, I do talk to them in more detail at every dropoff and pickup (because there are different teachers there) because I like to know how DS is doing. I kinda wish they had the cameras because I think that would lessen the questions.
I like the days when DS is with my MIL because I call every 2 hours. I'm sure it annoys her but I love to hear what he is doing and "talk" to him. After all, he is my baby.
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by BabyLove08
Hi,
If you read the first post I put out THOROUGHLY you'd understand:) She changed her "tone" when I questioned her.
I ask basics, nothing major!
I read your post THOROUGHLY. She may have changed her tone after you questioned her, but I stand by what I said and HER reasons behind the note.
ETA: IMHO you can ask all the basics you want when you pick your DD up. I get a written note home every single day with the basics.
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