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05mommy09
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Whats your opinion...
A friend from work came in this morning, a little upset...
Apparently her DH has been getting these gold member coupons from VS....They are addressed specifically to him (there is no Or current resident on them)
She has never shopped in VS- nor him for her (nothing there comes in her size, and shes never used any of there cosmetic line as well)
1- she wants to know how HE got on their mailing address
2- Why- he's a gold member...
Shes never suspected infidelity EVER before- but this has really gotten her wheels turning...
My heart goes out to her and I really hope for her sake this is just a general mailing....
What do you guys think? If it was coming to her - I would think it was a general mailing thing since shes the woman of the house- but I do find it odd its coming to him- and thats he's a gold member (something like that)
I do order from VS- and get catalogs, but never anything special for being a gold member or anything like that!
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Re: Whats your opinion...
I would keep my eyes and ears open, and depending on his behavior, start snooping.
The mass mailings DO get screwed up though- my toddler cousin got an offer for Playboy. 
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:17 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Whats your opinion...
ummmm...yeah, definitely worth checking out
something is wrong in denmark
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:17 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Whats your opinion...
In order to be a gold member you have to spend at least $500 a year or something on the VS credit card.
There's no other way, as far as I know for anyone to get the gold member stuff.
If hes not buying VS for her, he's buying it for someone else 
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:18 PM |
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jilmadison
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Re: Whats your opinion...
I would do some research, like she should have a guy she can trust (perhaps her brother or close friend) call Victoria secrets and pretend to be her hubbie, and say something like the last order was never received, can you verify mailing address, or something like that.
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:20 PM |
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Nik09
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Hmmm... well my Dh got a VS credit card when we were dating so he gets a lot of the catalogs and stuff addressed to him. Then again so do I and I don't have a VS card but obviously have bought a number of things from there.
Could he have purchased a gift certificate at sometime or something like that? Maybe she should call VS and ask how someone gets on their mailing list? They could just buy lists. Tell her not to jump to conclusions until she gets more info.
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:20 PM |
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Call VS and ask how you get this "priority" status...they may be able to tell you.
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:21 PM |
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Posted by marymoon
In order to be a gold member you have to spend at least $500 a year or something on the VS credit card.
There's no other way, as far as I know for anyone to get the gold member stuff.
If hes not buying VS for her, he's buying it for someone else
Wow
Ditto to what maymoon said. I get gold member mailings because I use my VS card a lot. My mother has a VS card but barely uses it and never gets anything in the mail.
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JenniferEver
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Simple. have her go online and pull a credit check on him.
The VS card is WFNNB bank or something like that.
But you don't get those unless you are a gold member. I get some stuff, but FH gets all the GOOD coupons cause most of my purchases go on HIS VS card.
If it's just a mailing, it could be anything, but if it says GOLD member, then he has a VS Angels card in his name and has used it a LOT. There is no other way.
Message edited 5/5/2006 1:23:19 PM.
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05mommy09
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Posted by marymoon
In order to be a gold member you have to spend at least $500 a year or something on the VS credit card.
There's no other way, as far as I know for anyone to get the gold member stuff.
If hes not buying VS for her, he's buying it for someone else
See- she thought something like this (like it had to do with a cc) but wasnt sure....
OMG- I feel so horrible...
my boss suggested spying- but just from knowing what my mom went through with my dad- I told her I dont think its a good idea...
Can she call the comp. and find out how he got on the mailing list??? And maybe having them tell her- its from spending 500+ on whatever...
The stuff... DEF isnt for her!
But what I dont understand- was wouldnt she realize checks paying a cc bill every month?
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:22 PM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Whats your opinion...
OH my...that does sound fishy!! Many  &  for your friend.
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JenniferEver
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Re: Whats your opinion...
I'm sure if she called VS they would explain it.
