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NervousNell
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by alisha
Honestly this post has me 
I can't believe how many of you don't/didn't want your baby in the room with you! That was a requirement for me, actually the very first question I asked on my hospital tour. I wanted my baby with me every second.
Because I suck as a mother.
I am just a selfish person who didn't want my baby in the room at night those first 2 nights, didn't breastfeed and went back to work at 8 weeks.
I also drank a glass or 2 of wine while pregnant, ate cold cuts like they were going out of style and had coffee every single day.
I really should have CPS after my asss.
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by EricaAlt
The hospital I gave birth at in NJ was like that. At first I wasn't thrilled, but to be honest it really wasn't bad. If I really needed a couple of hours they would've taken him to the nursery (even though there really wasn't a nursery).
The nurses were very helpful with the baby, changes and baths. I really didn't mind it. Plus, the rooms were pretty nice and desent size.
Ditto..I delivered at the same hospital. I was shocked when they told me they were going to bathe DD in my room. I did ask them to take her one night because she was really fussy and they did. I actually kinda liked it and it was my third chid.
With my first 2 kids they were in the nursery. My first more so than my second. I really didn't think I would get any sleep and I wanted to be rested.
We all know weather the baby stays with you or not, that baby is going to be crying at night as soon as you get home 
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Annie91606
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by dlj97
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
***I'm NOT talking about people who had complications or were too physically ill to lift their child, or the babies that have to go to NICU...*** BUT if you're having a baby, the last night of sleep you should expect to get is the sleep you get BEFORE the baby is born...
So if I have a labor that lasts hours and hours (possibly over days) and I'm so physically and mentally exhausted but my baby is not in the NICU, I don't deserve a few hours of uninterrupted sleep while the nurses do their job and watch her in the nursery? I'd rather my daughter get the care she deserves by someone who is actually mentally and physically capable. If I'm nursing, by all means they should bring her in if she needs a feeding but allowing my body and mind to rest for a few hours at night does not make me a bad mother.
To each her own but enough with the judging already. Some people choose to keep their babies in the room, some don't. All are good mothers and to insinuate otherwise is disgusting.
I didn't realize a nurses job was babysitting.
in.
Oh, so when I had surgery as a child and stayed at the hospital for 5 days, the nurses in pediatrics were "babysitting" me? No, they were doing what they were being paid to do, take care of me.
Likewise, a nurse who works in the maternity/neonatal ward IOC a hospital is doing their JOB by watching babies in the nursery; feeding them and changing diapers, etc.
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Annie91606
Posted by dlj97
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
***I'm NOT talking about people who had complications or were too physically ill to lift their child, or the babies that have to go to NICU...*** BUT if you're having a baby, the last night of sleep you should expect to get is the sleep you get BEFORE the baby is born...
So if I have a labor that lasts hours and hours (possibly over days) and I'm so physically and mentally exhausted but my baby is not in the NICU, I don't deserve a few hours of uninterrupted sleep while the nurses do their job and watch her in the nursery? I'd rather my daughter get the care she deserves by someone who is actually mentally and physically capable. If I'm nursing, by all means they should bring her in if she needs a feeding but allowing my body and mind to rest for a few hours at night does not make me a bad mother.
To each her own but enough with the judging already. Some people choose to keep their babies in the room, some don't. All are good mothers and to insinuate otherwise is disgusting.
I didn't realize a nurses job was babysitting.
in.
Oh, so when I had surgery as a child and stayed at the hospital for 5 days, the nurses in pediatrics were "babysitting" me? No, they were doing what they were being paid to do, take care of me.
Likewise, a nurse who works in the maternity/neonatal ward IOC a hospital is doing their JOB by watching babies in the nursery; feeding them and changing diapers, etc.
My DD was in the hospital for a week in a burn unit when she was 15 months old. I stayed with her round the clock. When I had to use the bathroom I would ask the nurses to watch her for a minute so I didn't need to lock her in the crib cage and they would not do it. Their job is to treat the patient, and unless they were treating her they wouldn't watch her for a second. Not saying I agree with that extreme, but it is true.
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by dlj97
Posted by Annie91606
Posted by dlj97
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
***I'm NOT talking about people who had complications or were too physically ill to lift their child, or the babies that have to go to NICU...*** BUT if you're having a baby, the last night of sleep you should expect to get is the sleep you get BEFORE the baby is born...
