Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

As far as your reltaionship.....

I would have to say baby's first year.
We have had a major communication breakdown since our DS has been born. Definitely harder than the first year of marriage....

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Well seeing as how I found out 5 days after our wedding that I was PG...I got a double whammy with them BOTH!

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The first year of marriage was a cake walk. Baby's first year has been easy too as far us our relationship goes. DS has not been easy, but we've leaned on one another and rarely take it out on the other person.

out of the 2 choices, baby's first year was harder just because we're so sleep deprived... still at 8 months...

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Posted by chelle

Well seeing as how I found out 5 days after our wedding that I was PG...I got a double whammy with them BOTH!

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First year of baby, I would say. It's a whole new dynamic being co-responsible for another human being. An amazing one, but definitely one that shakes up the status quo.

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definitely first year of baby. So much more to do on less sleep.

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We had zero problems our 1st year of marriage, and really didn't have any problems in DD's 1st year. But if I have to choose one, I'd say DD's 1st year just bc it was difficult in those first few months. But not really marriage related - so maybe I just shouldn't answer this question!

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DEFINITELY first year with baby, though we didn't really have much of a test of the first year of marriage because I got pregnant the month after we got married.

After Alex turned a year old, things starting falling back in place, and we started to reconnect again.

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Babys first year was definitely harder----we lived together before we were married, so the transition to "married life" was pretty smooth.

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Honestly, and I'm sure I'm going to be really annoying here...neither.

The adjustment to having a baby was by FAAAAAR much more difficult for *me* as an individual but for us, as a couple, we didn't have too much difficulty adjusting to either.

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Both were hard but baby has been really hard.

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Baby without a doubt.

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baby's first year definitely

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Without a doubt...Baby's first year. there was nothing like it....It was HARD.

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baby, definitely

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Without a doubt, the first year after the baby. (Not that the first year after marriage was easy but it was definitely easier)

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Posted by aliwnec10

The first year of marriage was a cake walk. Baby's first year has been easy too as far us our relationship goes. DS has not been easy, but we've leaned on one another and rarely take it out on the other person.

out of the 2 choices, baby's first year was harder just because we're so sleep deprived... still at 8 months...

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For us it was the first 6 months of having Ella and then everything was fine after.

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Baby's 1st three months...we almost split....but after that it got better

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Baby's first year. 1000 times harder. But I also had complications from my delivery, so I wasn't as mobile as a mom should be. I had to depend on DH for much more than I should've.

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not even a comparison for us...
1st yr of marriage: Hawaii, TONS of $$$ from wedding, no responsibilities, out to dinner ALL the time, Travel to wonderful destinations,

1st yr of child: up all nite 1st 2 weeks, teething, cant go anywhere thats over 2 hrs away, we still went to restaurants but not like super romantic ones, Money was spent on diapers/formula...

BUT....

I equally LOVED both! But in terms of our relationship having dd definitely strained our relationship in terms of passing out responsibilities that we probably never had.

Though come to think of it...I was preggo with dd 6 months after marriage and 1 month into pregnancy had severe MS...so essentially that could have screwed up some of my 1st yr of marriage.

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Baby's first year

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i would have to say baby... he is only 5 moths old but i was pregnant for almost our entire first year of marriage and that was a cake walk compared to the sleepless nights were are having

i am definitely more snippy now with DH because of the baby

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Baby