Would this bother you?

You mention to MIL that you are making birth announcements to send out....She says that she already sent birth announcements out(to her side of the family). Is this rude or sweet that she sent out annoucements without mentioning it to anyone or asking your permission? Is it double weird that some people will be getting two birth announcements?

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I would have said, "Oh, really, you just gave birth recently, too? I didn't realize"....

Your baby, you send out the announcements (or delegate, or elect to not send them out at all). I don't think anyone else should take it upon themselves to send out announcements without your approval.

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Not much bothers me, but this would pisss me off. She stole your thunder and crossed the line.

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Wow- I am very laid back but that would SERIOUSLY pizz me off.
I would have a serious serious problem with that.
I looked forward to making and desigining my own announcements.
What right did she have to announce YOUR baby?

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Rude!

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Rude and weird!

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Woah, yeah, that would bother me!

ETA: I'd still send my own.

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Posted by Linda1003

Posted by JennZ

Not much bothers me, but this would pisss me off. She stole your thunder and crossed the line.

this this this!!

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Um, rude! I would NOT like that at all.

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I would be so upset and bothered by that. That being said, i would still send out your own. She crossed a line and people will realize that she sent the first ones and that she is a wierdo. It is one thing to be a proud grandmother and a total other thing to do what she did. At a minimum, she should have okayed it with you.

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I would be ****** off, ask her for their addresses and send them the ones you made. Certain things I am laid back with, but I couldn't wait to do mine since we hired a photographer to do the birth announcements.

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It's weird and it would bother me.

If I received two announcements, it would just reinforce my idea that it's weird for the grandmother to send out her own announcement.

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That is very odd. This is one of those times I would def step up and say something. You're the mom. You send the birth announcements for YOUR child.

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I would be totally pizzed off. I want the joy of sending out the announcement of my child. I am the mother!

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would it bother me? yes, 100% absolutely, i'd be fuming.
but would it surprise me? sadly, no.

yes i'd still send out my own. she will look like the weirdo.

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As a person who didn't send out birth announcements, I still think this would bother me. It's one thing if she offered to be nice then asked for your input in designing them and who to send them to. Sounds like she crossed a major line to me! I'd have DH say something to her AND I'd still send out yours if you're planning to do this.

ETA- I'm not very up on birth announcements, but can you make a point to make sure they state that they're from you and DH? Like 'Mom and Dad are happy to introduce . . ." or something like that?

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my feelings would depend on how she usually is. my mom isn't pushy. she nags but she's not smothering. if she sent them out, I'd be dissapointed but not mad. if My mil sent them out, I'd be irate. because she is kind of pushy. I knew how she was prior, so I sent those babies out quickly lol. regardless, send yours. send a photo one. I bet she sent out a generic paper one right?? if so , think of it as " save the date " .,..it's nothing compared to the invitation, kwim?

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eta; if she sent out a photo one, it'd be the apocalypse.

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Yes this would bother me.

With #1, my m-i-l wanted to send an announcement to practically everyone - half the people I didnt know nor heard of. She said it was work friends and stuff. I gave her permission to make her own "proud grandma" cards to send to everyone that Idid not include in my batch. I was ok with that since she asked for permission. I would have just sent our announcements but did not have enough for all these people!

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oh yeah, that would bother me! It's weird, especially because she didn't ask you. What did the announcement look like and say?

A few years ago my MIL sent out a Christmas card with a pic we took at thanksgiving with all of us in it and it said it was from all of us....um we don't live with you and are adults that send out our own cards, I was annoyed! DH mentioned last year after DS was born that his mom was thinking of sending out christmas cards with a pic of DS....to this day I don't know if he was joking because he knew it would pizz me off, but I made it very clear that if he wasn't he better tell her she better not!!

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Uh, YES! And I don't really get bent out of shape over stuff, but I would be REALLY bothered. And even if she were planning on doing that (which, IMO, is super-weird) the least she could have done is asked first!