So if I have a labor that lasts hours and hours (possibly over days) and I'm so physically and mentally exhausted but my baby is not in the NICU, I don't deserve a few hours of uninterrupted sleep while the nurses do their job and watch her in the nursery? I'd rather my daughter get the care she deserves by someone who is actually mentally and physically capable. If I'm nursing, by all means they should bring her in if she needs a feeding but allowing my body and mind to rest for a few hours at night does not make me a bad mother.
To each her own but enough with the judging already. Some people choose to keep their babies in the room, some don't. All are good mothers and to insinuate otherwise is disgusting.
I didn't realize a nurses job was babysitting.
in.
Oh, so when I had surgery as a child and stayed at the hospital for 5 days, the nurses in pediatrics were "babysitting" me? No, they were doing what they were being paid to do, take care of me.
Likewise, a nurse who works in the maternity/neonatal ward IOC a hospital is doing their JOB by watching babies in the nursery; feeding them and changing diapers, etc.
My DD was in the hospital for a week in a burn unit when she was 15 months old. I stayed with her round the clock. When I had to use the bathroom I would ask the nurses to watch her for a minute so I didn't need to lock her in the crib cage and they would not do it. Their job is to treat the patient, and unless they were treating her they wouldn't watch her for a second. Not saying I agree with that extreme, but it is true.
Im sorry but that sounds like a ****** ass nurse.
I guess I am lucky that everytime my SS was in the hospital he had loving and nurturing nurses in addition to their aweome nusring skills. Bedside manners go a long way in a hospital.
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ElizaRags35
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
***I'm NOT talking about people who had complications or were too physically ill to lift their child, or the babies that have to go to NICU...*** BUT if you're having a baby, the last night of sleep you should expect to get is the sleep you get BEFORE the baby is born...
So if I have a labor that lasts hours and hours (possibly over days) and I'm so physically and mentally exhausted but my baby is not in the NICU, I don't deserve a few hours of uninterrupted sleep while the nurses do their job and watch her in the nursery? I'd rather my daughter get the care she deserves by someone who is actually mentally and physically capable. If I'm nursing, by all means they should bring her in if she needs a feeding but allowing my body and mind to rest for a few hours at night does not make me a bad mother.
To each her own but enough with the judging already. Some people choose to keep their babies in the room, some don't. All are good mothers and to insinuate otherwise is disgusting.
Good luck trying to get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep in the hospital to begin with. Your roommate might choose to keep her baby with her, or you'll hear the baby across the hall...the nurses come in at all hours to take your temperature and blood pressure, and if you're BFing they will still bring you the baby every 2 hours to nurse... Also, I started my response with I agree that women SHOULD have the CHOICE! I spent 2 nights in the hospital before the baby was even born...I was induced, labored for over 24 hours, had a c-section and was up dragging myself down 2 hallways to the NICU to be with me baby. That was my choice. And my OPINION is that I'm surprised by the amount of people that would rather rest than be with their baby.
I didn't call you or anyone a "bad mother". And my opinion that rooming-in is good, isnt "disgusting". But I'm glad you're not being judgemental....
Ahh no roommate to worry about when you give birth at Stonybrook.
And I didn't say that you specifically insinuated that choosing to allow the babies to go to the nursery is disgusting, I meant those with their holier than thou comments that insinuate that those who choose to bring their babies to the nursery are bad mothers are disgusting for their judgment. Like I said, to each her own.
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by dlj97
Posted by Annie91606
Posted by dlj97
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
***I'm NOT talking about people who had complications or were too physically ill to lift their child, or the babies that have to go to NICU...*** BUT if you're having a baby, the last night of sleep you should expect to get is the sleep you get BEFORE the baby is born...
So if I have a labor that lasts hours and hours (possibly over days) and I'm so physically and mentally exhausted but my baby is not in the NICU, I don't deserve a few hours of uninterrupted sleep while the nurses do their job and watch her in the nursery? I'd rather my daughter get the care she deserves by someone who is actually mentally and physically capable. If I'm nursing, by all means they should bring her in if she needs a feeding but allowing my body and mind to rest for a few hours at night does not make me a bad mother.
To each her own but enough with the judging already. Some people choose to keep their babies in the room, some don't. All are good mothers and to insinuate otherwise is disgusting.
I didn't realize a nurses job was babysitting.
in.
Oh, so when I had surgery as a child and stayed at the hospital for 5 days, the nurses in pediatrics were "babysitting" me? No, they were doing what they were being paid to do, take care of me.
