Will you raise your kids the same way your parents raised you?

Or will you be more liberal?

For example, my parents would sooner have had me killed then allow me to live with DH before we were married. However, I will not do that to my kids. I wont try to hold them back from the things they want to experience. I want to raise my kids to be able to make decisions on their own and learn from the consequences of those decisions.

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To an extent, I did. I don't think you can help it. You have your parents' values instilled in you. However, I was far more liberal than my parents were with me. Although, if you ask my girls, they may not think so.

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I definitley will. My parents were not strict at all but of course there were still rules. I think they are the best parents in the world and I'll be lucky if I can do even close to the job they did raising us.

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Well, I think I'll be more involved in their lives, like schoolwork, friends, etc. My mom had no idea. (not that I was running around or anything. )

I'd hope to raise them to be independent, caring people. I'll be involved as much as I can without becoming one of those "helicopter parents" I've been hearing about lately. (they're "hovering over" their kids, getting job/college applications for them, negotiating job salaries, etc)

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I will raise my kids similiar to the way I was raised but I want to be a tad more liberal. My father was a homicide detective and was very, very strict with me. I think it had to do with his career and what he had to see on a daily basis. I do realize now though that it was in my best interest and he was doing what was best for me, so I want to be similiar.

My parents also raised me to have a wonderful work ethic., I have been working since 14, financially, my parents could have spoiled me a lot more but my parents wanted me to know the meaning of work, and I thank them for that today.

So, I guess I want to be more like my parents than i thought....


Just don't tell them that....lol

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No way. Lets just say I do not agree with alot that went on in my house, and DH feels the same about his...

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every now and then, i find myself doing some of the things my parents would have done: level of protection, level of involvement.

i am doing a lot of things differently: #1 i don't lie to him for no apparent reason (santa being real is the only one i've told).

i feel, that unless something serious occured during your upbringing, most of us will follow a similar path because that is who and what we are (to an extent).

i just hope that i can do things better and then, when his turn comes, my son does even better with his kids.

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I think I will raise them very similar to the way I was raised.

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Two words...































Hell NO!

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Posted by cj7305

I definitley will. My parents were not strict at all but of course there were still rules. I think they are the best parents in the world and I'll be lucky if I can do even close to the job they did raising us.

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My parents raised us wonderfully.

Even though they are separated, they had and still have the same values and morals when it comes to raising children.

I always looked at them as being so strict. Although my dad agreed with my mom, my mom was the one to teach and enforce rules. Growing up I thought she was overly strict. I told myself I wouldnt be like that with my child.

Then I had a child! And even though she is only 8 months old, I can see myself raising her exactly the way my mom raised me. I want the best for her and I am thinking that if she is lucky enough to be raised and taught what I was by my mother, than I will have done my job!

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I plan to do a lot of things differently. My mom DID have some rules that I think were reasonable:

1) No dying your hair until you turn 18.

2) No makeup until High School

3) I find a thong in your drawer before your 18th birthday, I cut it in half!

My mom also had some ridiculous rules that I plan to cut out. When I was 6, my friend painted my nails a pretty light blue color at lunch. My mom made me take it off because it was "too grown up". To this day, I think that was ridiculous.

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uhhh no seeing as how they were married barely 10 years.

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I think for the most part I agree with the values they raised us with. I can't think of any absurd rules they had - they were strict but very trusting at the same time.

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some things yes, some things no

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I'm going to try damn hard to raise Ava the way my parents raised me because they did a hell of a job, however, there are definitely things I hope I don't do. My mother was and is famous for acting like my sister and I need to take care of her emotionally, and I hope to never do that to Ava. I mean, don't get me wrong, my mother is a phenomenal mother, but there were always times when she was stressed about things that, imo, we shouldn't have had to worry about (work stresses, money stresses, etc.)

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I feel that my parents did an incredible job raising me so I think that I will do things quite similar.

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I want to raise my kid(s) to be open and be able to discuss anything with me. I was so afraid to talk about certain things with my parents.

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Exactly the same way...My brother and I were literally scared to have sex or get drunk after the things they told us. They taught us to be very strong, independent people that never gave in to peer pressure, and I would teach my kids the same morals and values. We both went away to boarding school too, so they really needed to instill their values at an early age.

We'll be much more strict than DH's parents, and he agrees about that...He stayed out all night in high school, was partying way too much...

I think our goal is to raise independent, self-reliant children who can think for themselves.

Message edited 5/12/2007 9:52:53 PM.

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Posted by Maathy317

To an extent, I did. I don't think you can help it. You have your parents' values instilled in you. However, I was far more liberal than my parents were with me. Although, if you ask my girls, they may not think so.

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Yes I will, but with a few changes (i.e. help pay for college). I don't want to be more liberal, I think they did a good job and I always had respect for them.

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my parents were not strict. i think we will try to raise our kids the same as we were raides. some differences of course, but overall, i think we both turned out okay.

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I was sheltered in a lot of ways and I don't want my kids to be. As much as I would worry about my kids, I want them to make more decisions for themselves than I did.

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Absolutely, my parents did a fantastic job-- they have three children (adults now obviously) who are good people, honest and caring individuals. We are all confident, independent, smart and hard working. I think my parents did a great job- I could only hope that my children turn out as good (and normal lol) as myself and my siblings did!

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Posted by dottiemchugh

Posted by Maathy317

To an extent, I did. I don't think you can help it. You have your parents' values instilled in you. However, I was far more liberal than my parents were with me. Although, if you ask my girls, they may not think so.

My mom was VERY strict!!! yes you were mom!!



But looking back, it kept me out of trouble and was the best thing ever for me. My parents did a GREAT job!

To answer the posters question, I plan to raise my kids very similarly to how I was raised.