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I would have smiled and said in my head don't touch my kid lol

But I would have not said anything to her


As for the shopping with a stroller and cart. Guess what people sometimes it has to happen. People,including myself do it all the time

Twins in a stroller and pull the cart.

She may have been in her way but half the time so many people are with just a cart so that's not a good reason and not bringing the kid to shop?? I don't even get that logic

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I didn't read through all these responses, but I have an idea for the OP. Instead of using your stroller while shopping, why not wear your baby in a wrap or carrier?

Would you have reacted the same as I did?

First of all not bringing a 3 month old to the grocery store??? You must live a very sheltered pampered life.

For the rest of us who live in the real world and to the OP I too use both a cart and my stroller. I dont put my daughter on top of the carriage and if you put her in the cart there are no room for groceries so I get it. That woman should not have touched your stroller. I would never put my hands on another persons stroller or cart. I would say excuse me until I was acknowledged. Someone posted that your reaction or having the cart and stroller was the problem with people today...No the woman at the grocery store is the problem. People have no regard for other peoples space or possessions. People also don't say excuse me and get nasty immediatley when you react. I would have reacted the same way and told her hands off. I find it hard to believe that most of the people on here saying they wouldn't have cared really would not have if some stranger put their hands on their stroller.

Message edited 8/20/2015 9:43:19 AM.

Would you have reacted the same as I did?

I do not think it matters why she had a cart and her stroller. The issue is that someone touched the stroller and moved her child without even saying anything. It would have been simple for this woman to say excuse me. I feel those two words are lacking a lot every where I go. I don't care if she thought she did not want to disturb the OP by asking her to move her stroller she could have at least asked. Maybe I wouldn't have had a rude tone but I would have said something too.

Message edited 8/20/2015 9:42:37 AM.

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This is why I used Peapod for all my big shopping and would bring my twins to pick up smaller items during the week when they were young. As for the issue, I make it a rule not to touch other people's carts, especially if there is a kid in it. However, that is what I would do. I usually turn around. However, I would not of said anything. Maybe the person was pissed at you because they thought you were taking up the whole aisle and ignoring their need to get by. Not everyone gets mommy issues.

Message edited 8/20/2015 9:46:53 AM.

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I wore my kids when I went grocery shopping by myself with them. I was just not coordinated enough to do the push and pull. And this scenario wasn't conducive to doing any real grocery shopping.



All that being said... I don't think I would have reacted at all if someone moved my stroller. It's better than her bumping/crashing into it and chances are, with how chaotic my trips to the grocery store are, I wouldn't hear anyone saying "excuse me". I would appreciate the help because not everyone out there is a bad person.

Message edited 8/20/2015 9:52:47 AM.

Would you have reacted the same as I did?

She doesn't know if the woman said excuse me or not or how many times. Just because she didn't hear her doesn't mean she didn't say it. She also looked at the woman and assumed she was shopping on a shelf by her so she didn't move her stroller. If the woman saw her look at her and figured she ignored the fact the stroller was in the way after she said excuse me, than she probably felt she was ignoring her attempt to get by.

OP should have moved the stroller as soon as she saw the woman coming down the aisle, that is common courtesy. There are a lot of what ifs and maybe this happened maybe it didn't happen to this story. They were both wrong.

In the future keep your stroller and cart lined up to the side of the aisle when stopping to shop. Common courtesy!

Message edited 8/20/2015 10:02:27 AM.

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Is it possible that she did say, "excuse me" and you didn't hear it?

I know I've been shopping and haven't heard people say it sometimes.

Additionally, next time try keeping the stroller closer to you instead of the cart. I keep my bag in my cart and I always keep one hand on the cart while grabbing items. This will avoid people moving your cart.

Would you have reacted the same as I did?

I think you overreacted... If I'm ever stopped in an aisle and I see someone else stops I always ask them if I'm in their way. Either my body, my stroller, my cart...whatever.
Sometimes you just have to let things go. Every day people are going to do something but you don't like or agree with, especially now that you have kids.

Would you have reacted the same as I did?

She didn't move your child halfway down the aisle, she moved the stroller so she could get past the cart and stroller. No big deal, in my opinion.

And I don't think your response was necessary. People are too quick to jump down another person's throat nowadays.

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I always pushed my kids in the stroller and pulled a shopping cart behind me. I NEVER liked "wearing" my kids, to me that was both annoying and uncomfortable. The ONLY way to get food shopping done was for me to push/pull. Until reading this thread, I never knew that was something anyone would have an issue with. Weird.

