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UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
I don't know anything about daycares...but I was a babysitter for 2 years.
I emailed her before we went somewhere, after lunch, then sent her daily pics at naptime.
She never called in 2 years...she did not have to.
I did it as a courtesy. I felt like if she read an update at 10, she would think, oh good, they are headed out on a picnic.
then later, oh good, he ate all his lunch.
you know?
maybe a babysitter is more your speed?
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
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OK, honestly, I dont see what the big deal is...at least it wouldnt be for me. The teacher said she would answer any specific questions and youre still talking about going to the director. I just think you are reading too much into it, just my opinion. Im pretty laid back though and as long as my DS is coming home to me, well taken care of, and well fed and happy then Im OK. I wouldnt look into it so much and just ask a question if you should feel you need to.....what are they going to say "Im sorry I cant answer that, did you not see my note the other day" 
Honestly, I agree. I think you are reading way too much into her statement and I think what you wrote back was a little snippy. I would have verbally asked the teacher what she was referring to - Like I said previously, she may not even be referring to your situation.
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
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IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
IMHO, at some point you have to learn to TRUST the provider you have chosen. Calling once per day, every single day for over a year is IMHO excessive and if I was the daycare provider I would be feeling as if this particular parent has absolutely no faith in my ability to care for their child, and would secretly be hoping said parent would move their child someplace else.
As I said in my original post - if there are 10 kids, and 10 phone calls per day, at 10 minutes each - that is 1 1/2 hours of attention from the teacher that is NOT being given to the children. In NY 12 is the max in a group at a daycare center - so at max capacity with every single parent calling every single day, the children are being overlooked for 2 hours while the teacher fields phone calls!!! INAPPROPRIATE!!!
TRUST or NOT, I am STILL calling once a day in a 10 hour day to to see how my "precious cargo" is doing.
Go ahead and call, as everyone said, you are paying for a service and it is your right. However, when you get an attitude for doing so, understand where it is coming from. You pick up and drop off - those are the times to talk with the teacher and get in depth responses to your questions. And while you may think your phone call is ONLY 5 minutes, the reality is that the teacher has to leave where she is to walk to the phone, answer it, talk to you, hang up, and then go back to the children. doing this for you each and every day for over a year to me (and I'm sure to them) signals at the very least a lack of trust in the provider.
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
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IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
Thank you, me either!
ITA...I think if DD was in daycare I would call every day, call me crazy, call me over protective. I'm paying them to take care of DD and I have every right to question them about anything I feel like it, whether or not they have an answer is one thing, but I have the right to ask...If I had a nanny or babysitter, I doubt she would get annoyed if I called her during the day, yes daycare is not EXACTLY like babysitting/nanny, and I understand there are other children there, but I don't think a 5 minute phone call once a day should annoy the day care...JMO!!!
but you have to look at it in the context of the center. There have to be 50 kids at my DS center, if each parent called for 5 minutes, thats 250 minutes a day spent on the phone.
As a daycare mom, its not that Im not concerned about DS while he is there, but I trust that he is OK and happy and if there were anything to be concerned about, they would call me. If I havent heard from them, then DS is fine, I dont need to call them to hear them actually say "hes fine", KWIM???? 
I totally get and see that point, and it's a tough one, bc I'm from the school of thought that no one will love and "hover" over your child like the parents, and granted we need Daycare, babysitters etc...but obviously they aren't going to give your child the attention that you give them, and I'm not just talking daycare I'm talking nannys etc...so with that constantly in my mind thats why I think I would be calling. Again, I'm totally not in the situation so it's easy for me to say what I would or wouldn't do, but I know the type of person I am (overly anal). I'm even the type to call when DH or my own Mother is watching DD bc I don't think they'll do as good of a job as me... So I am crazy, granted..
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
I worked in a daycare center for a few years, and the 12-18 months olds WERE on cots. It is allowed, as we we dropped in on constantly by a health and safety/state regs checker person (I can't believe I can't think of the name of them lol) and it was never mentioned.
