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JenMarie
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Posted by faithann
Posted by lbride
why even discuss it now at such an early age?
I agree.
I don't think it's a battle worth fighting when your DD is so young. If it's addressed when your DD is 6 weeks old, you're turning it into a power struggle. They are just excited grandparents- it's not like they could take your DC away on vacation on a moments notice without your consent anyway. It will be years and years before your DD will even be old enough- I'd wait until they ask if they can plan a trip and just say something like, "We want to experience Disney for the first time as a family", and that's it, end of discussion.
See, that's the thing - they are already planning it. I don't know if they are thinking they will go next year or the year after, but they're already discussing whether they'll fly or drive, etc. They had said right after DD was born that they wanted to take the grandchildren to Disney (I have a niece who was born 10 days after DD). I thought it was nice of them to want to do a family trip down there. But the other day they were "talking" to DD and said my niece wasn't allowed to go with them because her first time going to Disney has to be with my BIL and SIL so they'll have DD all to themselves. I was in shock and didn't say anything. That was when I realized they wanted to go alone with her. So that's why I feel like it needs to be addressed. They're the type to go and get plane tickets without talking to us.
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Do you talk to BIL/SIL? Ask them how THEY said no?
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mrsboss
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Posted by Babyaholic
I wouldn't mind. As much as I want to be there for everything there are some things, memories and moments that are more important to me. The Disney experience is not high on that list for me.
I agree, I wouldn't mind either.
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Goobster
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Posted by JenMarie
Posted by faithann
Posted by lbride
why even discuss it now at such an early age?
I agree.
I don't think it's a battle worth fighting when your DD is so young. If it's addressed when your DD is 6 weeks old, you're turning it into a power struggle. They are just excited grandparents- it's not like they could take your DC away on vacation on a moments notice without your consent anyway. It will be years and years before your DD will even be old enough- I'd wait until they ask if they can plan a trip and just say something like, "We want to experience Disney for the first time as a family", and that's it, end of discussion.
See, that's the thing - they are already planning it. I don't know if they are thinking they will go next year or the year after, but they're already discussing whether they'll fly or drive, etc. They had said right after DD was born that they wanted to take the grandchildren to Disney (I have a niece who was born 10 days after DD). I thought it was nice of them to want to do a family trip down there. But the other day they were "talking" to DD and said my niece wasn't allowed to go with them because her first time going to Disney has to be with my BIL and SIL so they'll have DD all to themselves. I was in shock and didn't say anything. That was when I realized they wanted to go alone with her. So that's why I feel like it needs to be addressed. They're the type to go and get plane tickets without talking to us.
I would nip this in the bud now, so that they don't get their hopes up for the next 2 years or do something crazy like buying a ticket, etc. Also..do you really want to hear this for the next 2 years? I doubt that.
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| Posted 8/17/11 3:08 PM |
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Reese1106
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Nope!
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LemonHead
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Posted by JenMarie
They're the type to go and get plane tickets without talking to us.
Ohhh...then nip it in the bud ASAP!
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Nope not at all. If it wasnt the first time....but since it is 1st time I would want to be there
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hdrd0411
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
no no and NO!
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| Posted 8/17/11 3:21 PM |
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Alicia
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
nope
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NervousNell
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Posted by mommyIam
Posted by lynnd126
I wouldn't care about the "Disney experience" part- I just would be too nervous for them to take DS alone on a big trip like that. If he was older though- maybe like 8- I would say sure.
this is what I was thinking...
if Disney was in LI, I wouldn't have an issue lol
Ditto.
I have no real feelings towards the whole- "Disney experience" let me see her face part.
It's the travel that would bother me.
Maybe it's because the thought of Disney make's my skin crawl ...that might be coloring my view! 
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justpeachy
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
no way
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Diana1215
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Not in a million years. I wouldn't want my own parents to do it either just to clarify.
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MSeid
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Absolutely not.
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Faithx2
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
No. It is a magical moment when you walk through those gates. To me one you need to experience with them!
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Faithx2
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Wouldn't let me edit grrr plus we only travel with ours kids.
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babymakes3
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
No.
DD was just 2 when we went for the 1st time. It was my first time too, but seeing her face light up as we walked down Main St. was a tearjerker for me. And I'm not a huge Disney person either.
I'd be okay with ILs taking my kids when they are older, like 8+years, but not for the first time and not when my DC are younger.
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jerseypanda
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Message edited 9/1/2011 11:56:42 AM.
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beachgirl
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
No way as I was so emotional watching DD's reaction to seeing the Castle for the first time that I think its a must do on every parents list of things to do -first time should be with you I think.
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mrandmrs12
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
NO!
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MrsYank
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
No way. I wouldn't let my mom take dd to the beach for the first time lol.
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Mimms
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
No. I wouldn't beat around the bush either. Just tell them honestly that dc's first trip to disney will be with you.
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munchkinbugs
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Absolutely not.
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OrganicMama
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Posted by Goobster
Posted by JenMarie
Posted by faithann
Posted by lbride
why even discuss it now at such an early age?
I agree.
I don't think it's a battle worth fighting when your DD is so young. If it's addressed when your DD is 6 weeks old, you're turning it into a power struggle. They are just excited grandparents- it's not like they could take your DC away on vacation on a moments notice without your consent anyway. It will be years and years before your DD will even be old enough- I'd wait until they ask if they can plan a trip and just say something like, "We want to experience Disney for the first time as a family", and that's it, end of discussion.
See, that's the thing - they are already planning it. I don't know if they are thinking they will go next year or the year after, but they're already discussing whether they'll fly or drive, etc. They had said right after DD was born that they wanted to take the grandchildren to Disney (I have a niece who was born 10 days after DD). I thought it was nice of them to want to do a family trip down there. But the other day they were "talking" to DD and said my niece wasn't allowed to go with them because her first time going to Disney has to be with my BIL and SIL so they'll have DD all to themselves. I was in shock and didn't say anything. That was when I realized they wanted to go alone with her. So that's why I feel like it needs to be addressed. They're the type to go and get plane tickets without talking to us.
I would nip this in the bud now, so that they don't get their hopes up for the next 2 years or do something crazy like buying a ticket, etc. Also..do you really want to hear this for the next 2 years? I doubt that.
I would do the same thing. I wouldn't be able to listen to it for the next year or two, it would make my blood boil every time I heard it. I don't understand what goes through grandparents minds sometimes.
ETA: I wouldn't allow my own ILs or parents to take DS anywhere for the first time, especially not Disney. I wouldn't even want them along for the trip to be honest. That's something I want to experience as a family first, they can come on the second trip.
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
Posted by Goobster
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I would nip this in the bud now, so that they don't get their hopes up for the next 2 years or do something crazy like buying a ticket, etc. Also..do you really want to hear this for the next 2 years? I doubt that.
I agree TOTALLY!! 100000% you need to address this NOW! I would!!
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lvdolphins
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Re: Would you be ok with this?
No way!
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