Likewise, a nurse who works in the maternity/neonatal ward IOC a hospital is doing their JOB by watching babies in the nursery; feeding them and changing diapers, etc.
My DD was in the hospital for a week in a burn unit when she was 15 months old. I stayed with her round the clock. When I had to use the bathroom I would ask the nurses to watch her for a minute so I didn't need to lock her in the crib cage and they would not do it. Their job is to treat the patient, and unless they were treating her they wouldn't watch her for a second. Not saying I agree with that extreme, but it is true.
But when a hospital has a nursery on the maternity ward there are nurses hired specifically to work in that nursery and care for the babies in there. So it most definitely IS their job to get them to bed, change them, and feed them as needed. That's why the nursery is there. 
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CrankyPants
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by jax1023
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Sleep when they grow up. Healthy newborns need to be with their mothers.
Holy sh*t. How obnoxious are you?!
What you think the hospital made these policies up to annoy you? No they didn't, they're is a reason behind them and its that newborns benefit from being with their mothers.
I'm not saying your kid is going to resent you and need therapy because you sent them to the hospital nursery. I'm saying their are short term health benefits for newborns from being with their mothers. It's not obnoxious it's fact.
Again, it's adorable that you think hospitals are doing this for anything other than cost cutting.
Also, "sleep when they grow up"? that is not very adorable. At all. I suspect I have been doing this mom thing a lot longer than you. Your passion and righteousness is what I find adorable. Hopefully, you'll learn to temper your mouth as you get more experience.
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by dlj97
Posted by Annie91606
Posted by dlj97
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by MrsDamonSalv7319
***I'm NOT talking about people who had complications or were too physically ill to lift their child, or the babies that have to go to NICU...*** BUT if you're having a baby, the last night of sleep you should expect to get is the sleep you get BEFORE the baby is born...
So if I have a labor that lasts hours and hours (possibly over days) and I'm so physically and mentally exhausted but my baby is not in the NICU, I don't deserve a few hours of uninterrupted sleep while the nurses do their job and watch her in the nursery? I'd rather my daughter get the care she deserves by someone who is actually mentally and physically capable. If I'm nursing, by all means they should bring her in if she needs a feeding but allowing my body and mind to rest for a few hours at night does not make me a bad mother.
To each her own but enough with the judging already. Some people choose to keep their babies in the room, some don't. All are good mothers and to insinuate otherwise is disgusting.
I didn't realize a nurses job was babysitting.
in.
Oh, so when I had surgery as a child and stayed at the hospital for 5 days, the nurses in pediatrics were "babysitting" me? No, they were doing what they were being paid to do, take care of me.
Likewise, a nurse who works in the maternity/neonatal ward IOC a hospital is doing their JOB by watching babies in the nursery; feeding them and changing diapers, etc.
My DD was in the hospital for a week in a burn unit when she was 15 months old. I stayed with her round the clock. When I had to use the bathroom I would ask the nurses to watch her for a minute so I didn't need to lock her in the crib cage and they would not do it. Their job is to treat the patient, and unless they were treating her they wouldn't watch her for a second. Not saying I agree with that extreme, but it is true.
But when a hospital has a nursery on the maternity ward there are nurses hired specifically to work in that nursery and care for the babies in there. So it most definitely IS their job to get them to bed, change them, and feed them as needed. That's why the nursery is there.
Yes. My point exactly.
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AngnShaun
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by jams92
i would pick another hospital! did she tell them to take the baby to the nursery at any point while she was there?
when i went to the hospital tour at LIJ i was told they ahve a "room in" policy and they want the babies with the moms at all times. but when dd was actually born they had no problem having her in the nursery over night
i never did a tour so i didnt know that... but they never gave me a problem with her in the nursery either
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by alisha
Honestly this post has me
I can't believe how many of you don't/didn't want your baby in the room with you! That was a requirement for me, actually the very first question I asked on my hospital tour. I wanted my baby with me every second.
Because I suck as a mother.
I am just a selfish person who didn't want my baby in the room at night those first 2 nights, didn't breastfeed and went back to work at 8 weeks.
I also drank a glass or 2 of wine while pregnant, ate cold cuts like they were going out of style and had coffee every single day.
I really should have CPS after my asss.
My God, I am amazed they even let you take the baby home with you after that type of behavior  
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VikingChick
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Re: What are your thoughts?