Unfortunately, it's hard to have the kids sleep in cribs as they get older because they're more expensive, take up much more room and don't store easily. You're little girl will get used to them.
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
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IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
IMHO, at some point you have to learn to TRUST the provider you have chosen. Calling once per day, every single day for over a year is IMHO excessive and if I was the daycare provider I would be feeling as if this particular parent has absolutely no faith in my ability to care for their child, and would secretly be hoping said parent would move their child someplace else.
As I said in my original post - if there are 10 kids, and 10 phone calls per day, at 10 minutes each - that is 1 1/2 hours of attention from the teacher that is NOT being given to the children. In NY 12 is the max in a group at a daycare center - so at max capacity with every single parent calling every single day, the children are being overlooked for 2 hours while the teacher fields phone calls!!! INAPPROPRIATE!!!
TRUST or NOT, I am STILL calling once a day in a 10 hour day to to see how my "precious cargo" is doing.
Go ahead and call, as everyone said, you are paying for a service and it is your right. However, when you get an attitude for doing so, understand where it is coming from. You pick up and drop off - those are the times to talk with the teacher and get in depth responses to your questions. And while you may think your phone call is ONLY 5 minutes, the reality is that the teacher has to leave where she is to walk to the phone, answer it, talk to you, hang up, and then go back to the children. doing this for you each and every day for over a year to me (and I'm sure to them) signals at the very least a lack of trust in the provider.
well said
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by eddiesmommy
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Posted by Mikismom
Posted by DancinBarefoot
IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
IMHO, at some point you have to learn to TRUST the provider you have chosen. Calling once per day, every single day for over a year is IMHO excessive and if I was the daycare provider I would be feeling as if this particular parent has absolutely no faith in my ability to care for their child, and would secretly be hoping said parent would move their child someplace else.
As I said in my original post - if there are 10 kids, and 10 phone calls per day, at 10 minutes each - that is 1 1/2 hours of attention from the teacher that is NOT being given to the children. In NY 12 is the max in a group at a daycare center - so at max capacity with every single parent calling every single day, the children are being overlooked for 2 hours while the teacher fields phone calls!!! INAPPROPRIATE!!!
TRUST or NOT, I am STILL calling once a day in a 10 hour day to to see how my "precious cargo" is doing.
Go ahead and call, as everyone said, you are paying for a service and it is your right. However, when you get an attitude for doing so, understand where it is coming from. You pick up and drop off - those are the times to talk with the teacher and get in depth responses to your questions. And while you may think your phone call is ONLY 5 minutes, the reality is that the teacher has to leave where she is to walk to the phone, answer it, talk to you, hang up, and then go back to the children. doing this for you each and every day for over a year to me (and I'm sure to them) signals at the very least a lack of trust in the provider.
well said
ITA with this! As a former teacher, I will say, Yes we answered the calls, however, it does get difficult.
We had 8 kids to watch, change, feed, and do activities with. When my assistant or I was changing a diaper, the other is watching/playing or doing an activity with the children. If that person has to get up to answer the phone, all the attention is not on the kids and I hate to say it, but, thats when accidents could happen.
The best time, IMO, for parents to call would be at nap time! I was able to give a little more detailed info. If I wasn't in the room (at lunch or something), then my asst. could fill the parent in.
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Re: UPDATE LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
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Posted by DancinBarefoot
IMHO, if your DC has been at this center for nearly a year and you are still calling daily, they are annoyed and don't want you to call, and rightly so - even with an open door policy. .
really? I do not think calling once a day is unreasonable at all
IMHO, at some point you have to learn to TRUST the provider you have chosen. Calling once per day, every single day for over a year is IMHO excessive and if I was the daycare provider I would be feeling as if this particular parent has absolutely no faith in my ability to care for their child, and would secretly be hoping said parent would move their child someplace else.
As I said in my original post - if there are 10 kids, and 10 phone calls per day, at 10 minutes each - that is 1 1/2 hours of attention from the teacher that is NOT being given to the children. In NY 12 is the max in a group at a daycare center - so at max capacity with every single parent calling every single day, the children are being overlooked for 2 hours while the teacher fields phone calls!!! INAPPROPRIATE!!!