In any case, I don't think it's the biggest deal that she moved the stroller however, I do think the courteous thing to do was to first say "excuse me". I ALWAYS say excuse me FIRST and if the person doesn't hear me after I say it one or two times then I have NO problem moving over their cart or stroller. I'm not going to sit there for ten minutes and wait until they notice they are blocking my path.

If I was the OP, I likely wouldn't have said anything more than "Sorry I was in your way", I'm not confrontational and IMO, what happened isn't a big enough deal to cause an issue with someone. She didn't send the stroller flying down the aisle, she just moved it over. Realistically, what harm was done??

ETA - I think in general people nowadays are too quick to get nasty and fly off the handle. There is so little consideration and tolerance of anyone or anything these days. Honestly, some people (not directed at anyone in particular, just in general) need to take a deep breath, relax, and not sweat the small stuff. Someone moving your stroller is small stuff.

Message edited 8/20/2015 10:20:32 AM.

Would you have reacted the same as I did?

http://www.toysrus.com/buy/shopping-cart-seats/summer-infant-cushy-shopping-cart-cover-with-infant-positioner-78290-30922786

this actually looks like a realllly cool idea! I've seen shopping cart covers, but not ones that are tailored for infants as well. I know this doesn't really answer your original question, lol, but maybe this will be easier than doing the "push and pull" method you're doing now

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If a mother is this upset / frantic over someone simply touching her stroller, she should leave the child home. It's ridiculous and a huge over reaction!! I've brought 2 babies under 2 food shopping with me and never had such a situation.

Message edited 8/20/2015 7:47:34 PM.

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Posted by MrsDrMatt

Posted by jam11308

Posted by Kris78

I don't see that it was a big deal either. Personally if I saw someone trying to pass I would have checked the stroller and made sure the person had room to pass. May be she figured since you saw her and the stroller that if you would have had problem with her moving it you would have done it yourself. Just a thought. I always just wore my LO at the supermarket, it helps avoid those kids of issues.

Posted by Porrruss

Perhaps instead of reacting with a snotty tone, you could have been the bigger person and just said, "oops, didn't realize I was in your way." It's entirely possible she didn't realize this was inappropriate. I know I wouldn't expect someone to react the way you did.






Frankly I think you did act like a b. It takes a lot less energy to be nice to others.

ITA with both of these posts. I would have just apologized for having been in her way & been done with it.

Would you have reacted the same as I did?

Wouldn't have bothered me. At least... Not anymore. The old me would have been annoyed


Here's a quick story - I was at the beach the other week with my 2 kids. I was just in a bit past my ankles and my other kid was just at the edge of the water. Some man, who was hanging with a group of people, saw my little one apprehensive of the water. I had been trying to get him to step in. He bent down to say something encouraging to him and within seconds, he scooped him up and was bringing him into the water, all the while saying jokey stuff. My kid looked horrified. I'm not sure how good the man's English was, but his beach goer friends must have caught my expression and told him to put my kid down. It all happened so fast and I was right there, taking my kid back.

I don't think people Always see the harm we see as parents. I'm sure someone picking up your kid is way more intrusive than moving a stroller, you know what I mean? Not trying to minimize
How you felt, but I think most
Would agree my situation was worse. But someone moving your stroller still probably got you all "mama bear". I can see feeling that way.

Like others said, in the future, I would stay with hand on stroller and have cart be secondary.

Message edited 8/20/2015 8:38:20 PM.

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You were blocking the aisle. I would have apologized to the woman, not make a remark.

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I just came back to this post and read what you actually said to the woman. I think that was totally uncalled for! You can justify it any way you want, but you were rude.
You took up the entire aisle, making it impossible for someone to pass by. You saw someone who was potentially trying to make her way down the aisle. You opted not to move either your stroller or your cart to allow her to pass. She moved your stroller up so she could get by. Then you were nasty to her on top of being inconsiderate and hogging the aisle.
I can't for the life of me understand how you could think you were in the right.

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I don't care why anyone would have a issue with me bringing my double
Stroller and pushing a cart

I move one or both of anyone needs to go by
I keep them
On the sides. Go every few days? Taking my kids to the store can be a horrifying experience lol

One big shop and boom
We are done

This isn't about someone pushing the cart anymore. I can't believe people have issues with a carriage and a cart

Would you have reacted the same as I did?

This lady clearly has issues. The normal and polite thing to do is to say excuse me, especially with a stroller! Is it a huge deal, but I think it's out of line and not OK to move someone's stroller. Plus, you can get killed for something like that (on the animal channel ;) )