Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

For me it would be the first year of marriage. Two months after our wedding, I was bit by a feral cat, got very sick, was in the hospital for ten days, constantly seeing drs, out of work for six months, developed panic attacks....Ry's first year is a piece of cake compared to that.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

1st year of marriage: had money, went out to eat all the time, vacations, thin, sleeping....

1st year of baby: no $$, no going out to eat, no vacations, fat, no sleep....

tough choice: I think baby wins!!

But I wouldn't trade her for the world

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

First year of baby.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

got preg. right after the wedding, but I will say that first year with baby is way harder then the first year of marriage...DD is 13.5 months and we are still working our way through it!

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Baby's first year, definitely! Much more stress.

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baby

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

I think for us it was the first year of marriage. I think we both were in a bit of shock and realized that this was the real thing. We also had to learn to work together more, compromise more, and deal with each others feelings on an everyday basis. Also that you can't run out the door after every little fight.

The first four months were tough after the baby but I think that's just cause we were sleep deprived

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

I think Baby's First year. DS had some moments, but, all in all we were very lucky. He was and still is such a good boy.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

baby! things are much better now that he is 5 months old. first year of marriage was easy!

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

DEF Baby's 1st year!! We're still recovering from the lack of communication damage done to our marriage having babies so close in age and def still from our first.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Baby, no question there.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Definitely baby's first year, but we were also dealing with the purchase of our first house, moving, and dealing with a major illness.

I feel like things are finally settling down now, when DS is 15 months old and the holidays are over.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Our first year of marriage was a walk in the park compared to DD'a first year. Baby's first year was the hardest year on our marriage. There was a lot of adjusting to do when she came. We had to get to know each other as parents and realize that it wasn't all about just the two of us anymore.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Definitely the first year of parenting.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Well, we are only into month 4 of our DD's first year but since our 1st year of marriage wasn't hard at all, I would say that our Baby's 1st Year is harder. But not that hard!

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

baby's first year...we now work opposite schedules most of the time so that one of us is with dd so we have less time together - including weekends, DD was not an easy infant, 1st time mommy anxiety and sleep deprivation - took time to adjust

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Being married was a piece of cake. We never fought. After having DS, we argued way more than we ever had (lack of sleep and hormones will do that to you!). But after some time it went back to normal...thank god!!

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Neither.

The first year we lived together was the hardest year we had together. We only knew each other 3 months when we moved it, so it was so much at once.

We lived together for 3 years before we got married, and were together 4 before Christopher.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

I am going off the deep end and saying BABY #2 IS the hardest! Marriage was great - we did what we wanted when we wanted. DD (#1) we enjoyed and she was soooo easy. DS (#2) has been a lot rougher and has taken a toll on both of us

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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Honestly for us it's all been fine. We started dating in H.S. so we had been together for 8 years before we got married so getting married for us was very easy and natural. We had Emerson after being married for 10 years and she is such an easy baby and we waited so long to have her that the transition to being parents has been easy. I feel we're even closer now if that's even possible after 17 years of being together.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

definitely baby's first year

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Baby, definitely. First year of marriage was a breeze in comparison!

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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Definitely Baby's first year. We went from two incomes to one since I became a SAHM. This was a big adjustment since we were used to our spending habits.

The sleep deprivation was also tough but I wouldn't trade it for anything. Looking back I guess it wasn't too bad since we went for baby#2.

Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?

Hands down the 1 year of having a baby. What an adjustment
DH and I NEVER ever used to fight prior. Now we are parent pros and have no issues