I just wanted to point out that this policy has probably been implemented to comply with the "baby friendly hospital" guidelines. One of the requirements is as follows:
"Step 7:
Practice rooming-in –
allow mothers and infants to remain together twenty-four hours a day.
?This step applies to all babies, regardless of feeding method.
GUIDELINE: The facility should provide rooming-in twenty-four hours a day as the standard for mother-baby care for healthy, full-term infants, regardless of feeding choice. When a mother requests that her baby be cared for in the nursery, the health care staff should explore the reasons for the request and should encourage and educate the mother about the advantages of having her infant stay with her in the same room twenty-four hours a day. If the mother still requests that the baby be cared for in the nursery, the process and informed decision should be documented. In addition, the medical and nursing staff should conduct newborn procedures at the mother’s bedside whenever possible, and should avoid frequent separations and/or absences of the newborn from the mother for more than an hour. If the baby is kept in the nursery for medical reasons, the mother should be provided access to feed her baby at any time."
See Baby Friendly USA
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Jenn627
Why, why, why are we SO mean and judgy to one another?
With the head scratching and the "I can't believes".
It's SO FRUSTRATING.
And then someone will post an article about how moms are doing the best they can and everyone claps and are all supportive of one another. THAT'S what has me scratching my head.
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NervousNell
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by anskiv
I just wanted to point out that this policy has probably been implemented to comply with the "baby friendly hospital" guidelines. One of the requirements is as follows:
"Step 7:
Practice rooming-in –
allow mothers and infants to remain together twenty-four hours a day.
?This step applies to all babies, regardless of feeding method.
GUIDELINE: The facility should provide rooming-in twenty-four hours a day as the standard for mother-baby care for healthy, full-term infants, regardless of feeding choice. When a mother requests that her baby be cared for in the nursery, the health care staff should explore the reasons for the request and should encourage and educate the mother about the advantages of having her infant stay with her in the same room twenty-four hours a day. If the mother still requests that the baby be cared for in the nursery, the process and informed decision should be documented. In addition, the medical and nursing staff should conduct newborn procedures at the mother’s bedside whenever possible, and should avoid frequent separations and/or absences of the newborn from the mother for more than an hour. If the baby is kept in the nursery for medical reasons, the mother should be provided access to feed her baby at any time."
See Baby Friendly USA
a beautiful write up to mask the cost cutting.
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NervousNell
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by MrsA714
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by alisha
Honestly this post has me
I can't believe how many of you don't/didn't want your baby in the room with you! That was a requirement for me, actually the very first question I asked on my hospital tour. I wanted my baby with me every second.
Because I suck as a mother.
I am just a selfish person who didn't want my baby in the room at night those first 2 nights, didn't breastfeed and went back to work at 8 weeks.
I also drank a glass or 2 of wine while pregnant, ate cold cuts like they were going out of style and had coffee every single day.
I really should have CPS after my asss.
My God, I am amazed they even let you take the baby home with you after that type of behavior
I know. I just got her out of there by the skin of my teeth!
Whew!
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Here is an abstract to a study on the issue.
Study
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ElizaRags35
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by anskiv
I just wanted to point out that this policy has probably been implemented to comply with the "baby friendly hospital" guidelines. One of the requirements is as follows:
"Step 7:
Practice rooming-in –
allow mothers and infants to remain together twenty-four hours a day.
?This step applies to all babies, regardless of feeding method.
GUIDELINE: The facility should provide rooming-in twenty-four hours a day as the standard for mother-baby care for healthy, full-term infants, regardless of feeding choice. When a mother requests that her baby be cared for in the nursery, the health care staff should explore the reasons for the request and should encourage and educate the mother about the advantages of having her infant stay with her in the same room twenty-four hours a day. If the mother still requests that the baby be cared for in the nursery, the process and informed decision should be documented. In addition, the medical and nursing staff should conduct newborn procedures at the mother’s bedside whenever possible, and should avoid frequent separations and/or absences of the newborn from the mother for more than an hour. If the baby is kept in the nursery for medical reasons, the mother should be provided access to feed her baby at any time."
See Baby Friendly USA
a beautiful write up to mask the cost cutting.
I thought the same lol. Call me a cynic I guess.
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What are your thoughts?
To answer the OP, that's awesome if patients want it. I wanted to room in but wanted option to use nursery if need be. So I would have used another hospital I think.
