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Goldi0218
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Pretty equal. The first year of my marriage, I was mourning my father who passed 6 months before. The first year of Abby's life, I was (and still am)mourning my mother who passed this past May when I was 25 weeks PG. Through it all, I had the tremendous support of my DH which made things much easier to bear.
Every time I look at Abby's face, I think about how much my parents would have adored her. I am seriously and painfully envious of people who get to share life's blessings with their parents.
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HillW9608
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Even though Im still in my first year of marriage I will def have to go with the babys first year. Without a doubt.
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laurenM
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Baby defintely, we were married for five years already and very used to it being just the two of us.
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
so far baby's first year. I wanted to absolutely punch my husband in the face daily for the first 12 weeks...now I only get that feeling every other day! Hopefully, it will get better!
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alexlynn7
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
first year of marriage was also our first year of medical residency, which was hell on earth... but somehow i still think that baby's first year was harder because of all my postpartum hormones, making myself crazy over breastfeeding, and both of us being terribly sleep-deprived...
when DS was about 3 months old we had a huge blowout, which ended with us saying that neither of us wanted to continue on this way... so we made some changes in our lifestyle and things have been great ever since 
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| Posted 2/20/09 1:03 PM |
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DanaRenee
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
1st yr of marraige was easy...
1st yr of baby was less easy! usually im just complaining that Dh isn't home enough!
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cjik
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Baby definitely.
I can't say our life circumstances beyond the baby were so different either year, but the baby was a much bigger adjustment. First year or marriage was pretty easy.
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wannabemom
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
no comparison.... the 1st year of marriage was effortless... (we lived together prior to marrying, so there was very little change)
Eryk, however, is a super-duper handful!
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~Colleen~
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Posted by aliwnec10
The first year of marriage was a cake walk. Baby's first year has been easy too as far us our relationship goes. DS has not been easy, but we've leaned on one another and rarely take it out on the other person.
out of the 2 choices, baby's first year was harder just because we're so sleep deprived... still at 8 months...
I have to agree with everything. We have our moments where we're bickering...but it's mostly due to lack of sleep. Marriage, thus far (4.5 years of it) has been a breeze. We will be together 12 years come March though
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SuzyQ
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Member since 7/06 8069 total posts
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Definitely DD's first year, actually I'd say first 8 months were really really hard. She was never a good sleeper and we had moved far away from everyone we knew & loved, so we had no help. DH traveled for work ALOT. It was so stressful. 
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Well, I got pregnant after 2 months of marriage, so technically the first year of marriage and baby's first year were the same...
However, we lived together for a while before getting married, and comparing THAT first year to the first year with DD, I would say that while both had their challenges, it was a bigger adjustment for the first year with DD.
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dapnkap
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
I got a laid a lot more in my first year of marriage...
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PrincessP
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Posted by Goldi0218
Pretty equal. The first year of my marriage, I was mourning my father who passed 6 months before. The first year of Abby's life, I was (and still am)mourning my mother who passed this past May when I was 25 weeks PG. Through it all, I had the tremendous support of my DH which made things much easier to bear.
Every time I look at Abby's face, I think about how much my parents would have adored her. I am seriously and painfully envious of people who get to share life's blessings with their parents.
I totally agree with you.
I seriously CAN NOT believe my father never got to see my daughter. If he just lived another 3 months he would have knew that I was preggo. I am so jealous of those that had the grandparent roles that my father never got. I know you have both gone but BELIEVE me when i tell you my dd was a TRUE miracle to relieve alot of peoples pain when she was born, BUT....it still hit everyone terribly that my father missed out on her and she came on a day when people were mourning from the yr before. I also lost my dad in the first yr of marriage (3 months in) ...not sure why I thought that was a happier time...I guess it really wasnt . I just put it out of my mind.
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Posted by FrankiesGirl107
Well, I got pregnant after 2 months of marriage, so technically the first year of marriage and baby's first year were the same...
However, we lived together for a while before getting married, and comparing THAT first year to the first year with DD, I would say that while both had their challenges, it was a bigger adjustment for the first year with DD.
Same situation here. Preggo just 3 months into the marriage, but we also lived together for 2 years before that. Hands down.....1st year with DS
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MST9106
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Our 1st year of marriage was our 10th year of being together and 5th year of living with each other  so it was DEFINITELY a breeze and pure bliss...1st year of having a baby was a HUGE adjustment bc I was sleep deprived.
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LovingLife
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Baby's
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Tonia
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Tonia
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Our first year married was BLISS..first year with DS has definitely been difficult!
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Tine73
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Baby - only because it took awhile to get acclimated with going to back to work and figuring out a schedule. My DH is awesome and is always there for me and helps out soooo much.
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itsbabytime
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
I didn't find the first year of marriage to be hard - so I would definitely say DS's first year - but at the same time it was also wonderful so its hard to say - but, DS was NOT an easy newborn or baby so that definitely made things difficult!
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Gatsbygirl
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
I'm in the minority and will say marriage.
We never lived together beforehand so getting used to that was a challenge. DH also took a new job with very tough hours so that was a strain. We had never been home owners before and were so inexperienced. Nothing really prepared me for the day to day of marriage.
 was great his first year (still is) and brought us even closer.
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bella
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Definitely baby, not even remotely close. It was a HUGE challenge one neither of us were really prepared for. We have such an easy going baby but it was tough on DH and I getting used to our lives being so different than they were before.
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nbc188
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Another vote for neither...we lived together for a few years before being married, so life wasn't any different once we were married. And with the baby-- YES, we were exhausted from a colicy baby, but it wasn't "hard"...my DH is a super even-tempered guy who hates when people get stressed, so he helped calm me down plenty of times 
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Posted by cantbelieveit
Baby, no question there.
ditto
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GenLCSW
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Member since 7/05 21138 total posts
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Genna
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
I would say Jacob's first year was the hardest. Between the sleep deprivation and issues with my in laws (involving raising Jacob) I almost had the divorce papers ready many times At least now we can laugh about it!
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Re: Which was harder, the first year of MARRIAGE or your BABY'S FIRST YEAR?
Without a doubt, first year with my firstborn...
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