TRUST or NOT, I am STILL calling once a day in a 10 hour day to to see how my "precious cargo" is doing.
Go ahead and call, as everyone said, you are paying for a service and it is your right. However, when you get an attitude for doing so, understand where it is coming from. You pick up and drop off - those are the times to talk with the teacher and get in depth responses to your questions. And while you may think your phone call is ONLY 5 minutes, the reality is that the teacher has to leave where she is to walk to the phone, answer it, talk to you, hang up, and then go back to the children. doing this for you each and every day for over a year to me (and I'm sure to them) signals at the very least a lack of trust in the provider.
I don't think calling is an indication that there is a lack of trust. It's because you want to know how the day is going (she was a little fussy. she's having a great day. she seemed tired so we let her sleep a little longer). Granted I dont' know how long the calls last but I know I didn't have time to discuss how my child is doing when dropping them in the morning. Often times the classroom teacher was not even in yet & when DH picked them up at the end of the day, they were already gone.
When your child is older, I think you start to call less because they can tell you how their day was, what they did, who hit who, who got in trouble, etc. But a child who can't talk?? I see nothing wrong with calling on a regular basis. I know I was frustrated at my daycare when we would hear days later that my son got in trouble for hitting someone. How are we supposed to address something that happened on a Friday, when you're only telling me on Monday? With the exception of that one teacher, I always went out of my way to befriend the teachers.
In my opinion, there is no reason to get attitude for calling if you're mindful of the time they spend on the phone (actually that's still no reason to give you attitude). If you're calling at a bad time, then they should tell you when it is a good time to call.
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
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Go ahead and call, as everyone said, you are paying for a service and it is your right. However, when you get an attitude for doing so, understand where it is coming from. You pick up and drop off - those are the times to talk with the teacher and get in depth responses to your questions. And while you may think your phone call is ONLY 5 minutes, the reality is that the teacher has to leave where she is to walk to the phone, answer it, talk to you, hang up, and then go back to the children. doing this for you each and every day for over a year to me (and I'm sure to them) signals at the very least a lack of trust in the provider.
I don't think calling is an indication that there is a lack of trust. It's because you want to know how the day is going (she was a little fussy. she's having a great day. she seemed tired so we let her sleep a little longer). Granted I dont' know how long the calls last but I know I didn't have time to discuss how my child is doing when dropping them in the morning. Often times the classroom teacher was not even in yet & when DH picked them up at the end of the day, they were already gone.
When your child is older, I think you start to call less because they can tell you how their day was, what they did, who hit who, who got in trouble, etc. But a child who can't talk?? I see nothing wrong with calling on a regular basis. I know I was frustrated at my daycare when we would hear days later that my son got in trouble for hitting someone. How are we supposed to address something that happened on a Friday, when you're only telling me on Monday? With the exception of that one teacher, I always went out of my way to befriend the teachers.
In my opinion, there is no reason to get attitude for calling if you're mindful of the time they spend on the phone (actually that's still no reason to give you attitude). If you're calling at a bad time, then they should tell you when it is a good time to call.
Barb - the OP said she calls once a day, every day, and has been doing so since she enrolled her DD a year ago. If I was the provider I would have sent home a note as well.
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
I personally don't think it's unreasonable to call every day. I can't imagine your calls are longer than a few minutes long, not whole entire conversations asking for every detail of her day...right?
DD's not in daycare so I don't know about specific policies, but I'm surprised it's frowned upon for parents to call to check on their kids after a certain length of time that they're in the program.
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
As a working mom, I totally know that feeling of wanting a daily update. You're at work and wonder how your little one is. As previous posters have stated, I think it is difficult for daycare teachers to keep track of all the children and if every parent called daily, their time would be spent talking to parents vs giving attention to the children.
My mom watches DS one on one and it is even hard to get updates from her because she has her hands full with DS. She also keeps a little written log of when DS eats, drinks milk and sleeps. I asked her if she could include what activities he does and she can't always keep track. She just tells me if he does something new or there is a problem.