I think many are forgetting that new moms are patients who are recovering... It's not like you're on a luxurious trip and using a babysitting service . I can only speak for myself but I was a c section patient and hopped up on Perocets. I could barely keep my eyes open until I asked them to lower the dosage. I remember falling asleep with my baby in my arms and a nurse coming in and waking me up. She saw I was in no shape to safely hold my child, thankfully. That was the first night recovering. After some much needed rest, I was much more effective and "with it".
We are not superheroes. We all try. Just too much going on recovery wise, hormones, pain meds. I think having nursery there is a good thing (if you need it).
Also - not all new moms have family or a partner to help them with baby in hospital.
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VikingChick
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by anskiv
I just wanted to point out that this policy has probably been implemented to comply with the "baby friendly hospital" guidelines. One of the requirements is as follows:
"Step 7:
Practice rooming-in –
allow mothers and infants to remain together twenty-four hours a day.
?This step applies to all babies, regardless of feeding method.
GUIDELINE: The facility should provide rooming-in twenty-four hours a day as the standard for mother-baby care for healthy, full-term infants, regardless of feeding choice. When a mother requests that her baby be cared for in the nursery, the health care staff should explore the reasons for the request and should encourage and educate the mother about the advantages of having her infant stay with her in the same room twenty-four hours a day. If the mother still requests that the baby be cared for in the nursery, the process and informed decision should be documented. In addition, the medical and nursing staff should conduct newborn procedures at the mother’s bedside whenever possible, and should avoid frequent separations and/or absences of the newborn from the mother for more than an hour. If the baby is kept in the nursery for medical reasons, the mother should be provided access to feed her baby at any time."
See Baby Friendly USA
a beautiful write up to mask the cost cutting.
I thought the same lol. Call me a cynic I guess.
I totally disagree. Think back to when our mothers had us and had to FIGHT to breastfeed. The standard was a drugged up birth, then they would whisk the baby away and formula feed them, unless the mother put up serious objections! Now, the care is so much better for mothers and babies, with rooming in and skin to skin right after birth.
Not saying you shouldn't have a choice to send your baby to the nursery (mine both went for about 2 hours on the night they were born so I could sleep a little), but the standard should be rooming in unless there is a need for the baby to be out of the room.
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Hofstra26
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by anskiv
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by anskiv
I just wanted to point out that this policy has probably been implemented to comply with the "baby friendly hospital" guidelines. One of the requirements is as follows:
"Step 7:
Practice rooming-in –
allow mothers and infants to remain together twenty-four hours a day.
?This step applies to all babies, regardless of feeding method.
GUIDELINE: The facility should provide rooming-in twenty-four hours a day as the standard for mother-baby care for healthy, full-term infants, regardless of feeding choice. When a mother requests that her baby be cared for in the nursery, the health care staff should explore the reasons for the request and should encourage and educate the mother about the advantages of having her infant stay with her in the same room twenty-four hours a day. If the mother still requests that the baby be cared for in the nursery, the process and informed decision should be documented. In addition, the medical and nursing staff should conduct newborn procedures at the mother’s bedside whenever possible, and should avoid frequent separations and/or absences of the newborn from the mother for more than an hour. If the baby is kept in the nursery for medical reasons, the mother should be provided access to feed her baby at any time."
See Baby Friendly USA
a beautiful write up to mask the cost cutting.
I thought the same lol. Call me a cynic I guess.
I totally disagree. Think back to when our mothers had us and had to FIGHT to breastfeed. The standard was a drugged up birth, then they would whisk the baby away and formula feed them, unless the mother put up serious objections! Now, the care is so much better for mothers and babies, with rooming in and skin to skin right after birth.
Not saying you shouldn't have a choice to send your baby to the nursery (mine both went for about 2 hours on the night they were born so I could sleep a little), but the standard should be rooming in unless there is a need for the baby to be out of the room.
There shouldn't be a "standard".........there should just always be a CHOICE. Whether it's regarding rooming in/out or FF vs. BF or anything relating to you and the baby there should be a choice so that you can do what is best for YOU.
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Re: What are your thoughts?
This post is the perfect example of why I don't post here often....
Being a Mom is the most judge-y job in the world. People can't wrap their heads around the fact that just because they do something one way, other people may be just as happy doing something a different way.
If you want your baby with you 24/7, you breast feed, don't let your baby CIO, make your own baby food, get your baby the flu shot and are a stay at home Mom who just never needs a break from Motherhood...GOOD FOR YOU! You rock!
