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MrsDrMatt
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
The I think you should just write:
So, the end result is that, whereas last year some teachers got $50, and others got $800 - this year, all will get the same amount, probably a few hundred.
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summertime
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Honestly, I am at the point where the constant expectation of gifts/tips for services that I am paying quite a bit of money for is really absurd. JMHO
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| Posted 5/19/11 4:47 PM |
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Posted by summertime
Honestly, I am at the point where the constant expectation of gifts/tips for services that I am paying quite a bit of money for is really absurd. JMHO
could not agree more! you shouldnt have to supplement the teacher's salary by providing a bonus- I can see doing a small end of the year gift but $800 is crazy to me!
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| Posted 5/19/11 4:52 PM |
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JennZ
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Posted by Pray4Baby2010
Posted by summertime
Honestly, I am at the point where the constant expectation of gifts/tips for services that I am paying quite a bit of money for is really absurd. JMHO
could not agree more! you shouldnt have to supplement the teacher's salary by providing a bonus- I can see doing a small end of the year gift but $800 is crazy to me!
I agree, Inthink the whole thing is ridiculous.
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| Posted 5/19/11 4:53 PM |
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THUMPER
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
I don't think they should get monetary gifts either, but if that is what they do all the time I guess it is their choice. Looks like many parents are going to opt and but their own gifts, What happened to a box of chocolates, or writing paper for a gift.
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| Posted 5/19/11 7:35 PM |
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BargainMama
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Posted by Pray4Baby2010
Posted by summertime
Honestly, I am at the point where the constant expectation of gifts/tips for services that I am paying quite a bit of money for is really absurd. JMHO
could not agree more! you shouldnt have to supplement the teacher's salary by providing a bonus- I can see doing a small end of the year gift but $800 is crazy to me!
I agree!!!
I would opt out and send in a thank you card. I don't agree with monetary gifts. Maybe a plant or something thoughtful from the child.
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| Posted 5/19/11 7:41 PM |
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KennysMommy
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Posted by MrsDrMatt
Holy cow, my head is spinning from reading the letter. Maybe it is because I don't know the background.
Were people in the past required to give x amount?
Sorry, I am comfused. (I promise that I made 4 attempts to read it).
Same! (Actually I zoned out after the first 3 sentences, but tried to really concentrate on it again after that. It still doesn't make sense!) I've always found that less is more when writing letters like that.
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| Posted 5/19/11 8:03 PM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
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| Posted 5/19/11 8:44 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
I'll be honest, the letter is a bit longwinded. I also don't think you should mention parents coming to you crying to help cover their portion. If I were those parents I'd be MORTIFIED to read that part.
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| Posted 5/19/11 9:27 PM |
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MamaLeen
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Posted by Porrruss
I'll be honest, the letter is a bit longwinded. I also don't think you should mention parents coming to you crying to help cover their portion. If I were those parents I'd be MORTIFIED to read that part.
I agree. 
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| Posted 5/19/11 9:35 PM |
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Sweetlax22
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Posted by MrsDrMatt
The I think you should just write:
So, the end result is that, whereas last year some teachers got $50, and others got $800 - this year, all will get the same amount, probably a few hundred.
If this is what the letter meant , that this is good.
Whatever happend to stationary or a box of candy, and us sorry P.E. teachers being excited for having to write less thank you notes?
Don't get me wrong, gifts are apreciated but I would never hold it against a child if I got only a small gift or no gift at all. A thoughtfully written card is often the best!
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| Posted 5/19/11 9:43 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Posted by MamaLeen
Posted by Porrruss
I'll be honest, the letter is a bit longwinded. I also don't think you should mention parents coming to you crying to help cover their portion. If I were those parents I'd be MORTIFIED to read that part.
I agree.
Oh no no no, this went only to 8 people who are the class moms, and none of them know exactly who it is. I agree w/everyone, I think the whole thing is outrageous and tacky!! I wanted to just eliminate it entirely but so many of the parents insisted, so I compromised by doing SOMETHING, but in a different, more fair manner. Next year, I am eliminating this process entirely!
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| Posted 5/19/11 11:03 PM |
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Sweetlax22
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by MamaLeen
Posted by Porrruss
I'll be honest, the letter is a bit longwinded. I also don't think you should mention parents coming to you crying to help cover their portion. If I were those parents I'd be MORTIFIED to read that part.
I agree.
Oh no no no, this went only to 8 people who are the class moms, and none of them know exactly who it is. I agree w/everyone, I think the whole thing is outrageous and tacky!! I wanted to just eliminate it entirely but so many of the parents insisted, so I compromised by doing SOMETHING, but in a different, more fair manner. Next year, I am eliminating this process entirely!
Got ya! If I was in your situation I would be doing the same thing!!