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
As a mom whose child is in daycare I can totally relate and I don't think its unreasonable at all to call once a day! Especially since she is 1. I mean for crying out loud those are little babies, whats wrong with a quick minute call to inquire how your child's day is going? But I think it also depends on how big is the center...although I don't think it matters...I visited a huge daycare and the providers told me that there was a phone in each room and to feel free to call the teacher anytime I wanted! I try to call when I know the kids are napping and the teacher has a minute to spare. I try to keep it short and sweet and hang up. I can see myself calling less and less once he gets a little older but for now my son is still 2 and they will get a call from me everyday. Thank God they don't mind:)
ETA: When my mom and SIL watched my son I called like every hour lol...but it did make me feel closer to my DS knowing what he is doing, how his day is going and just to hear him babble in the background. I don't get that now but a quick "He's doing well" is enough for me now:)
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
When Molly was young I called her school every single day and I saw the teachers at pick up and drop off. You are paying for a service and therefore calling should not be a problem
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Im assuming I answered in a "not" nice way as per your update. But really.....you asked for advice, you asked if we thought you were being anal (your words not mine) so we answered with what we thought.
It really irks me when people ask others opinions and then get all defensive when its not what they want to hear.
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
I appreciate everyone's opinions:)
I find it interesting how different all the Mom's out there are, thank you for YOUR opinion!
As other posters said who were similiar to me, my daughter is ONLY ONE, she is STILL a BABY and being away from me for 10 hours is torture for me and I cannot help myself but to call once a day to say hello, how is Chloe!
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Im assuming I answered in a "not" nice way as per your update. But really.....you asked for advice, you asked if we thought you were being anal (your words not mine) so we answered with what we thought.
It really irks me when people ask others opinions and then get all defensive when its not what they want to hear.
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
I think its great that you have time to call each day and the daycare providers should be fine with it. There is more than one adult in the room afterall and most facilities have a phone right in the room with the children.
Didn't you say your daughter just switched rooms? It sounds very reasonable that you are worried about her adjustment.
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by BabyLove08
Hi,
If you read the first post I put out THOROUGHLY you'd understand:) She changed her "tone" when I questioned her.
I ask basics, nothing major!
I guess the part I am having a hard time understanding is when you write about her "tone". How do you know what her "tone" truly was if this entire thing was done through a note to parents and your written note back? My original comment to you is that maybe you were reading too much into what her note said and that you misunderstood what she was trying to say. So for me, I would think that unless you spoke with her in person, how do you know what her "tone" originally was and whether or not it changed?
And I did read your original post thoroughly and still had a different opinion than you, but I don't think I was being mean in my response.
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
I really don't see anything wrong with you calling or asking about your DD's day, etc. What I'm wondering is why you are so concerned with what we all think about you doing that? I mean, I think the teacher cleared it up for you, but you're just perseverating on it. For the sake of your sanity, I'd just move on and know that you can continue to call and ask about your DDs day.
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Posted by MST9106
As a mom whose child is in daycare I can totally relate and I don't think its unreasonable at all to call once a day! Especially since she is 1. I mean for crying out loud those are little babies, whats wrong with a quick minute call to inquire how your child's day is going? But I think it also depends on how big is the center...although I don't think it matters...I visited a huge daycare and the providers told me that there was a phone in each room and to feel free to call the teacher anytime I wanted! I try to call when I know the kids are napping and the teacher has a minute to spare. I try to keep it short and sweet and hang up. I can see myself calling less and less once he gets a little older but for now my son is still 2 and they will get a call from me everyday. Thank God they don't mind:)
ETA: When my mom and SIL watched my son I called like every hour lol...but it did make me feel closer to my DS knowing what he is doing, how his day is going and just to hear him babble in the background. I don't get that now but a quick "He's doing well" is enough for me now:)
ITA... as a mom of a child who's in daycare I know how you feel. DS is 4 months old. I work 8 - 9 hours a day. I call every day b/c I want to make sure he's doing well. When I was interviewing this daycare they say there's a phone in every room and they have an open door policy for us to call or visit whenever. I picked this daycare for a lot of reason. A main was is b/c it's 5 mins from my office and believe me... the 1st week I was there every day. I call every day if I can now. No longer visit. I see DS is happy, but b/c I can't be with him I just like to make sure he's happy. Not once has the teachers made me feel like I shouldn't call.