If you sent your baby to the nursery, formula fed, let your baby CIO, used Gerber (even some *GASP* non Organic), didn't get your baby the flu shot, and are a working Mom who sometimes goes out for Happy Hour after work....GOOD FOR YOU!! You rock!
We're Moms...we all have ONE thing in common, we do the BEST we can. The other details really shouldn't matter or measure the love we have for our child(ren).
ETA: I don't think it should be mandated to keep your baby. An option, always. Mandated? No.
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What are your thoughts?
Ok so first the hospitals are trying to remove the choice of whether you want to BF and now they are trying to do away with your choice to decide whether you room in.
Next they are going to try remove the choice of you having the baby in the hospital?? I never had to deal with giving birth or making these choices but this is just inanse to me as a woman!!
Message edited 11/22/2013 11:14:01 AM.
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| Posted 11/22/13 11:13 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by anskiv
Posted by ElizaRags35
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by anskiv
I just wanted to point out that this policy has probably been implemented to comply with the "baby friendly hospital" guidelines. One of the requirements is as follows:
"Step 7:
Practice rooming-in –
allow mothers and infants to remain together twenty-four hours a day.
?This step applies to all babies, regardless of feeding method.
GUIDELINE: The facility should provide rooming-in twenty-four hours a day as the standard for mother-baby care for healthy, full-term infants, regardless of feeding choice. When a mother requests that her baby be cared for in the nursery, the health care staff should explore the reasons for the request and should encourage and educate the mother about the advantages of having her infant stay with her in the same room twenty-four hours a day. If the mother still requests that the baby be cared for in the nursery, the process and informed decision should be documented. In addition, the medical and nursing staff should conduct newborn procedures at the mother’s bedside whenever possible, and should avoid frequent separations and/or absences of the newborn from the mother for more than an hour. If the baby is kept in the nursery for medical reasons, the mother should be provided access to feed her baby at any time."
See Baby Friendly USA
a beautiful write up to mask the cost cutting.
I thought the same lol. Call me a cynic I guess.
I totally disagree. Think back to when our mothers had us and had to FIGHT to breastfeed. The standard was a drugged up birth, then they would whisk the baby away and formula feed them, unless the mother put up serious objections! Now, the care is so much better for mothers and babies, with rooming in and skin to skin right after birth.
Not saying you shouldn't have a choice to send your baby to the nursery (mine both went for about 2 hours on the night they were born so I could sleep a little), but the standard should be rooming in unless there is a need for the baby to be out of the room.
There shouldn't be a "standard".........there should just always be a CHOICE. Whether it's regarding rooming in/out or FF vs. BF or anything relating to you and the baby there should be a choice so that you can do what is best for YOU.
Exactly!!
What is scaring me lately is I am finding that a woman's right to CHOOSE is starting to erode more and more.
What happened to having a choice?
It scares me that the government, the hospitals, the mayor, whoever can DICTATE to me how I should care for my child.
How much soda I should be able to purchase at one time.
How I should feed my baby.
It's a slippery slope IMO
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| Posted 11/22/13 11:15 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by Sash
Ok so first the hospitals are trying to remove the choice of whether you want to BF and now they are trying to do away with your choice to decide whether you room in.
Next they are going to try remove the choice of you having the baby in the hospital?? I never had to deal with giving birth or making these choices but this is just inanse to me as a woman!!
Next will be "discouraging" the epidural. Because someone dictates that a drug free birth is somehow better and makes you more of a hero.
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| Posted 11/22/13 11:16 AM |
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computergirl
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Re: What are your thoughts?
Posted by NervousNell
Next will be "discouraging" the epidural. Because someone dictates that a drug free birth is somehow better and makes you more of a hero.
I feel like handing out medals to all these heroes, just so I don't have to hear them talk about it anymore.
There would be the "Drug Free Birth" award (larger medals will be awarded based on the length of labor and degree of tearing)
The "My Baby Never Had a Drop of Formula" Award (larger medals will be awarded based on the number of foods you had to eliminate from your diet)
The "My Baby Never Had Food from a (gasp) Jar" Award. This medal comes in the shape of a Baby Bullet.
and let's not forget my personal favorite:
The "I Would Never Let my Baby CIO" Award. Most recipients will not be present to receive this medal because they fell asleep at their desks.
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