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queensgirl
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Erica
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would this bother you... (friends related)
So i have a group of friends that i've known since elementary school. Over time, we've grown apart a bit, but ive still considered them "friends". I'm the only one that still lives on LI, so whenever they came home for the holidays we would get together. It hasn't worked out well with getting together with everyones schedule. So anyway, im pregnant and my shower is in Jan. Since I told them that i was pregnant, i haven't gotten one call to just see how i was doing or anything, but whatever, people are busy i get it. So i send them an email telling them the date of my shower and to expect invites shortly. I see my mom last weekend and she tells me that one of my friends emailed my dad and said she and one other friend won't be able to make it to the party. My mom didn't put any email addresses on the invite. I have no idea how she got my dad's email address. But i'm just really upset that she wouldn't even call my mom to RSVP, that she would email my dad and that my other friend would just hop on the email so she didn't have to call either. At what point do you just give up and not consider them friends anymore?
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Posted 12/14/09 1:05 PM  |
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twiceasnice
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Re: would this bother you... (friends related)
At this point.
If they were interested (or not) they would have emailed you and they should have RSVP'd to the correct person.
Don't get upset but don't try to contiue your friendship if you get nothing in return. Your energy can then stay focused on your new baby - Their loss!
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| Posted 12/14/09 1:13 PM |
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queensgirl
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Erica
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Re: would this bother you... (friends related)
Thanks for the reply. You're right. guess its just harder to actually admit that its just not worth it anymore.
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| Posted 12/14/09 1:17 PM |
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JP826
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Re: would this bother you... (friends related)
I've been there girl.
This is how I would handle a situation like this:
Put yourself in their shoes. If it was one of your friends baby showers & you were unable to make it, what would you do?
I'm sure that you would at least attempt a phone call. At the very least. How your friend responded was not cool.
Message edited 12/14/2009 1:45:31 PM.
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| Posted 12/14/09 1:44 PM |
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MeeshMosh
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Re: would this bother you... (friends related)
Posted by SIBride06
I've been there girl.
This is how I would handle a situation like this:
Put yourself in their shoes. If it was one of your friends baby showers & you were unable to make it, what would you do?
I'm sure that you would at least attempt a phone call. At the very least. How your friend responded was not cool.
i agree -- def not cool the way they responded
is it possible that they dont consider you a good friend to them anymore? not that thats an excuse, i'm just trying to see the logic in what they did
Message edited 12/14/2009 1:48:07 PM.
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| Posted 12/14/09 1:47 PM |
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queensgirl
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Erica
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Re: would this bother you... (friends related)
Posted by MeeshMosh
Posted by SIBride06
I've been there girl.
This is how I would handle a situation like this:
Put yourself in their shoes. If it was one of your friends baby showers & you were unable to make it, what would you do?
I'm sure that you would at least attempt a phone call. At the very least. How your friend responded was not cool.
i agree -- def not cool the way they responded
is it possible that they dont consider you a good friend to them anymore? not that thats an excuse, i'm just trying to see the logic in what they did
I would have called and RSVP'ed. I'm not really annoyed that they can't make it, everyone has their own life, but just the shady-ness is whats really getting to me. My guess is that they did it this way because they've known my family for YEARS and they're embarassed to have to call and say none of them can make it. but who knows.
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| Posted 12/14/09 1:54 PM |
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LightUpOurLife
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Re: would this bother you... (friends related)
Maybe they honestly just can't be there.  Was it weird for them to email your dad, absolutely. Will it be weird if they send you a gift?
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| Posted 12/14/09 1:59 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: would this bother you... (friends related)
Eh I don't think its that big of a deal. I wouldn't be upset. People have weird ways of dealing with things but I wouldn't tak eit personally. If you think about it it probably took more work to come up with your Dad's e-mail address then just call the number on the invite right?
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| Posted 12/14/09 1:59 PM |
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drpepper318
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Re: would this bother you... (friends related)
Posted by DRMom
Eh I don't think its that big of a deal. I wouldn't be upset. People have weird ways of dealing with things but I wouldn't tak eit personally. If you think about it it probably took more work to come up with your Dad's e-mail address then just call the number on the invite right?
I agree, this is a very good way to look at it.
While I don't think you should really invest much time or effort into your friendship with them anymore, as you can see they're not very good friends in the end, I also don't think you should take it too personally. People do strange things sometimes for their own reasons. Maybe if you speak to them, mention how your dad thought it was weird to get an email from them... they might explain, who knows.
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| Posted 12/14/09 8:42 PM |
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