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Honestly I think calling everyday is excessive. If there are 10 kids in the class with two teachers calling everyday takes away from the time with the children and it can be a dangerous situation. I've seen the chaos of a classroom with 10 babies and those teachers have their hands full. Like a PP said if one teacher is changing a diaper and the other is supposed to be monitoring the other 9 kids than who will be watching them while you are asking the "basics"?
I'd be angry if my DD was bit or hurt because the teacher was on the phone with a parent instead of watching my child like I pay them a ton of $$$ to do!
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
I didn't read the responses but I did read your post and updates.
My first reaction was that you might be over-analyzing the situation but then I stepped back..that comes from 2 years experience having my son in daycare. I don't call to check on him unless I have a concern (rough night/rough morning). But thinking back to when I first dropped DS off I can understand where you are coming from and I do sympathize.
September starts a new year for the daycare centers much likes schools and thier rooms fill up with returning children as well as new children. I imagine that by October that have had a good number of follow up calls. If you ever get a chance to watch a daycare teacher's day...you'd be amazed by what (a good teacher) has to do...between caring for a room of children and the requirements to clean, feed, change and the overall schedule they are non stop in there. I think that, much to the response of the teacher, they are happy to answer specific questions and will answer any calls you make BUT it does also cause some interference. NOT to say that you can't or should not call - you have every right to do so. It's just that if every parent calls throughout the day how are they managing the kids and the room, you know? Also keep in mind that the front desk staff may have alerted the owner/director and not necessarily the teacher and the letter may in fact have started from up top.
It sounds to me like the teacher just needs to manage a situation and clearly she is open to talking to you and making herself available. You might want to find out when the best time to call is - that might help as well.
Good Luck!
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Is it time for me to bring up the webcam issue yet? I really want a daycare with a webcam and not all parents agree that it is necessary  .
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| Posted 10/8/09 9:42 PM |
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mrsej
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
You probably don't need any more opinions, but my DS has gone to daycare since he was 3 months old. I called the first few weeks, but then stopped. They provide a sheet describing his day. You should be able to call whenever you want, however, like one of the previous posters said, imagine if every mother called at lunchtime - it would be difficult on the workers. I think if you wanted to ask a simiple question like "did she smile today" is a question that can wait until the end of the day. That being said, you have the right to call whenever you want.
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| Posted 10/8/09 9:48 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Abby has been in day care since she was 3 months old. I called ONCE on the first day and once on days after she has been out for an excessive amount of days due to illness. If something is wrong, I am notified immediately.
I don't think it is a question of mistrust, but I will say this, I would be pretty miffed if all of the parent's of the kids in Abby's class called everyday. It takes time away from the class and leaves the children unattended and at risk. It takes SECONDS for a child to get hurt when the teacher turns and loses focus and then that teacher is held accountable.
Side note - I have been asked to keep daily communication books with the parents of my students who expect a note every day. Each note can take as much as 10 minutes to write. Multiply that by 8 and that is one hour and 20 minutes that I am not watching the children. So I stopped doing it. No news is good news.
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| Posted 10/8/09 10:04 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: UPDATED AGIN AT BOTTOM LADIES: Am I The ONLY Mom Who Is SO "Concerned" About My Daughter's Day Care Situation? Sorry, VERY LONG
Just a thought.....
Of course you have every right to call each day if you'd like, but at the same time, you want to make sure that your child is getting the best possible care. Well, what if you, and every single parent called every day, then would she necessarily be getting the most attention and best care?
Maybe you can make one day of week where you can see the teacher face to face? That may help clear up some of the issues you have with her tone and the details that she gives.
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| Posted 10/8/09 11:14 PM |
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