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| Posted 5/19/11 11:06 PM |
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twicethefun
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
While I think many daycare providers are underpaid, I think that they need to properly compensated for their work by the business not the parents. It sounds like the infant room teachers should be paid more for a job well done and accept that tips/gifts will not supplement their salary. In general jobs that do not earn tips, earn more salary/pay.
As for tips/gifts I like to give based on performance. SOme teachers are awesome with my kids, while others are just doing their job. I think its important to show appreciation for outstanding teachers with a nice gift. However, I do not feel I need to supplement anyone's salary with my gift, especially someone who is just doing there job.
I am a teacher.
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BeachMom
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
in our schools were not allowed to put a specific $ amount on the letter. We usually ask for whatever they want to contribute. And as a class parent, i do what i can with the money we collect. One year i got a whopping $25 total from 5 kids/parents. So the gift we got her came from those 5 kids alone. Another year i collected about $250. If all depends on the parents and how happy they are.
I think your letter was very well written, but as you know there's always drama somewhere, so someone is always going to have a problem no matter what you do. But kudos to you for putting it all out there and attempting to make it better!
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
I was the child of a disabled single mother and we had NO money to give. I could not have contributed more than a dollar if that and not for multiple teachers. Receiving a request for such amounts of $ like this would have mortified me even if kept confidential, it's just a reminder of being poor. Sorry for my unsolicited opinion not of what you asked but this brought back bad childhood memories.
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| Posted 5/20/11 7:52 AM |
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Wendy
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
I can't understand how any parents can INSIST there be a process for GIFTS. I'm pretty sure only the OWNER at my daycare TELLS me that I HAVE to pay anyone.
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| Posted 5/20/11 8:26 AM |
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
We do not have PTO in the pre-school, but at the holidays and end of year a mom volunteers to collect money from the their child is in. So in DS's class we are collecting $20 from each student and I think splitting it in half between the aide and teacher because the aide does just as much as the teacher. In DD's class I think it is $25.
As a parent we have the option to opt out.
Could this work for you? I would be annoyed if my money is getting pooled and given to a teacher my child doesn't have.
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| Posted 5/20/11 9:09 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Posted by JerseyMamaOf3
We do not have PTO in the pre-school, but at the holidays and end of year a mom volunteers to collect money from the their child is in. So in DS's class we are collecting $20 from each student and I think splitting it in half between the aide and teacher because the aide does just as much as the teacher. In DD's class I think it is $25.
As a parent we have the option to opt out.
Could this work for you? I would be annoyed if my money is getting pooled and given to a teacher my child doesn't have.
I wish we could. See the problem is that we have a very community oriented school with lots of different classes. So, in any given day, Alex interacts with about 8-10 different teachers. Two for early care, two for her morning class, two for lunch, two for hebrew immersion, and two for late care. On top of that, they have different specialists interact with each class every day (piano lessons, yoga instruction, dance classes, gymnastics, sign language, etc). Every child in the school has a different schedule, so while Alex may interact with 10 in one day, another child in her morning class may not have hebrew immersion, or may eat lunch with a different bunch of kids, or may have only early care, not late care, etc.
So, as much as we would LOVE to do it this way, we simply can't, because it's a logistical nightmare. The reason why the parents keep insisting that the PTO organize something is because they don't want to have to go out and buy 8-10 different gifts. They prefer that we pool the money together in some way or another to avoid all the confusion and logistics.
I do not disagree with everyone that even asking for $$ is ridiculous. But it's something that the PTO has been doing for years, and something the parents have come to expect, and insist upon. Personally I find the whole process tacky. Even for myself, I NEVER contribute to the class gift. I always buy something personal for each teacher, with a handwritten note. And I would NEVER begrudge ANYONE who couldn't afford anything, and I personally think this process makes those people feel like crap.
So both I and the other PTO mom agree that we are eliminating the entire thing next year.
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| Posted 5/20/11 9:16 AM |
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jewels
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
WOW!!! as a nyc teacher and a new mom with no kids yet in school...this is so eye opening to me!!!! the most i ever got at the end of the school year was a few sunflowers from 1 kid and I thought that was so great! i think whatever you end up doing is great and generous. in the future maybe have a different mom in change of each teacher in the building and a list can go home of what mom is collecting for what teacher so that no parent feels like they are contributing to a teacher they don't want to contribute to and so no mom is overwhelmed with sorting through contributions.
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| Posted 5/20/11 10:39 AM |
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kerrycec03
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
dude, this is crazy!!! Personally, I will give what I feel is neccessary. I don't like it being dictated NOR do I think a bonus of $500+++ is neccessary. And come on with giving gifts to everyone, the therapist, the this person, that person, etc. If you as a parent feel that teacher deserves something, than give it. Its a parents choice.
On a side note, while the letter is well written, its far too wordy and you lost me.
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Re: Well, I sent an email to the room parents re: class gifts
Then pooling the money makes sense.
Good luck with the crazy mom's when they respond 
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