People can be sneaky. If he's buying all this VS stuff, then he's gotten away with hiding way more than a check. He could always take cash out of the ATM and pay it at the store, or pay it online, maybe she doens't check the statements too carefully, or if he has a job where he gets tips, or if he transfers the balance to another CC. You never know.
My dad managed to hide CC's from my mom
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05mommy09
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Ok my next question-
Do I tell her about this (about the only way you are a gold member is if you own a cc)
Or do I stay out of it???
Is there a possibility its a mistake 
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baghag
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Posted by Princessmaris
But what I dont understand- was wouldnt she realize checks paying a cc bill every month?
He probably uses money orders, or has a separate checking account she doesn't know about.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Posted by Princessmaris
Ok my next question-
Do I tell her about this (about the only way you are a gold member is if you own a cc)
Or do I stay out of it???
Is there a possibility its a mistake
stay out of it
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Posted by baghag
Posted by Princessmaris
But what I dont understand- was wouldnt she realize checks paying a cc bill every month?
He probably uses money orders, or has a separate checking account she doesn't know about.
You can even pay cash at the store to pay the bill.
Maybe your friend should do what marymoon suggested - call VS and see how exactly one gets gold status. to your friend.
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:26 PM |
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LadyMaravilla
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Re: Whats your opinion...
stay out of it
I agree. What if it's nothing and then she tells her DH you were giving her ideas.
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JenniferEver
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Posted by Princessmaris
Ok my next question-
Do I tell her about this (about the only way you are a gold member is if you own a cc)
Or do I stay out of it???
Is there a possibility its a mistake
Maybe just suggest to her that she call VS and find out how one becomes a gold member. So if she really wants to know, she can find out
or you can mention your friend has the VS card, and you think you heard her mention it, etc.
I'd suggest a credit check, if she wanst to know for sure. It's $15 for peace fo mind.
or she could ask him outright.
ETA: It could always be a mistake. But if I were her, I would want to check it out.
Message edited 5/5/2006 1:29:09 PM.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Whats your opinion...
i would ask him first and not resort to snooping
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:32 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i would ask him first and not resort to snooping
That makes sense. But if he is cheating, he'll probably lie, so she should be armed with ways to find out the truth in case there is something fishy going on and he lies about it.
I can't imagine a good explanation for it, unless it really is a complete mailing list mix up.
ETA: I trust my FH, but if I found out there was a posisbility he was buying VS and it wasn't for me, even if he told me it was a mistake, I think I might check it out anyway... Esp if there were other factors in the relationship that would make me think twice.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Whats your opinion...
i agree, BUT trust is key
if you are snooping around, you don't trust him and that's not good, IMO
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:37 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Whats your opinion...
I told my boss- she gonna tell her about the card... so she could further look into it....
SHes a friend and has 3 small children- If DH was doing this to me- Id wanna know....
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:39 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Whats your opinion...
well she was never a snooper until this....
If the only way to become a gold member is by this... then obviously something isnt right
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:40 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Whats your opinion...
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i agree, BUT trust is key
if you are snooping around, you don't trust him and that's not good, IMO
If the trust wre 100%, then she'd be thinking "oh the card is a mistake" and just asking him when he got home, not coming in worried and asking co-workers.
FH started getting gold coupons before i had ordered that much. My mind didn't go to "oh he bought VS for someone else", it went to "ooh presents coming my way."
This situation is a little bit of a red flag becuase she can't even wear VS and it's a gold member... but if there wasn't something else wrong, she'd probably jst be like "where the hell did you get this?" on the other hand...since it is something you can only get from buying VS and she knows it wasn't for her, if it wasn't a crazy mistake, from it she basically KNOWS he's cheating on her, and when confronted, would probably lie...so there are two sides.
Also, I'm not a very trusting person in general. So I'd want to know for SURE
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| Posted 5/5/06 1:41 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Whats your opinion...
here's the thing, if he was cheating on her, would he really be stupid enough to have materials sent to the house?
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