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BethanyLynn
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
Posted by neener1211
MAKE A FREAKIN' DECISION FOR YOURSELF!!!!
When I'm contracting, in pain with a child coming out my hoo ha, I really don't give a poop about helping you decide what you should have for breakfast...ESPECIALLY when I am not allowed to eat.
Oh, and after the baby is born, make a note to MAKE A FREAKIN' DECISION FOR YOURSELF!!!! Stop asking me if or when or how...I don't care, I have enough decisions to make, I don't want to make yours!
Love it! 
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
Posted by LuvmyShihTzu
I would tell them to warn their DH's NOT to eat in front of them. I didn't think it would bother me so much, but after 34.5 hours of labor and a stinkin' Italian ice, I wanted to take whatever he was eating/drinking and shove it really farrrrrrrr uppppppppppppppp lol
OMG yes! 24 hours of labor and I had to sit there and watch DH eat a sandwich when I hadn't eaten in over a day....I was ready to shoot fireballs out of my eyes!
Oh and don't keep telling me to "Breathe! Breathe!"....I AM flucking breathing!!!
But on a serious note, as someone previously mentioned, having family/friends bring food instead of gifts is a GREAT idea and will be so helpful those first few crazy, sleep-deprived days!
Message edited 7/30/2010 1:49:03 PM.
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SweetTooth
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
If having a c-section -don't say to wife - "Wow, I just saw some really big organ!"
To wife: Take the pain meds!!!
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pickles16
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
Don't gag when you see the needle for my epidural and don't ask me where we're going at 11 at night in a snow storm 4 days before my due date when I tell you to get dressed and visibly in pain..I swear, when he asked I was about to drive myself to the hospital and tell him we were going to the movies...
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| Posted 7/30/10 2:01 PM |
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leighla
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
For the woman - while the contractions hurt, the real issue is getting yourself mentally strong between the contractions.
It's a big old mindf*ck when you know that pain is about to come back over and over again.
So figure out now what works best to distract you and create a plan.
For the men - turn off your cell phone. Call the people your wife tells you to call then turn it off!
Overall - figure out a plan for your pets if you have them. Everyone was at the hospital and we suddenly realized no one had let the dog out or fed him since the night before (I went into labor at 2 am).
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Momma2Be
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
Posted by pickles16
Don't gag when you see the needle for my epidural and don't ask me where we're going at 11 at night in a snow storm 4 days before my due date when I tell you to get dressed and visibly in pain..I swear, when he asked I was about to drive myself to the hospital and tell him we were going to the movies...
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nrthshgrl
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
Ah one more thing. Keep in mind this is YEARS ago & it's still with me.
DH - labor is not a race. Do not tell me that the women screaming in agony in the next room is going to have a baby first & I should push. I don't care if she "beats" me.
I also don't need you to tell me I'm pushing wrong. You're not pushing a baby out. I am. I will push when I'm ready.
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lucyloo
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
To the DH: Don't take anything your wife says the days leading up to the birth or while giving birth to heart. The night before I was scheduled to be induced I told my husband I wasn't ready to be a Mom and I toyed with the idea of "running away" for a little bit. I was just a wee bit crazed.
Also, tell her what a good job she did/is doing.. to date giving birth is my biggest acomplishment.
To the wife: Don't wait for the EPI.. if you think you might want it.. get it then. The 20 minutes it took for them to get it there and put it in felt like forever.
Be prepared for crazy cramps/contractions after birth. They really knock you off your feet!
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| Posted 7/30/10 2:45 PM |
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
Advice-
Bring her something....even a card is appreciated. I got nadda. Joe had food poisoning from cafateria food and didn't do jack becasue he was sick. I understood, but really I just gave life to a child.....you couldn't make a card on printer paper or something?
If you go home for something or whatever reason...clean up after yourself! No women wants to come home and see a messy house.
If her labor is dragging on and on and on and you need to catch a nap fine....but DO NOT b*tch about how tired you are. No sh*t you're tired, but I have news for you....we're exhausted, starving, in pain, and about to do something that is mind blowing on sooooooooooo many levels. Adding to that...DO NOT try to discuss big things. New cars, new houses, family vacations, 401K's and so on are not good discussion points while you're in labor. It's hard to focus and we honestly don't care unless one of those decisions will make the pain go away or the baby come faster.
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Lara&Aidansmommy
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
When your wife says at 2am "um i think my water just broke" dont look at her and say you probably just peed yourself and lay your head down back on your nice comfortable pillow
Or when you wife has a csection and is in the worst pain in her life dont ask if you can put the football game on the tv and then proceed to complain on how uncomfortable the hospital chairs are
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| Posted 7/30/10 4:04 PM |
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iamme
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
to all dh's and so's: just do whatever the wife says!
when i went into labor, (at 2am) i didn't wake anyone up for 3 hours. so i wake my dh up, and we get into the new car we had just gotten the week before.
as i go to get into the seat, he YELLS at me to get out, while he runs inside and gets some waterproof pad, and trash bag to put on the seat and on the floor. (this all took 20 mins bc he didn't like how the pad was sitting on the seat.) THEN he tells me to make sure my water doesn't break inside his new car.
suuuurreee honey! just let me go get a cork and stick it up my va-jay-jay so i don't ruin the leather.
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CucumberGirl
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Re: What practical real life tips would you give to friends after having given birth?
Posted by ko123
To the Dhs...
WHATEVER you see down there during labor and delivery should NEVER be spoken about again. Especially over dinner.
This actually didn't bother me but my DH was sharing this with our friends when they visited in typical war story fashion ... it was actually pretty funny to see my friends' husbands, who are both very, very squeamish, squirm and put on earmuffs.
DHs - yeah, def don't eat in front of your wife - your wife can't, it's torture. And control the stream of visitors - it can be a bit much.
To the moms - take all the help you can get - meals, laundry, a night shift here and there if you're not BFing - don't be a hero, you really do need the time to recover and will have the rest of your life to bond and be supermom.
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