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an9elic
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
Posted by nrthshgrl
If I was extremely frustrated, yes. I'm not proud of it & work hard on not saying it but but those words have definitely left my mouth.
same here. 
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pinkandblue
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
I say it in my head ALOT 
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cjb88
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
no... i teach high school... i do not even let my students say it to each other... whenever they say it i always say right back "dont tell people to shut up it isnt nice" it just sounds so terrible!
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| Posted 9/14/09 10:06 PM |
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Smileyd17
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
Although I dont feel its a nice thing to say and my mom teaches G not to say it but to replace it with Be Quiet..it def has slipped out of my mouth at times.
Im not perfect.
Today was a perfect ex of my DD being really annoying on our car ride to my inlaws and literally said mommy 50 times in a row....I screamed QUIET! Very loudly!
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| Posted 9/14/09 10:08 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
I have said it! Not to DS, but, definitley under my breath. Not happy about even doing that, but, I think we all get a bit frusturated here and there.
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| Posted 9/14/09 10:08 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
DH and I have looked at each other and mouthed 'shut-up' when Lucas has gone beyond tolerable...so truthfully I cannot say I would not. I've heard other parents say it in public and although it grabs my attention I realize it's not for me to judge...there are those days where enough is enough and sometimes we are not at our very best...and any day it could be me.
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| Posted 9/14/09 10:11 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
YUP! I have a very challenging little boy on my hands who whines constantly, likes a lot of attention, and is extremely LOUD. I think it really depends, some children are much more demanding than others. I've had many people say how hard DS is to handle and ask me how I do it. Even the nurses in the hospital when he was born, were rolling their eyes because he was screaming so loud 
I don't think it's a big deal , but one day I know he may turn around and tell me to shut up
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| Posted 9/14/09 10:20 PM |
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
i think i have said it once or twice in extreme frustration under my breath to DD#1. not something i ever thought i would do, but it happened nevertheless. "shut up" was never allowed in my house growing up.
i have a total potty mouth but am able to turn it on and off - it's only really on amongst close friends. the one or two things DD#1 has repeated have been out of DH's mouth who hardly ever curses
one night when DD#2 was born and screaming her head off, out of DD#1's bedroom we hear her yell "DD#2 BE QUIET!" DH and i were thinking at least she was semi polite about it
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| Posted 9/14/09 10:27 PM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
No I wouldnt. I couldn't and I wouldn't. Frankly I dont care what other people say in frustration and anger. If I have been able to curb my language from 8:30-3 every day for the past 13 years in my classroom, I can do it at home.
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| Posted 9/14/09 10:36 PM |
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DmarieK
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
I haven't said it yet and don't plan on it but I can't honestly say that I never will.(actually I did say STFU 1X when he was a colicky screaming newborn...I cried for hours after saying it) The frustrations that come with raising a child will sometimes make us do or say things we never thought we could.
I'm ashamed to admit this but just yesterday Rylan was an absolute nightmare because he never napped. Had the worst tantrum that basically lasted for 2 hours. He kept biting me because he was mad at one thing or another and I told him if he bit me one more time I was going to rip his teeth out. Was it wrong...yes...it was absolutely horrible but I totally lost my cool and it was the first thing that came to my mind. Of course I regret it and thank god he had no idea what I said to him.
I will never judge a parent on what they say unless they were deliberately trying to hurt the child with their words.
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jellybean78
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
Posted by an9elic
Posted by nrthshgrl
If I was extremely frustrated, yes. I'm not proud of it & work hard on not saying it but but those words have definitely left my mouth.
same here.
Same here...I once told DD to shut up in Ikea...she was whining and screaming..the words just came out of my mouth. I felt so horrible after I said it like the worst Mom in the world but sometimes your thoughts goes to quick to your mouth
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waterspout4
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
I am sure I have said it a few times. Not proud of it, but I never said I was perfect!
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bella
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
No I would not.
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
Posted by HeathKernandez
in a overwhelming frustrated moment, yes I have told my son to shut up... Not sure if I did it when he was really young, but it always made me upset that I let my frustrations get the best of me.
Same but I know my DD was young because it was this past year. I felt terrible and I apologized.
I would never casually throw shut up around with anyone. It just sounds so hateful.
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SweetTooth
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
I said it when they were newborns, when I was so sleep deprived I couldn't see straight, and they wouldn't stop crying. I felt terrible about it then, even though they were tiny babies and didn't know what I was saying.
I would try my darndest to never say it out loud now or in the future, but I honestly can't say it might not happen if I got extremely frustrated.
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| Posted 9/14/09 10:57 PM |
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ckone
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
I'm not saying it's the best choice of words but, you don't know the events of the day. It could have been a really hard and frustrating day, week whatever. I can see getting to that point.
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| Posted 9/14/09 11:03 PM |
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babymakes3
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
I have once and felt terrible about it. DD knows now that it's not nice to say. I guess she had to learn somehow.
I say "will you please be quiet?" and that gets the job done.
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| Posted 9/14/09 11:33 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
I've told both boys:
Shut.It.NOW.
Zip it.
Shhhhhhht!
Button 'em.
Tongue behind teeth - lips closed.
BE QUIET.
Silence.
I try to keep it light.. but the intent is still .. 'shut up'.
And honestly.. in moments of sheer frustration and agitation I am CERTAIN those words have flown from my lips. Proudest moments? No. But I'd be lying to say I'm perfect and on point all the time. I TRY.. but sometimes I fail.
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Kelly9904
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
Posted by nicrae
I've said it. Sometimes it is at the point where you just can't take the crying and whining anymore. I've said "Oh my god Chelsea shut up!" I didn't scream it at her, I was more whining at her.
I said this same thing today to DS..we were driving and after 5 minutes of hearing him whine for his milk sippy cup which was totally out of reach I just couldn't take it...2 minutes later I pulled off the parkway to get it for him because he just wouldn't stop!
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| Posted 9/14/09 11:40 PM |
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
I am sure I have said it in my head a thousand times but thankfully I have never said it outloud!!!! I don't blame parents that do. It's exhausting being a parent.
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MrsBumbleb
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
Posted by nrthshgrl
If I was extremely frustrated, yes. I'm not proud of it & work hard on not saying it but but those words have definitely left my mouth.
exactly. Roman has actually told me that "shut up is a potty word and I don't like that." I think it was a good opportunity to acknowledge his feelings and explain mine.
Still not proud of my actions though.
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Michelle1123
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
Yes I have. I am also a yeller so I yell it at them sometimes. Usually its when my daughter is talking back (she's at that lovely age now) and sometimes it just comes out. So far I dont think its happened in public!
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cgdg61606
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
I don't think I've ever said "shut up" (yet...), but I can see being frustrated enough to say it although I wouldn't be proud of it or think it an acceptable thing to say to a young child, but I have snapped and yelled at DS and I can totally understand how frustration leads you do say things or raise your voice in a way you wish you hadn't.
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| Posted 9/15/09 8:54 AM |
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Kate
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
Posted by Diana1215
I think you can't judge people in these types of situations! While we all like to think we would never do/say these things, we really can't say until we are in that persons shoes. Who knows what she dealt with before getting to that point.
Now, having a child of my own, I can really see the frustrations that a mom has on a day to day basis.
I agree.
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| Posted 9/15/09 8:56 AM |
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kerrycec03
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Re: Would you ever tell your young child to "shut up"?
Posted by Tine73
I wouldn't be happy or proud to do it, but I can see how you can be driven to say it.
ditto
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